Jenn Stevens | Spiritual Life + Business Coach
What’s YOUR relationship to time?
Most of us don’t even consider this. But your relationship to time is actually one of your biggest limiting beliefs. In today’s training, I’m talking about the importance of slowing down to speed up–or how radically shifting the way that we perceive time can result in more happiness, confidence and manifestation success!
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That’s because while our conscious brain wants one thing, our subconscious mind wants something else entirely.
This is how we end up focusing on the wrong things, making excuses and even pushing away the very thing we want! Only we can’t see how we’re actually the ones responsible.
Wondering if you are self-sabotaging your own manifestations? In today’s video, I’m sharing 8 signs of self-sabotage–so you can recognize them in your own world and start to overcome them to become truly happy!
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Hey there Conscious Creator! Does any of this sound familiar?
Here’s where most manifesting books, coaches, and programs get it wrong.
And yes, I do talk about those things too! However, I always encourage you to take the work deeper.
Please know that if you’re feeling stuck or like you can’t quite get what you want, it’s not a reflection of you.
It’s actually just a big red flag that there are deeper patterns happening in your own mind that you’re are likely unaware of.
But if you continue to ignore this stuff, it will continue to (secretly) trip you up and prevent you from getting what you really want.
The problem is that right now you are manifesting from your subconscious mind as well as your conscious mind.
While we all have our conscious desires that we are highly aware of, we also have unconscious desires: the desires of our subconscious mind.
That means that while one part of you is very much hoping to change, the other (larger) part of your mind very much doesn’t want to.
Your subconscious mind is hard-wired to protect you at all costs. And unfortunately, because of that program, it will hold onto old situations and patterns–even if they’re painful or unsatisfactory–just because it knows what to expect.
Your subconscious mind will always favor the familiar over the unknown.
Without doing the work to reprogram your entire mind to feel worthy of what you really want, you’re always going to run into blocks calling in your manifestations.
Here’s how I explain this: imagine having a car with one wheel turned in one direction and one wheel turned in the opposite direction. When you try to go in two directions at once, you will remain exactly where you are.
It’s impossible to make progress in either direction, as long as your will is divided and your subconscious mind feels it is not worthy of what you really want in life.
So if you’re in any way feeling stuck with manifesting or like you just can’t make progress towards what you want, then it’s time to fix it! It’s time to start creating awareness around your own subconscious programming so you can begin to heal it.
Your shadow, your worthiness (or havingness levels, as I also call it), your programmed limiting beliefs: these are the biggest subconscious mind elements that have an impact on your manifestations. Let’s have a look at each one:
Your shadow self is one of the biggest elements of your subconscious programming.
When I talk about the shadow, I’m referring to two different things.
1. Your Dark Desires
Humans are complicated creatures. While we have some very high-vibe desires, we’re also frequently motivated by factors that we’d rather not admit to ourselves.
For example, while your conscious mind is dreaming of wealth perhaps your subconscious mind is secretly enjoying the f*ck out of not having money!
It might very well love the drama and the attention and the constant rollercoaster dynamics of not knowing how to pay your own rent.
Most of us have a lot of shame around this–which means, we don’t even want to admit it to ourselves! But if we refuse to look at them, we can never heal and transmute those desires.
Or, in other words, as long as we pretend those dark desires don’t exist, they’re going to continue to rule over us.
2. Your Rejected Selves
You might be the most badass, confident, sexy creature right now. But were you always this way?
Most of us experienced some times during our childhood and youth where we were very much not the people we are today.
Maybe you were the overweight child or the acne-riddled teenager. Or maybe you had debilitating shyness (like me!) or some other issue that made you feel rejected, unlikable, and ashamed.
Those days might be long behind us. However, most of us “got over” those times by learning how to be something more acceptable.
However, that is just a coping mechanism. It typically means we’re still rejecting that version of use. On some level, we still agree with the shame we experienced back then–which is the complete opposite of full self-acceptance and real self-love.
Exploring your rejected selves can spark some huge lightbulb moments. This powerful work will always help you to become a more whole and integrated (and therefore powerfully magnetic) version of you.
It’s tough to believe at times but so many of the things we take “as fact” are actually, not factual at all!
