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Jenn Stevens | Spiritual Life + Business Coach

3 Things You Need To Heal To Manifest Love

by: Jenn

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Are you ready to manifest love? Not so fast! Our romantic relationships are so important yet most of us don’t bother to heal our inner self to get ready for our next one. That means: we end up manifesting more of the stuff we don’t want instead of the stuff we do.

If you’re ready to get off the love rollercoaster with your dream partner, it’s crucial to do this healing work! Today I’m sharing the three areas you need to start working on now to shift your energy around love for once and for all!







Thank you so much for watching!

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Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates: The TRUTH About Love & Romance

by: Jenn

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Today’s unpopular spiritual opinion: there’s no such thing as a Twin Flame.

I know it’s super trendy right now in the spiritual world to talk about your Twin Flame. But 99% of the time I see people using the term “Twin Flame” to justify some very un-spiritual BS.

For example:

  • Perpetually returning to your ex (even though you can never seem to make it work)
  • Justifying bad (or even abusive) behavior
    • Waiting around for some person to notice you or pay more attention to you
    • Trying to turn a single date/one-night-stand into something more when the other person doesn’t seem interested “because you had a great connection”
    • Chasing someone after they ghosted you…etc. etc.



    If any of those scenarios sound familiar, then it’s a giant sign that you have some inner work to do. Your ideal romantic relationship won’t magically happen with a person who is treating you badly.

    The bigger question is why would you want to settle for that type of behavior? After all, you are the Conscious Creator of your life. YOU get to decide who gets access to your mental, emotional and physical space.

    Buying into this idea is incredibly limiting and bad for your self-esteem. It’s just a spiritual way of talking about the old idea of The One–an outdated idea that we would all do well to leave in the past.

    I know this isn’t a popular opinion. And some of you might click away before reading this right now!

    But if there’s just one of you out there that I can save from the Negative Emotional Rollercoaster that is a toxic relationship that you’re calling a Twin Flame, then this will have been worth it.

    So without further ado, let’s learn more about Twin Flames, Soulmates, and all the reasons you should throw this idea in the spiritual dust bin for once and for all.


    What Is A Twin Flame?


    The definition of a Twin Flame is that there is one soul separated into two physical bodies. It’s like spiritual twin-dom!

    Finding that one person who understands you completely is the romantic goal we’ve all been sold, but it really only feels good when that other person is around and invested! Otherwise, it feels pretty terrible to buy into this idea. (And this is the very definition of leaving your happiness in someone eles’s hands.)


    What Is A Soulmate?


    The definition of a soulmate is basically anyone who you’ve encountered through a previous incarnation. We all have a “spiritual family” so to speak: meaning, we cycle through each incarnation interacting with the same souls in different human forms.

    That could mean your mom in this lifetime was your husband in the last etc.

    These people are around you to help you work through your karmic (soul) lessons. They’re here (in part) to mirror you and test you.

    (Remember, we’re here to experience life, to solve problems, and to grow–not just to have everything be rainbows and unicorns 24/7.)

    The soulmate relationship is not always romantic. In fact, most of the time it isn’t. But the good news is you’ll find your soulmates everywhere: in your classroom, in your family home, in line for the bathroom in the club (lol!????). So please don’t ever feel that you’re doomed to loneliness while you go out and look for them or wait for them to find you.

    These people are an important part of your journey, whether they’re in your life for a long time or just a short moment. But you don’t have to search them out, as they’re already all around you.


    Why I Don’t Believe In Twin Flames


    Twin Flames: The Spiritual Perspective



    Twin Flames Don’t Exist In Non-Duality


    My spiritual beliefs can be boiled down to a non-dualistic perspective. That means I believe that we’re all source consciousness. You’ve cycled through actually being every person who’s alive now and everyone to ever exist (plus animals, plants etc.)

    From this perspective, everyone is a soulmate–and twin flames can’t exist. There is no singular perfect other half of your soul because you are everyone and everything. Part of your soul is split up but this one person is not the only other person who has it.


    The Twin Flame Concept Creates Scarcity Not Abundance


    I’m also always talking about the importance of choosing abundance over scarcity, only always. I equate abundance with love and scarcity with fear and lack. And every spiritual truth goes back to love and only love (as fear is something we create in our minds).

