Has something gone wrong with your manifesting? Are you not manifesting what you want?
It’s one of the most common questions I get about manifesting. And I totally understand why.
To sum it all up, you can’t break the Law of Attraction. It’s always working!
But you can mess things up for yourself by not doing the work.
Because the real truth about manifesting is that it’s not effortless.
You’ve got to be serious and actually make some big changes to your own mindset.
When people complain about their manifesting not working, the very first step is to look inwards.
I know that’s not as satisfying suggesting that you simply need to raise your vibe . But honestly the inner world is usually where the problem lies.
If you’re serious about manifesting successfully, it’s time to get serious and do necessary the work. So keep reading to get 8 tips on how to fix the problem.
8 Reasons Why You’re Not Manifesting What You Want
Why You’re Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #1:
You Don’t Really Want It
Are you chasing what I call “expired goals”? Those are the goals you’ve been talking about since you were twelve (or 19 or 33). Sometimes we say we still want something for ourselves but in reality, we’ve grown. We’ve changed and shifted and the truth is that your big goal isn’t what you really want anymore.
Many people give up on goals because it makes them feel like a failure. But the real failure would be continuing to chase something that doesn’t really light you up anymore. For real though–what is the point of that?
You have limited time and energy here on earth. And your natural state of growing as a human means that sometimes you need to shed the things that no longer serve you. Even if you haven’t achieved the goal, the goal served a purpose. It gave you a path. It fueled you with the necessary ambition to move forward. But sometimes you need to accept what’s happened and trade the goal in for something new.
And let’s face it: manifesting is never really about the goal! It’s about the growth and change you experience along the way.
Why You’re Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #2:
You Haven’t Explored Your Shadow
Every goal and intention also comes with a dark side. If you haven’t stopped to consider what yours might be, then you might be secretly sabotaging yourself on your journey.
Shadow work is extremely important for manifesting because if you can’t explore the darker parts of you and your desires, then you’re risking being controlled by them.
So you need to think carefully about the possible negative sides of your intention. Maybe you’re secretly afraid of becoming wealthy because you know your older siblings will ask you for money. Maybe you’re secretly afraid that if you find a wonderful relationship, your friends will become jealous and stop wanting to see you.
You’ll have heard the phrase: mo’ money, mo’ problems. But really it’s more like: mo’ money different problems. No situation is perfect. So would you rather have new problems or the same ones you currently have?
Why You’re Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #3:
We all self-sabotage sometimes. It’s when we say we want a healthy relationship but go for the bad semi-unemployed guy instead of the cute banker who actually cares about us. It’s when we say we want to lose weight but think nothing of regularly grabbing for the bag of Doritos.
Self-sabotage is a sign that you’re not in alignment: your thoughts, feelings, words and actions are all doing different things. So you can’t really blame the Universe for being confused here. You’re sending out very mixed signals.
So do you really want your intention? If you don’t, that’s cool but you have to understand that that’s why your manifesting experiment didn’t work.
And of course if you do really want it, then it’s time to start taking positive action. Have faith. Step into your dream. Start acting as if.
And poof! Watch your world change.
Why You’re Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #4:
You Don’t Feel Worthy
A lot of manifesting intentions seem very different on the surface. But when you look a little deeper you’ll see just how similar they actually are. Whether you’re asking for love or money, the basic root of the problem is always the same: worthiness.
It doesn’t matter how much you say you want something. If somewhere deep down inside you still feel like you don’t deserve it, then you’re setting yourself up for failure. Our expectations create our world. And if we’re secretly expecting someone to stand us up or look us over, then that’s exactly what’s going to happen.
Why You’re Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #5:
You’re Not Being Clear
I’m always rambling on about how important it is to be clear about your intentions. In other words, please stop wishing to “be rich” or to “find love”. Those are beautiful things (obviously!) but by some definitions, you’re already rich (and loved).
What do you really want? Get specific! If you can’t define it, it’s going to be difficult to create it. (How would you even know if you had it?)
If you’re looking for a romantic partner, get really clear about what qualities you want. Spend some time getting really specific (height, job, all that good stuff!) Then forget about your list and be open to see what happens for you.
If you’re looking to manifest money, decide on an actual dollar amount. And just remember that you can ask for more later. This isn’t your one and only shot.
Be specific but also careful to stay away from controlling where that money could come from. Many of us think that money can only come from our work. But that’s only one money channel. Money can arrive in all sorts of avenues and the more we try to control the full experience the fewer avenues become available to us. So give the magic some room to surprise you.
Why You’re Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #6:
You’re Avoiding Something
Another common problem I see with manifesting is what’s called the spiritual bypass. Life is a series of lessons. But it’s important to remember these lessons are happening for us, not to us.
You have to think of life like a video game sometimes. You need to unlock the lesson that’s in front of you before you can move onto the next level.
Many times we try to manifest our way out of problems so we don’t have to really confront them. But that’s just sticking your head in the sand. You’re avoiding the very thing you need to conquer the most. So when you try to manifest your way past something that you have so much fear and resistance around, it’s not going to work. All the positive vibes in the world can’t make up for the fact that you’re deeply AFRAID of the problem.
What you resist always persists! So if you truly want to move on with your life, it’s time to be brave and face up to that thing you’ve been trying so hard to ignore. #toughlove
Why You’re Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #7:
You’re Asking For The Impossible
The Universe can only do so much. There are some things in life that are just like gravity; it’s pointless to use your energy against them.
For example, say you’re pining for your high school boyfriend. But he’s happily married now with three kids. Trying to manifest that has all kinds of bad juju involved. It’s always difficult to try to change someone else’s will; never mind 3-5 other people.
Sometimes it’s hard to admit but the thing that we convince ourselves will make our life perfect isn’t the only answer. There are a million beautiful souls in the world. And there might be one that’s a lot better suited for you just waiting around the corner! But if you’re putting all of your energy into attracting that one (impossible) person you might miss out on noticing.
Why You’re Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #8:
The Universe is wise and it always has a plan. Sometimes we have to be patient or wait for a certain series of events to unfold before we can have what we want!
As smart as we are, we’re not all-knowing beings! You must also surrender yourself up to the Universe and trust in the fact that everything will happen in due time.
The biggest catch-22 of manifesting is learning how to let go and not be overly thirsty for what you want — while still maintaining your chill and keeping your vibe high. Concentrate on that, not on trying to force something that you might not actually be ready for yet.
I hope this post helps you figure out why you’re not manifesting what you want and puts you on the path towards your intentions. Nothing is impossible! If you’re clear about what you want and you’re willing to do the work, you can create the life of your dreams.
Thank you so much for reading! Good luck with it & I’ll see you back here next week.