These things are limiting beliefs: the beliefs we have about the world that limit and prevent us from actually having what we want in life.
They sound like reasonable factual ideas: “There’s no good single men in this town.” “No matter what I do I can’t lose weight.” etc.
What has really happened is that our brain has gone out and looked for proof of these fleeting ideas over and over again, to the point that we don’t even question them anymore.
But trust me, they’re not actually true and–even worse!–they are getting in the way of you manifesting your desires.
This problem becomes even more compounded when the beliefs are the result of what I call Small-T Trauma: the kind of childhood trauma we all experience that “teaches” us that we are unlovable or not worthy of getting our needs met.
The lessons we learn in those moments (like when a parent ignores your requests to play) are extremely deeply embedded. What was a passing moment in your past can result in you carrying around a story of: “My needs are not important” or “I am not worthy of attention.”
I just talked about limiting beliefs. While there are lots of types of limiting beliefs, multiple beliefs can work together to lower our self-worth and create an identity that ultimately settles for way less than we want (and deserve).
We all have some ingrained ideas of what we’re worthy of when it comes to love, money etc.
But the more deeply ingrained those ideas are, the more difficult it will be to shift them.
Taken to an extreme, when we identify these things as just part of who we are, we will fail to realize that we have power in this situation!
Basically, you have the power to learn how to become anything you want to be, no matter what your brain is telling you.
If we are someone who perpetually accepts low paying jobs or not-so-healthy relationship patterns, it’s time to think about our identity beliefs. Why do we continually accept these things into our life if we know they’re not what we really want?
Your self-talk is a huge giveaway here as well. If you have conscious (or unconscious) thoughts like “I’m such a loser.” “I’m a hot mess.” then you definitely have some subconscious identity issues to work on.
All of these elements can come together in various ways to form subconscious blocks.
But to put it simply, when your self-worth is too low, you will continually settle for less than what your conscious mind wants, without you even noticing it.
It will feel like you’re stuck in a neverending loop or pattern: changing jobs or relationships only to face the same issues, over and over again.
You might start to think “that’s just the way it is” or maybe even that you’re cursed or doomed to live a life that’s not what you really want.
But it’s really just your subconscious mind acting out its old unhealthy programming.
Starting now, you have a choice.
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We all have the power to reprogram our subconscious mind to raise our self-worth and increase our havingness levels (aka receiving more money, love, success, health, etc.)
This process isn’t just going to happen without you taking control.
(You can’t read a book about going to the gym and expect to lose weight!)
Your subconscious mind will be more than happy to keep doing what it’s always done. But you do have the power to change that! With a little time and effort, you can begin the process of healing.
So now the question becomes how exactly do I reprogram my subconscious mind to receive what I want to manifest?
Fortunately, there are lots of ways to do this!
The important thing to remember is that your subconscious mind was programmed over time. So it usually takes time for us to fully integrate the new ideas we need to help us manifest.
Here are a few examples:
NLP (and/or) hypnosis is one of the most powerful methods. (I am soon releasing my new hypnosis package so stay tuned!)
Hypnosis meditations and subliminals are a way to do this at home. (I’m also offering a brand new monthly program with more of these very soon!)
EFT (or tapping) is another method.
Plus, there’s also journaling: a practice that I personally use daily, in conjunction with the other tools to help me rewire my subconscious mind for what I want.
Remember my dear friend, you are not cursed. You are not broken. And you are definitely not the exception to the manifesting rule! You are perfectly capable and deserving of manifesting your desires. You just need to understand the way in which your brain works first and then start doing the work to heal and reprogram what you think is possible.
PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about program your subconscious mind to manifest or this one about beginner’s guide to subconscious reprogramming tools.
Are YOUR beliefs stopping you from manifesting? Many of our beliefs are actually LIMITING beliefs–meaning they get in the way of us creating the results that we want in our life. Find out what the three beliefs to look out for are so you can get back to manifesting success!
In this video: Manifestation Journaling
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Not quite manifesting what you want? Perhaps you’re experiencing a manifestation block!
When it comes to the Law of Attraction and creating your dream life, being blocked is a super common problem.
(Unless you happen to be around me of course! ???? )
Instead, you’ll just keep experiencing the same lack of results. You’ll really want something but become super disappointed that you don’t have it yet. And sooner or later, it’s hard to not take things personally.
