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8 Reasons Why You’re Not Manifesting What You Want

by: Jenn

8 Reasons Why You're Not Manifesting What You Want

Has something gone wrong with your manifesting? Are you not manifesting what you want?

It’s one of the most common questions I get about manifesting! And I totally understand why.

To sum it all up, you can’t break the Law of Attraction. It’s always working!

But you can mess things up for yourself by not doing the work.


Because the real truth about manifesting is that it’s not effortless!



You’ve got to be serious and actually make some big changes to your own mindset.

So when people complain about their manifesting not working, the very first step is to look inwards.

I know that’s not as satisfying suggesting that you simply need to raise your vibe but honestly that’s usually where the problem lies.

So if you really want to call in your intention, it’s time to get serious and do necessary the work! So keep reading to get 8 tips on how to fix the problem.


8 Reasons Why You’re Not Manifesting What You Want


Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #1:

You Don’t Really Want It



Are you chasing what I call “expired goals”? Those are the goals you’ve been talking about since you were twelve (or 19 or 33). Sometimes we say we still want something for ourselves but in reality, we’ve grown. We’ve changed and shifted and the truth is that your big goal isn’t what you really want anymore.

A lot of people have a problem giving up on goals because it makes them feel like a failure. But the real failure would be continuing to chase something that doesn’t really light you up anymore! For real though–what is the point of that? You have limited time and energy here on earth. And your natural state of growing as a human means that sometimes you need to shed the things that no longer serve you. Even if you haven’t achieved the goal, the goal served a purpose. It gave you a path. It fueled you with the necessary ambition to move forward. But sometimes you need to accept what’s happened and trade the goal in for something new.

And let’s face it: manifesting is never really about the goal! It’s about the growth and change you experience along the way.

8 Reasons Why You're Not Really Manifesting What You Want


Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #2:

You Haven’t Explored Your Shadow



Every goal and intention also comes with a dark side. So if you haven’t stopped to consider what yours might be, then you might be secretly sabotaging yourself on your journey.

Shadow work is extremely important for manifesting because if you can’t explore the darker parts of you and your desires, then you’re risking being controlled by them!

So you need to think carefully about the possible negative sides of your intention. Maybe you’re secretly afraid of becoming wealthy because you know your older siblings will ask you for money. Maybe you’re secretly afraid that if you find a wonderful relationship, your friends will become jealous and stop wanting to see you.

You’ll have heard the phrase: mo’ money, mo’ problems! But really it’s more like: mo’ money different problems. No situation is perfect! So would you rather have new problems or the same ones you currently have?


Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #3:

You’re Self-Sabotaging



We all self-sabotage sometimes. It’s when we say we want a healthy relationship but go for the bad semi-unemployed guy instead of the cute banker who actually cares about us. It’s when we say we want to lose weight but think nothing of regularly grabbing for the bag of Doritos.

Self-sabotage is a sign that you’re not in alignment: your thoughts, feelings, words and actions are all doing different things! So you can’t really blame the Universe for being confused here! You’re sending out very mixed signals.

So do you really want your intention? If you don’t, that’s cool but you have to understand that that’s why your manifesting experiment didn’t work!

And of course if you do really want it, then it’s time to start taking positive action. Have faith. Step into your dream. Start acting as if.

And poof! Watch your world change.

8 Reasons Why You're Not Really Manifesting What You Want


Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #4:

You Don’t Feel Worthy



A lot of manifesting intentions seem very different on the surface. But when you look a little deeper you’ll see just how similar they actually are! Whether you’re asking for love or money, the basic root of the problem is always the same: worthiness.

It doesn’t matter how much you say you want something. If somewhere deep down inside you still feel like you don’t deserve it, then you’re setting yourself up for failure. Our expectations create our world! And if we’re secretly expecting someone to stand us up or look us over, then that’s exactly what’s going to happen.


Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #5:

You’re Not Being Clear



I’m always rambling on about how important it is to be clear about your intentions!In other words, please stop wishing to “be rich” or to “find love”! Those are beautiful things (obviously!) but by some definitions, you’re already rich (and loved!).

So what do you really want? Get specific! If you can’t define it, it’s going to be difficult to create it! (How would you even know if you had it?)

If you’re looking for a romantic partner, get really clear about what qualities you want. Spend some time getting really specific (height, job, all that good stuff!) Then forget about your list and be open to see what happens for you.