    So think about it: if you’re absolutely convinced that this one person (and only this one person) can fulfill you, then how is that going to shape your world if they’re either (a) not in it or (b) treating you terribly?

    Most people I see using the words Twin Flames to justify their situation are actually just living in fear and lack mentality. If they knew there were other ideal matches out there, why would they waste so much time and mental anguish trying to make a square peg fit?

    I will always challenge my students and clients to find the most loving perspective from which to create their reality. And most of the time, Twin Flames do not fit what’s really best for us.


    It Can Make You Manifest The Wrong Things


    I still get soooo many comments from people who just want to manifest this one specific person. Again, sometimes these people are absolutely convinced that the dude that just ghosted them (and is dating someone else) or the person who completely ignores them in public is their Twin Flame.

    Let’s get clear about two things:


    1. Manifestation can be manipulative AF.

    Trying to get someone to fall in love with you is fundamentally not respecting that person’s boundaries. Using magick or manifestation doesn’t absolve you from having a conscience. (Ahem! I see you girls trying to manifest becoming a billionaire. ????)



    2. We’re writing our own stories.

    What happens if you say “Hey Universe! I love this! I want more of this!” and the This that you’re talking about isn’t actually isn’t that great? Why amplify the vibes of something that isn’t meeting your standards? You’re never going to change them to be exactly who you want them to be, no matter how hard you try. But you can call more of them (or people of their ilk) into your life. Be real about whether or not that’s a good thing.




    Twin Flames: The Life Coach Perspective



    Twin Flames Perpetuate Low Self-Worth


    I see a lot of beautiful, smart, funny amazing women settling for peanuts in the relationship world and buying into a concept like Twin Flame only further enables this self-destructive behavior.

    Anxious, grasp-y, Choose Me energy is not a sign that you’re in your power! In fact, it’s giving all your happiness away to this other person.

    If things are going well, that might sound pretty good! But we never get to control anyone. Sometimes people just grow apart or figure out that they’re not as great a match as they previously believed.

    But if you’ve put all your hopes of happiness on this one person and they leave, then you are dooming yourself to feeling unhappy and unfulfilled forever.

    However, if you truly believed you were an amazing person, this one specific romantic relationship is longer the only barometer of your happiness. It’s simply a Nice To Have–an accessory for an already amazing life. And if the relationship at some point becomes no longer Nice To Have, then you can get yourself back out there and find one of the other (many!) amazing matches who are looking for someone just like you.

    Knowing your worth and always believing in the possibility of more is true abundance mentality when it comes to love–not chasing, settling, or manipulating.


    Twin Flames Are Actually Trama Bonding


    We’ve all had that magical instant romantic sensation: that feeling of knowing someone you just met way better than you actually do. “This feels so familiar! It must be meant to be.”

    It’s not that I don’t believe in magic coincidences. I definitely do, especially when it comes to love!

    But unfortunately, most of the time that Love At First Sight phenomenon is actually just Trauma Bonding.

    Trauma bonding happens when there’s something about this person that reminds you (on a deep hidden psychological level) of something you experienced in the past. This is uncomfortable to admit but true: most of us seek something in our partners that echoes something about our parents or primary caregivers.

    For example, think of the typical “Daddy Issues” (which are super common, and nothing to be ashamed of BTW!).

    Say a girl grows up with a father who’s a bit emotionally distant. Her attempts to feel securely loved as a child failed. But now she’s a grown-up and here comes a potential partner that also feels emotionally distant. Instead of becoming the big red flag it should be, it feels like home: because that’s what she experienced at home.

    But her subconscious brain is convinced that this time will be different. If I just try harder, lose some weight, become the perfect partner, then this person will love me in the way I’ve always wanted to be loved.

    But unfortunately, it rarely works out.

    (There are similar dynamics at play for the men too FYI! But I’ll speak more about that another time.)

    When we experience that familiarity, it’s so tempting to call it something like Twin Flame. But using that term will just typically blind you to the reality of the situation–which is not being treated well or settling for way less than what you want and deserve.