That means you might start wondering if something is wrong with you specifically. Or you might think that this whole Law of Attraction thing isn’t even real at all.
But please don’t give up before your manifestation comes true!
Yes, quite often we do experience blocks on the road to creating the life we want. But this is a normal part of the process. Your blocks aren’t a punishment. Nor do they mean anything is wrong with you.
Life isn’t happening to you. It’s happening for you.
Your blocks are simply an area for you to heal and grow. Once you can raise your worth in that area and reprogram your mind to attract what you want, that’s when you’ll break through and finally call in your desires.
But in order to do all that, you first have to realize that you’re blocked. Awareness is the first key to healing always. We need to learn the lesson, feel the emotion and then do the healing.
So yes, this is work — but it’s actually the best work of all: essential soul work that is making you stronger and ultimately taking you closer to becoming your Future Bad-Ass Self.
In order to help answer the question of whether or not you’re blocked from manifesting, check out these ten common symptoms–as well the advice on how to get unblocked again!
Are you stuck in a rut? Perhaps you keep dating people only for it to end for the exact same reasons. (Ugh!) Or maybe you quit one job only to trade it for another that ends up with you feeling just as overlooked and undervalued as the first one did.
While we say we want something new, often our subconscious brain did not get the memo! So while you might be looking for a conscious relationship or a workplace that respects you, your subconscious mind might be looking for something entirely different! If this is happening to you, it’s a good sign that something from your past is preventing you from creating your dream future.
Our subconscious mind rules our reaction state. So unexplained overreactions are a strong indication that there’s some healing work we need to do in a certain area.
If you find yourself suddenly blowing up or crying “for no reason”, then it’s time to do some inner work. What about this experience is reminding you of something in your past? What was your earliest memory of feeling this way?
Trauma-related experiences in our past can create very big limiting beliefs that ultimately block us from manifesting what we want! But these things can also be healed. If this is you, it’s time to get curious and begin the healing journey so you can become unblocked.
We’ve all experienced the green eyed jealousy monster at some point! But did you know that your jealousy can be a tool to help you figure out what’s missing in your world?
The more sudden and intense jealousy is the bigger the clue. Get curious and look within to figure out wha actually triggered you. Sometimes our desires can catch us by surprise. Our society has a rather messed up relationship to desire which means we might find ourselves very much in denial of our own desires from time to time.
In any case, know that your jealousy is actually a gift. It’s never about the other person or situation. It’s about understanding some of your own desires–and once you see and acknowledge them, you can now set about the incredibly important business of giving yourself those very things.
You get really excited about manifesting. So you throw yourself into doing alllll the things.
But that excitement doesn’t last. So you lose your momentum and fall right back into your old patterns. Until a few weeks later, when you find yourself getting fed up with your life and excited about manifesting once more. Only to wash, rinse, repeat. Ad nauseam.
This symptom is really a sign that you don’t believe either in manifestation or yourself. It’s about you giving into your inner voices of fear and self-doubt–even though they always bring you back to the exact spot you don’t want to be (ie. where you are right now!).
To get through this one, you have to truly decide to go all in on your dreams. You have to learn how to keep going despite the fear and self-doubt–and most importantly, you have to keep going even when you don’t have any evidence that it’s working yet.
If you keep waiting for the results before you believe, you’ll be waiting forever! So to get unblocked it’s time to start believing.
One of the biggest blocks on the manifestation road is our own identity. By now, you’ve accumulated a lifetime’s worth of ideas about who you are. Yet not all of those ideas are helpful to creating the life of your dreams.
Essentially, manifestation is about identity shifting. It’s about becoming a slightly enhanced version of ourselves. But actually becoming that person also requires us to let go of who we are right now–and that’s something your ego mind will always fight you on.
To your subconscious mind, the most important thing in the world is keeping you safe. But it thinks safeguarding your identity is part of that.
In order to get past this one, you have to start believing in who you want to be more than in who you are. But while your brain might kick up a protest at first, this one isn’t so hard! Just keep coming back to your own potential instead of your past.
Confusion is a good way for us to hide away from our own power. And honestly? It’s really just fear in disguise.