If you’re looking to manifest money, decide on an actual dollar amount. And just remember that you can ask for more later! This isn’t your one and only shot.

Be specific but also careful to stay away from controlling where that money could come from. Many of us think that money can only come from our work. But that’s only one money channel! Money can arrive in all sorts of avenues and the more we try to control the full experience the fewer avenues become available to us. So give the magic some room to surprise you!

8 Reasons Why You're Not Really Manifesting What You Want


Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #6:

You’re Avoiding Something



Another common problem I see with manifesting is what’s called the spiritual bypass. Life is a series of lessons. But it’s important to remember these lessons are happening for us, not to us!

You have to think of life like a video game sometimes! You need to unlock the lesson that’s in front of you before you can move onto the next level.

Many times we try to manifest our way out of problems so we don’t have to really confront them. But that’s just sticking your head in the sand! You’re avoiding the very thing you need to conquer the most! So when you try to manifest your way past something that you have so much fear and resistance around, it’s not going to work. All the positive vibes in the world can’t make up for the fact that you’re deeply AFRAID of the problem.

What you resist always persists! So if you truly want to move on with your life, it’s time to be brave and face up to that thing you’ve been trying so hard to ignore. #toughlove


Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #7:

You’re Asking For The Impossible



The Universe can only do so much! There are some things in life that are just like gravity; it’s pointless to use your energy against them.

For example, say you’re pining for your high school boyfriend. But he’s happily married now with three kids. Trying to manifest that has all kinds of bad juju involved! It’s always difficult to try to change someone else’s will; never mind 3-5 other people!

Sometimes it’s hard to admit but the thing that we convince ourselves will make our life perfect isn’t the only answer. There are a million beautiful souls in the world. And there might be one that’s a lot better suited for you just waiting around the corner! But if you’re putting all of your energy into attracting that one (impossible) person you might miss out on noticing.


Not Manifesting What You Want Reason #8:

Divine Timing



The Universe is wise and it always has a plan. Sometimes we have to be patient or wait for a certain series of events to unfold before we can have what we want!

As smart as we are, we’re not all-knowing beings! You must also surrender yourself up to the Universe and trust in the fact that everything will happen in due time.

The biggest catch-22 of manifesting is learning how to let go and not be overly thirsty for what you want — while still maintaining your chill and keeping your vibe high. So concentrate on that, not on trying to force something that you might not actually be ready for yet.




I hope this post helps you on your path towards your intentions! Just remember that nothing is impossible! If you’re clear about what you want and you’re willing to do the work, you can create the life of your dreams.

Thank you so much for reading! Good luck with it & I’ll see you back here next week!




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Are You Manifesting The Opposite Of What You Want?

by: Jenn

Are You Manifesting The Opposite Of What You Want?

You’ve done everything right. You’ve set your intention. You’ve put it out there. And you’re waiting patiently for your manifesting wish to show up.

The only problem?

Right now, it seems like you’re getting the very opposite of what you actually wanted.

So how is that possible? When you’ve followed the rules and done the work, could it be possible that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for you?

In short, the answer is no.

To explain further, let’s start by going back to the basics of the Law of Attraction.

You’re always manifesting, whether you’re consciously trying to or not.



So if you think you’re getting the opposite of what you really want, the first thing to do is to understand that the Law is working with you all the time.

You’re not unlucky or just not talented. And you certainly don’t suck! ????

We all have the exact same tools to work with!

However, there are some common traps that might interfere with getting what you want.

But before you freak out take heart! Above all, the manifesting process is all about mind over matter.

If your attitude or beliefs aren’t in alignment, then you’re going to be manifesting something other than what you really want.

Figuring out what has gone wrong isn’t about looking outside! It’s always about looking inside.

So don’t fret! This is all stuff that only you can control.

So if you’re feeling like you’re manifesting the opposite of what you want, it’s time to dive in and do a little Law of Attraction troubleshooting.


6 Reasons Why You Might Be Manifesting The Opposite Of What You Want


Manifesting The Opposite Reason #1:

You Need To Create Space



Sometimes in order for something new to show up for us, we need to create space for it. Trust that this is not a mistake but actually part of the process!

There are some hard limits to this human life. Our homes are finite. The amount of time we have in a day or our lifetime is limited. So we can’t keep adding more things on top of what we already have. We have to trade out some of the things that aren’t working for us for ones that do.