    Twin Flames Are An Immature And Unrealistic Romantic Perspective


    We still live in a society that tells us we need to be in a relationship to be a happy and successful adult. Many people would rather be in the wrong relationship rather than be single! The concept of the Twin Flame just further exacerbates this idea. When we truly believe that one person will just magically understand us and we’ll never feel lonely again, we’re setting ourselves up for a world of disappointment.

    We’re sold the idea that being a relationship or marriage is a guarantee that we’ll never feel lonely or misunderstood again. But take a casual poll of the married people and ask them if that’s actually true. As a former married person, I can assure you it’s not. Relationships are work. They’re actually our biggest spiritual assignments: meaning we’ll get handed all the stuff about ourselves that we’d rather not look at.

    The concept of Twin Flame downplays that whole idea. If your relationship should be just magically perfect, the brunt of the work falls on your partner (rather than on you). It also feeds into unhealthy ideas that you shouldn’t have to communicate your needs and boundaries and that the right partner should just magically anticipate all of that.

    Entering into a romance with those ideas is extremely childish and difficult for the other partner involved! Again, it goes to show that this idea is limiting as it gives all your power away.

    So what if instead of trying to find that one person who just magically get you without you doing any work you put your time and energy into figuring out how to communicate what you really want and need instead? As a bonus, learning this essential life skill will improve all of your relationships, not just your romantic ones.




    I hope this post today didn’t rain too much on your parade! Here’s the big takeaway: you are worthy and powerful, all on your own. You get to create the life you want in every moment–including the love you really want. When it’s truly right, you definitely won’t have to second-guess or force it to happen.



    Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life




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Is Someone Using The Law of Attraction On Me? 5 Signs That Someone is Manifesting You

by: Jenn

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I know so many of you want to know how to use the Law of Attraction on someone specific. But did you ever think about the opposite side of this equation?

“How do you know if someone is using the Law of Attraction on me?”

Maybe someone just pops into your mind more than normal. Perhaps you keep crossing paths. Or perhaps you just want to know if the person who you like, likes you back!

Whether you’re just curious or have your own intentions about the situation, wondering if someone is manifesting you is only natural at times!

And while at first this might seem like Mission Impossible, there are actually ways to tell if this is happening!

First off, let’s get this clear: no one can actually control you, make you fall in love with them, make you do things that you don’t really want to do.

The important thing to know here is that energy can play telephone between two people. Have you ever thought about someone you haven’t seen in awhile only to have them suddenly text you out of the blue? That’s not just a coincidence! Basically, you were sending them an energetic ping across time and space. They became inspired to reach out because they suddenly thought of you–but in reality, you thought of them first. It just took a little time for your energetic message to be received.

This phenomenon isn’t really manifesting at all. It’s just energy at play, doing what it always does. However, if you’re curious if someone is manifesting you (whether that’s an ex, a crush or even someone you’ve never met IRL) then these signals and signs will be the best way to figure it out.


Is Someone Using The Law of Attraction On Me? 5 Signs That Someone is Manifesting You


Someone Is Manifesting You Sign #1:

They Suddenly Pop Into Your Mind


We are all energetic beings and we are actually a lot more tied into each other than we’ve been taught! But one of the ways this can manifest is through our thoughts. If someone is thinking about you a lot (like they would be if they were trying to manifest you!) you might find that that person suddenly “pops” into your mind out of nowhere.

This is a lot different than obsessing about someone yourself! It will feel more like a picture or something just randomly appeared in your mind–as if the Universe itself was trying to tell you something. (And it is!)

What’s really happening is that they’re just tuning into your frequency–and in turn, you are becoming aware of it. Please know that for most people this process is completely unintentional so it’s not like someone is trying to get into your mind.

However, if you’re curious if someone is trying to manifest you and you experience this phenomenon, you might just be right.


Someone Is Manifesting You Sign #2:

You Have Dreams About Them


Our dream state is another time where we are extremely open to the energy of the rest of the world. Essentially, we’re momentarily freed from our human state and we’re able to have spiritual experiences that most of us are not open to during our normal “muggle” time.

However, don’t get too excited about this one just yet! For example, if you just broke up with someone and you’re really wanting them back and you’re thinking about them a lot (especially right before bed time!) then no your dream doesn’t mean that they’re thinking about you. That’s just your brain doing some normal healthy processing.