It’s 100% okay for you to not know how to do something. In fact, if you’ve never done something before then of course that will be the case.
For one thing, telling yourself that you’re waiting to feel “ready” is a common excuse. But ready doesn’t really exist. All the thinking and planning your brain wants to do doesn’t add up to real life experience. There’s a very big difference between reading a book about driving a car and actually driving one yourself!
Second, this can be another sign of learned helplessness. For example, I’ve heard so many people say “I’m just not good with money” thinking that was a great “reason” for their money problems.
But money–just like love, health, success and anything else in life–is something you can learn about. That means it’s fine to not know everything right now. But if you really want to change your situation, it’s also up to you to start learning what you need to in order to change it.
The life you have now is the result of your old thoughts, beliefs and actions. So if you want something different, you need to change yourself first.
But just in case you don’t believe me:
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Albert Einstein
Ultimately, not changing yourself is a sign that you don’t really believe in your ability to attract something new into your life. It’s a sign that you’re giving into fear and self-doubt. So you’re staying cozy and safe by doing the same things you’ve always done–and ultimately living the same life you’ve always had.
Getting past this block is about truly going all in on what you want! If you’re truly ready for a change, you’ll have to do the work to get there. So what can you start to change right now? Start with your beliefs and your childhood and see where that takes you.
This manifestation block is tricky indeed! But if you’re feeling uninspired by life and you can’t even figure out what you want to manifest, this one might be you.
Again, it stems from low self-worth. If for most of your life that you’ve believed that you can’t really have the things that you want in life, you might try to “save” yourself from the disappointment of not achieving them by not even letting yourself admit those things in the first place.
But your desires are not optional! In fact, they’re sacred. They’re part of what you’re here to experience. They’re part of your soul purpose. So of course if you learn to deny this important part of yourself, you’re going to end up feeling disconnected and uninspired.
It’s simply time to start listening to yourself my friend! But the more you tune into that part of you, the more authentic and powerful you will become.
If your manifestation intention revolves around winning the lotto, meeting your “Prince Charming” or having someone bail you out in any way, then it’s a sign to pause and figure out why.
Unfortunately, learned helplessness is a real thing! Many of us don’t really believe in our own potential. So we try to manifest other people taking care of things because we don’t trust that we can do that ourselves.
But with manifestation, leaving room for the magic is an important concept! That means not micromanaging how things show up for you. Or in other words, putting your focus only on someone or something fixing your problems is not giving the Universe a lot to work with.
To shift this, start to get clear about why you don’t think you can manifest things for yourself. Get creative and start thinking outside of the box. Ask yourself questions like: “If I had to fix this, what would I do?”
Again, ultimately our “problems” are actually just our biggest opportunities for growth. It’s almost impossible to manifest something that you’re also running away from. So it’s time for you to step into your self-worth and do the healing you really need to change things.
The ultimate sign of a manifestation block? You’re not making any progress!
Sometimes a lack of progress is because we’ve bitten off more than we can magnetize in a single bite. If you picked a giant manifestation goal, then perhaps it’s just time to change your focus to a smaller more-manageable goal. (For example, if you’ve been trying to manifest one million dollars for the past three years, change your number and start smaller!)
But if you’re trying to manifest something reasonable (like your first extra $1000) and still coming up short, then something is definitely amiss. So it’s time to be honest: What beliefs do you really have about your goal? What actions are you taking? And what are you really telling yourself about why it’s not working? (
There’s always something you can do to become unblocked. But that means getting curious with yourself and actually doing the work to heal and reprogram your subconscious mind.
Because once your mind is onboard, then your actions will change and that’s exactly when you become magnetic to what you want.
No matter how your manifesting blocks are showing themselves, I just want you to know that there’s always something you can do to heal, reprogram and change things. Don’t give up on yourself! Manifesting works as well as you do. So going all in on your dreams will be the best gift you can ever give yourself.
PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about how to be more positive or this one about 6 mind management tools.
Dreaming is SO important for manifesting and creating an amazing life. Everything starts as just an idea in our minds. But for some of us, those dreams can seem very real–and that creates another problem. Today’s video is about something I personally have experienced and today I’m sharing my thoughts so you can avoid falling into the same manifesting mistake!
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