When things start to exit your life stage left, it’s easy to get fooled into thinking that something has gone wrong! But relax! Everything happens with divine wisdom and timing. Deeply know that there are forces much wiser than you at work behind the scenes. So keep surrendering to the process, instead of freaking out and trying to stop it!


Manifesting The Opposite Reason #2:

Your Manifesting Is Only Just Beginning



When things start to go wrong, your manifesting journey has only just begun! Can you set aside your fears and believe with your whole being? Can you look at evidence to the contrary and still know that you’re going to get what you want? Because this whole process is about exactly that!

If you’re panicking and experiencing fear around your intention, you’ve fallen out of alignment. So set aside some time to reconnect with your desire and your faith (in both the Universe and yourself). The Law of Attraction exactly knows what you’re feeling deep down inside. So if you’re operating from a place of fear, you’re dialing up the Universe to place your fears right in front of you!

The mental switch is inside all up to you. Take some time to visualize and feel into your happy imagined future. Remember that feeling always comes before the having! So if you’ve stepped out of your deep knowing and into fear, then you know what to do.


Manifesting The Opposite Reason #3:

You’re Actually Focused On What You Don’t Want



Another reason that you might not be getting what you want is that you’re actually focusing on what you don’t want more than on what you want.

Very often people think they’re focusing on what they want, but they’re actually thinking about what they don’t want much more! Again, this is a matter of tuning into yourself and your real feelings and expectations about what’s going to happen for you.

For example, you’ve set the intention to make a certain amount of money this month. But the end of the month is nearing and the money hasn’t shown up. So you start thinking more and more about how it’s not here!

Your expectation is everything! So if that sneaky little inner voice keeps saying “This will never work for me” then guess what? You’re right!

Start by sending yourself some love and compassion. Losing faith is not the end of the world! To fix it, focus on being grateful for everything you already have and you’ll flow easily back into the feeling of having instead of lack.


Manifesting The Opposite Reason #4:

You’re Future Focused



Another common issue is envisioning your wish in the future instead of the present moment. If you’re imagining your intention coming true at some future date, it will continue to remain right there–in the future!

Manifesting isn’t about thinking ahead. It’s about creating the feeling of having in the present moment. So if you’re wishing long-term, it’s time to turn your attention to what it would feel like to have your wish right now.

Visualize it as being real. Visualize what it would really feel like to have your wish be part of your reality, as a part of your everyday life. If you can make it feel as real and as tangible as if you had it right now, you’ll be back on the right manifesting path.


Manifesting The Opposite Reason #5:

The Excitement Has Worn Off



Excitement or exhilaration is the Fool’s Gold of the manifesting world! It can be easy to confuse excitement with high-vibrational energy. But in reality, excitement is not a long-term emotional state.

Losing your excitement about your desire is definitely not a sign that your manifesting isn’t working! It’s easy to confuse waning excitement with thinking you’re doing something wrong but the two are actually very different.

Too much excitement is actually a sign that you’re still far from being aligned with what you want. Even when your intention comes true, you won’t stay in the excitement zone forever!

It’s only when your desire feels normal–when it feels natural, when it feels expected–that you can be in alignment with your desire coming true! So again, focus on how it would really feel for your wish to be part of your world and not on those fleeting Lotto Winner-feelings.


Manifesting The Opposite Reason #6:

You’re Not Ready To Let Go Of Where You Are



Sometimes while we think and say we want a change, deep down inside we’re actually pretty darn comfy staying exactly where we are! This becomes obvious when your actions are interfering with your intention.

Here’s an example: Say you’re looking to manifest a new relationship. But every weekend you’re spending out with your friends gleefully talking about everything that’s supposedly wrong with the men in your city.

Do you see the disconnect? While on one hand, you’re totally unhappy with where you are, on the other you’re also deeply enjoying it. You get to go out and bond with others over it. You get to one-up each other with your tales of woe. Talking about the shitty situation has actually become part of your routine!

If you’re offering these types of mixed messages to the Universe, your true desire is getting lost in the shuffle. First, you need to look at the dark side and figure out exactly what you’re getting out of not being where you want to be. After that, it’ll be easier to move into alignment with your desires, dreams and actions all focused on the same ultimate goal.





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For me, the coolest thing about manifesting is knowing that it’s always under your own control! So even if it looks like you’re manifesting the opposite of what you want, take heart and tune into yourself. The power is always within you.

Thank you so much for being here & have a beautiful week. ????