But if you suddenly randomly dream about someone and there’s no big emotional charge around it, then yes, that could definitely be a sign that they were in fact thinking a lot about you.


Someone Is Manifesting You Sign #3:

They Suddenly Hear Them/Smell Them Etc.


One day you’re walking down the street and you suddenly hear a familiar voice. But when you turn around, you realize it was all just in your mind.

Most people think of psychic powers as being able to see or know things. But in reality, there are a few different ways to feel energy and experience a psychic connection.

One of those senses is clairaudience: being able to hear things that aren’t physically present. Perhaps you hear their voice or suddenly a song that reminds you of them pops into your mind.

Another is clairalience or the ability to smell something that’s not actually physically there. Perhaps you’re catching wafts of their signature scent?

Finally, there’s clairvoyance. Traditionally, this happens when you see a past or present vision of someone in your mind. But if you keep thinking you see someone while you’re out in public who turns out not to be them, that person might very well be thinking about you.

Again, just be honest with yourself here about where these sensations are truly coming from!


Someone Is Manifesting You Sign #4:

You Keep Running Into Them


Perhaps you know your friend from your neighborhood. But you find yourself out and about one day in an entirely different part of town and BOOM! There they are right in front of you.

Or maybe you randomly got seated near each other at a concert. Or perhaps you even find yourself randomly at the same (unusual) cafe at the same time.

When two people are tapping into the same energy, don’t be surprised to end up at the same place at the same time. This is a little bit of energetic alignment and a splash of help from the Universe.

But again, don’t get it twisted! This definitely doesn’t count if you’re repeatedly swinging by the bar where your crush works.


Someone Is Manifesting You Sign #5:

Your Mood Suddenly Shifts


Sudden emotional changes out of nowhere might not just be random events! Again, this might be a sign that someone is tuning into you energetically and that you are also “feeling” them. This is especially common for empaths and intuitive people. We pick up on other people’s energy when they’re around us and this can also happen “at a distance”.

If that person associates you with good thoughts (and let’s face it, if they’re trying to manifest you then this is probably the case!) then your sudden good mood might be the result of you picking up on those feelings yourself.

Knowing if this is what’s really going on for you requires self-honesty (like with all the other signs). Our mood can also be shifted by what you’re reading, listening to, the weather–all kinds of things! Be honest and eliminate other potential causes of your good mood first.




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So tell me: is someone manifesting you? Which signs are you experiencing?




In reality, we’re all energetic beings who are manifesting at all times! So when someone is thinking about you a lot, they’re manifesting you without even realizing it. So when you receive a sign, hold it in your heart but remember that you are still the one in control of your own world. After you receive the message, it’s now up to you to go and act on it.



Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life



PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about manifest a specific person or this one about 7 signs of manifestation.




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Manifesting A Specific Person: 3 Signs To Stop

by: Jenn

Manifesting A Specific Person: 3 Signs To Stop

Are you trying to manifest a specific person? Before you put a lot of time and energy into it, I want you to think about whether it’s REALLY the right choice for you. There are THREE warning signs that you should stop & in this video I’m explaining what they are. (An essential for anyone trying to manifest love!)








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Rewriting Your Story To Improve Any Relationship

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Rewriting Your Story To Improve Any Relationship

Are you struggling with a relationship in your life? Relationships are some of the most powerful forces in our world so when something isn’t going well it can be incredibly stressful. But please don’t think you have to wait for someone else to do something in order for you to feel better! Here’s how you can start transforming any relationship in your life, simply by rewriting your side of the story.







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Attract Love! 3 Steps To A Love Mindset

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Attract Love! 3 Steps To A Love Mindset

Are YOU looking for love? Whether it’s Valentine’s Day or not, love is one of the topics I get asked about the most! And the good news is YES–there’s a lot you can do (even while you’re single) to get yourself in the vibe of love and therefore attract more of it to you! So today I’m sharing 3 steps to a LOVE mindset to help you attract in your next big love!







