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The Importance of Mindset, Magic & Changing The World!

by: Jenn

The Importance of Mindset, Magic & Changing The World!

During times of massive societal change (like right now!) it might seem selfish of you to still want to work on yourself. And that’s just not true! While mindset work alone won’t fix everything, I firmly believe it is part of the solution to our bigger problems. Today I’m specifically talking about mindset, human potential and race to give you some inspiration about why your self-growth and manifesting practice is more important now than ever!








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How To Be More Positive: 5 Mindset Techniques

by: Jenn

How To Be More Positive: 5 Mindset Techniques

Do negative thoughts rule your brain…and seemingly your life?

Sometimes it seems like we have no choice but to listen to the negative soundtrack in our mind.


But the more you feed the negative thoughts, the more intense they get. Meaning that once your brain sets off down the road of negativity it can be very hard to get back on track!



So you’re not imagining things! Sometimes it’s very difficult indeed to have a more positive mindset.

But it also isn’t your fault! Our brains are simply creatures of habit. We all think about 60,000 thoughts a day–but 90% of those thoughts are the exact same thoughts we had yesterday…and the day before that…and the day before that. It’s like our brains get stuck on a certain signal–and once they tune into that signal it’s very difficult to turn away–even if those thoughts are untrue and negative in nature.

However, even though our biology is stacked against us, it’s not all bad news! While your brain might love to run rampant in negativity, you can still train it to become more positive. Your physical body would seemingly love you to eat fats and sugars all day long but we know better than to give into those urges. It’s the same thing when it comes to your mindset.

Our brain might prefer a certain (negative) way of doing things but there are action steps we can take to regain control and feel happier. Or in other words, you don’t have to be stuck with the crappy thinking your brain defaults to.

Practicing positivity is a habit that will make you happier and more productive over the long run. While it’s not always easy, it is always worth it to put in the effort. So to help you on your positivity journey, today I’m sharing five mindset techniques to get you started.


How To Be More Positive: 5 Mindset Techniques


How To Be More Positive: Mindset Technique #1:

Know Your Brain Is Doing A Job


Your brain is hard-wired to look for negativity. Which means all those stressed out negative thoughts area really just your brain trying to keep you safe. It’s simple biology, not a defect on your part.

Our ancestors developed a keen sense of danger as a survival mechanism! Constantly scanning the world for impending danger was obviously beneficial for the human race. But our modern lives seldom have any real danger anymore–yet our brain is still on the lookout! Only these days it’s there’s not much to look for.

Knowing that fact does not mean that your brain will suddenly leave you in peace! Unfortunately, it’s still going to do its job. But you can learn how to disengage with those thoughts.

For example, when your brain starts going down a negative path (ie. “My boyfriend is late from work! Omg he’s obviously not thinking about me. He must not love me anymore!” etc.) you can see those thoughts for what they are–and thank your brain for trying to protect you. (“Oh I see you negative thoughts! Ok thank you brain for always looking out for me!”) Then go back to being open to something other than the terrible-ness your brain wants you to believe.

Our first reactive thoughts are often coming from our worst fears and beliefs! Sometimes you need to stop and take a moment to realize what’s really going on.


How To Be More Positive: Mindset Technique #2:

Thoughts Aren’t Facts


We’re just so smart aren’t we? Our ego mind just loves to play this game and it gives us constant proof of just how smart we are. That means when our brain is telling us something–no matter how negative it is!–we take it as fact, even though it probably isn’t.

While our brain loves to present our thoughts as being very factual, they’re actually 95% just our interpretations of the world. That means they’re just our stories. They’re open to interpretation–and they’re definitely able to be seen in a different (more positive) light.

So when your negative thoughts are telling you you’re stupid or the situation is hopeless, take a pause and try to come back to reality. What are the actual facts of the situation versus what your brain is trying to tell you? Simply being able to see the difference between the two can give you control back over your own narrative.


How To Be More Positive: Mindset Technique #3:

Minimize Your Triggers


As you move through your week, pay attention to what triggers your negativity the most. That might be watching or reading the news, something an ignoramus relative posted on Facebook or even a conversation with someone in real life. But if it something has the power to color your mood for the rest of the day, it’s important to become aware of it.

Most of the time we can’t completely eliminate the trigger itself. We can’t cut off every person who rubs us the wrong way and bury our head in the sand about world events. But you can limit your time spent watching the news or with a certain person. The world might be in a state of upheaval right now but that doesn’t mean that you have to strap yourself in for a front-row view for hours every day! Nor do you have to put up with people who don’t respect you, even if they are family members.

This one’s really all about setting boundaries to preserve your own happiness. So please just know that just because you’ve always done something one way, you don’t have to keep going. If something triggers your negative emotional soundtrack, then it’s in your best interests to make a permanent–more positive–change. Knowing what’s good for you and what isn’t is key to creating your own happiness.


How To Be More Positive: Mindset Technique #4:

Choose What Feels Better


Some of our habitual negative thoughts are absolutely abusive–and sometimes they’ve been around for so long we don’t even realize it.

For example, I used to feel very insecure about the dark circles under my eyes. Every time I’d look in a mirror I’d focus straight in on them and berate myself for looking too “old” or “tired”. But it’s a funny thing: when I’d mention my dark circle problem to people in real life, everyone would look at me with surprise: “What dark circles?” ????

If the rest of the world can’t see what you’re talking about, that’s a pretty good sign that your brain is making mountains out of molehills! But even so, it’s hard to disengage with those repetitive negative thoughts.