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life



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6 Things To Do If Your Manifesting Isn’t Working

by: Jenn

Manifesting Not Working? Here's What To Do

One of the most common questions I get about manifesting is “why isn’t it working for me?”

Unfortunately, the road to manifesting our intentions isn’t always as smooth as we would like!

It’s very common for beginners (and even seasoned pro’s!) to (seemingly) run into problems along the way.

So first off: don’t panic! The more you freak out about your magic not working, the more difficult it will be to get back on track! And then take heart:


There’s always a positive step you can take towards manifesting your dreams.



Manifesting is a practice. It’s an art; we’re co-creating our future with the Universe. I can give you all the advice in the world but it all comes down to managing your own energy, above all else.

So with that in mind, today’s post is all about troubleshooting your manifesting practice and getting back on track:


6 Things To Do If Your Manifesting Isn’t Working


What To Do When Your Manifesting Isn’t Working Step #1:

Recalibrate



First and foremost, it’s time to check back in with yourself. Think about your intention. Now try imagining how it would feel to have it actually come true. Then ask yourself: do you still feel truly aligned with that goal? Does it still light you up?

Because it should!

Remember that you are not the same person you are yesterday (nor are you the same person you will be tomorrow). We can’t predict what’s going to be right for us in the future. If your goals need to shift, let them! Sometimes they need to shift rapidly so don’t freak out if that’s the case.

So the first priority when something has “gone wrong” is making sure you are still on the right path.

If your intention is no longer in alignment, then go ahead and start asking for something else! You don’t need to cling to anything that no longer serves you. Go on and find a new intention that’s better for you.


What To Do When Your Manifesting Isn’t Working Step #2:

Shift Your Energy


Manifesting energy cannot work within the same field as fear or anxiety. So ask yourself how you are really feeling about what you’ve asked for. If you’re detecting more negative feelings around your intention than positive ones, it’s time to shift things.

Stage an energy intervention on yourself! Start practicing radical gratitude. The more we can be thankful for what we already have, the faster we’ll shift out of a fear mentality. Even if you’re feeling extremely far away from your goal, try being extra thankful for the water in your tap, the hot shower you can have, the comfortable bed you sleep in. Play a gratitude game with yourself and see just how thankful you can be in just one day.


What To Do When Your Manifesting Isn’t Working Step #3:

Leave The Door Open


Are your actions truly aligned with your intentions? In reality, it’s not always the case. Many of us (myself included) think and say we want certain things while pursuing behavior that does not really align with that.

So really ask yourself: have you left the door open for those good things to come find you? You can ask the world for anything you want but precious few things can show up in the middle of a Netflix marathon. (That is one very closed door!)

The Universe chases movement and it’s desperately trying to meet you half way. So make it easy, ok? Put in a little effort and make some room for the Universe to respond to.


What To Do When Your Manifesting Isn’t Working Step #4:

Feel, Don’t Think


Manifesting always starts in the heart, not the head. You must believe before you can receive.

Since feeling is the most important thing, it’s time to check back in with yourself. Can you really feel what it will be like to win the job, the contest, the girl? If you can’t, it’s time to put some extra effort into it.

Believing always comes first: even if you don’t see evidence, even if your dream seems crazy to an outsider. Belief is your own manifesting super-power. And if you don’t truly believe in what you’re asking for, then try adjusting your wish to something that you do believe in.





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What To Do When Your Manifesting Isn’t Working Step #5:

Let Go


Remember to let go and stay out of the details. In other words, you can set an intention but don’t get attached to the how. The Universe is much smarter than we are! There are a million different ways you can get what you want. Don’t try to micromanage how things should happen.

Are you trying to insist on things happening only one way? If so, you’re not leaving much room for the Universe to reach out and surprise you. If you’re attached to a specific event or date, try letting it go. Leave a little room for the magic to do it’s thing.


What To Do When Your Manifesting Isn’t Working Step #6:

Look For The Proof


Sometimes your wishes will come falling straight out the sky, practically bumping you straight on the head. But other times, things aren’t so obvious. Energy is a pattern; sometimes signs arrive long before our actual intention shows up. Sometimes the tides begin to turn in tiny almost-imperceptible ways. But by turning our attention to those tiny events, we magnify and attract more and more of them. So start looking around you for “evidence”. You’ll always find some, if you keep an open mind.




I hope these tips serve you well on your manifesting adventures! Thank you so much for reading & if you enjoyed this post, please remember to share!

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life



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