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And now for a quick message from your Higher Self: And now for a quick message from your Higher Self:Love yourself enough to LET IT GOBreathe deep & have a happy Sunday my beautiful babes!
You are magic itself.And your desires have meani You are magic itself.And your desires have meaning for the WORLD.So if you really KNEW that you were here to feel happy and do the things that bring you joy, what would you be doing differently?If you’re like me, it’s too easy to forget our true divine nature.It’s too easy to believe our worries and limitations more than we trust ourselves and this beautiful journey.But if you could trust your magic for just a moment, what would change?If you knew your dreams where a matter of WHEN not if, how would this moment be different?All the magic you ever needed is IN you already. All you need to do right now is TUNE into it!
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with love + miracles ✨
~ Jenn
Identity shifting is KEY to manifesting.Because Identity shifting is KEY to manifesting.Because you ALWAYS manifest from your subconscious mind.Meaning you WILL play out old programs and ideas over and over again.Until YOU decide enough's enough! And do the work to REPROGRAM your mind to reflect what it you want and who you need to be.But sometimes, this work doesn't FEEL like it's doing anything.Those little tiny shifts on the inside are close to invisible--which might even make you doubt that it's happening at all.But trust me gorgeous, it IS.Keep taking tiny steps forward.Keep doubling down on who you WANT to be.TRUST the process and understandThat little by little, bit by bitIt all adds upUntil one day you look around and realize: I'm already there.
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with love + miracles ✨
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What would it be like to TRULY be enough for yours What would it be like to TRULY be enough for yourself?💜To not CRAVE that outside approval or validation?To forget about other people's opinions or what they say behind your back?To not motivate yourself to move TOWARDS something only because you cannot stand where you are?This just goes to show that as much as we all LOATHE to admit it, so much of what we do is based off of artificially leveraging ourselves UP.If so-and-so would only say "good job"If that person would LOVE meIf I finally did [ insert arbitrary goal here ]THEN I could finally feel good and actually TRULY love myself.Sometimes we all get our wires crossed on this at times. (Myself included!)We focus on the future fantasy that our issues will MAGICALLY disappear once X/Y/Z happens.And we chase the things outside of us, forgetting that the ONLY place our true happiness lies is within ourselves.I'm here to warn you:You could run the whole race of life and NOT get what you think you need from other people.You could meet milestone after milestone and still NEVER feel like you measure up. 😩ORYou could start being enough, right here, right now.Enough = you as you are, flaws, mistakes and all.Enough = you without anyone else.Enough = you.💗Happy Thursday Conscious Creator friends!
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It's a FACT of life: you're simply NOT going to fe It's a FACT of life: you're simply NOT going to feel good all the time.And that's okay!Not gonna lie: the last month or so has been rough for me.The darkness of winter + strict lockdowns/limited holiday celebrations were TOUGH.I've definitely had my moments of letting it all get to me.But that doesn't mean anything has gone wrong.It doesn't mean that I'm somehow failing.And it definitely does NOT mean I'm putting more space between me and my manifestation goals.Even with the BEST of intentions, life is 50/50. Expecting perfection at any time will ONLY set you up for disappointment.Feeling frustrated, down, exhausted: those are all normal feelings for anyone experiencing a pandemic (plus general winter blues/ political chaos etc.)So while I don't want to create MORE of those feelings, I'm also not going to judge myself for having them.Making your feelings WRONG does not speed you up back into feeling better. It only creates self-loathing and resistance.Are you feeling the same? Here are a few things that are helping me right now:- Just letting myself cry if I feel like it (Sometimes 10 minutes of a good cry is a sufficient release!)
- Concentrating on pandemic-lockdown friendly goals that I CAN achieve (Doing pilates every day, meditation + Manifestation Journaling)
- Taking a break from drinking (I only drank about once a week anyway! But why not try going without it for a month?)
- Doing more behind-the-scenes entrepreneur stuff (The kinds of things that are so easy to put off for "someday")
- Using my SAD lamp every morning! (I only just got it but I swear it's helping)
- NOT judging myself too harshly if I suddenly don't feel up to doing the work I had planned or posting as much I "should" (Being an entrepreneur brings an EXTRA level of potential self-judgment that's hard to get out of at times.)This is all just a great example of one of the most important lessons of LIFE.You don't get to choose all your circumstances. But you DO get to choose what you do WITH them.What are you choosing to create right now? Whether you're in lockdown or not, I'd love to hear it!

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