So don’t try to do it all in one go! Instead of going from negative to positive, go for a neutral statement first. Instead of thinking “I’m so ugly” think “I have a body/face/etc.” That might not seem like it’s enough but it’s a massive improvement over the negative thought. The neutral thought moves the inner conversation out of self-abuse territory. So whenever you notice the painful thoughts surfacing, do what you can to redirect your thoughts to something more neutral.

With more practice you can move the thoughts into positive territory! But neutral territory is a great improvement over negativity.


How To Be More Positive: Mindset Technique #5:

Choose Gratitude


It’s a fact of life: if you only look at what’s missing from your life, of course you’re always going to feel lack and scarcity! However, this can be tricky for us manifesting go-getters. While it’s cool to have goals and plans for our future, it’s also important to acknowledge how far we’ve already come.

Again, this is all just a matter of habit. Right now, your brain is probably not making it a habit to look to your past for your victories and gifts. But you can start creating gratitude as a habit right now! It’s time to start a gratitude practice. Put in in your schedule or make it part of your morning routine. Then take a few minutes to think or write about something you’re grateful for.

Even if you do this for just a few minutes a day, it can make a massive difference! And yes, it might feel weird and awkward at first but that’s just a sign that you really need this work. But keep going with it! The more you practice gratitude, the easier it will come to you.




So tell me: what tip are you going to use first to create a more positive mindset? How are you going to make a plan to conquer your own negative thinking?




Just remember, you don’t have to be stuck with your out-of-the-box way of thinking! Changing your mindset is really just like going to the gym for your brain. You’ve got to put some consistent effort into keeping things right and tight to reap the biggest results.



Jenn Stevens | The Aligned Life




PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about how to get rid of negative thoughts or this one about 10 ways to finally feel good.




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How To Deal With Corona-Fear & Anxiety

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How To Deal With Corona-Fear & Anxiety

No one can blame you for occasionally giving into fear right now! The Coronavirus has created an unprecedented situation that we are all still learning how to deal with. But I want you to know that, despite the uncertainty, you do not have to live in fear 24/7. In this video, I’m sharing some tips to mitigate your fears and anxieties so you can start feeling like yourself again!







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Modern Girl Magic Episode #23: How Mindset Work Can Help Conquer The Patriarchy

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Modern Girl Magic Episode #23: How Mindset Work Can Help Conquer The Patriarchy

I know the world of personal growth and mindset work can often look shallow and self-absorbed to some people. But the truth is, mindset work is not only important for you but it’s important for all women and all people. In this episode, I’m sharing why we ALL need to do this work on ourselves to hopefully INSPIRE you to incorporate mindset work into YOUR self-care regime!




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Why Your Victim Mindset Is Actually Your Ego!

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Why Your Victim Mindset Is Actually Your Ego!

I get it! It’s so easy to be a victim sometimes and to blame other people/the world for your problems. But did you know that that cozy victim mindset of yours is also part of your ego? Understanding this connection might just give you the strength to snap out of your “poor me” story for once and for all!









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8 Habits Of Mentally Strong People

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You might not think of yourself as a mentally strong person right now!

But my question for you today is: why wouldn’t you want to?

Most of us are walking through life with some pretty negative and outdated ideas about ourselves.

We think that because we’ve endured tough times or because we’ve done something we now feel shame about that that means we’re weak.

Or–worse!–like there’s something wrong with us!

Maybe those negative ideas you have about yourself are so strong that you haven’t even challenged them!

That means we start thinking of ourselves as mentally weak. But the worst part about that is that then we start showing up like that’s what’s really true.

So again, let me ask you, if you could think of yourself as mentally strong, then why wouldn’t you want to?

Trust me, this option is available to everyone! And the best way to start reprogramming your mind to think this way is to start taking the actions that will prove it.

You don’t have to walk around thinking of yourself as weak or broken! Your self-image of yourself is so crucial to so much you do in life. So if things need some improving, why not take action right now to start to change it?

Here are my 8 best tips to help you start becoming mentally strong! So don’t hesitate. Take action today gorgeous!


8 Habits Of Mentally Strong People


Mentally Strong People Habit #1:

They Don’t Fear Their Mistakes


You might not think of yourself as a perfectionist but there’s a great chance perfectionist thinking might be getting in your way! If you’re putting off making a decision or taking action because you’re worried about getting things “right”, then this applies to you!

But it isn’t your fault! In school, we were taught that there’s only one right answer. But in the school of life, there isn’t! There are just a lot of different answers, with some that are better than others. But very often you won’t know what the best answer is for you, unless you pick something and find out!

Mentally strong people understand this and know they can’t go through life without making some mistakes. They’re definitely not waiting around for things to be “perfect” because they also know that will never happen.


Mentally Strong People Habit #2:

They Live In The Moment


Our brains love to play tricks on us and convince us to either ruminate over our past or freak out about our future. But focusing your attention on either of those things just brings you away from the only time that is real: the present moment.

Mentally strong people understand this; they know that spending too much time in their head takes them away from their only chance of happiness. So train yourself to do this too! Take a few moments during your day to get out of your mind and notice where you’re currently at. You might not think mindfulness has anything to do with being mentally strong but this practice alone will help you take control of your thoughts and your life!


Mentally Strong People Habit #3:

They Practice Gratitude


Gratitude is a necessary ingredient for a happy and fulfilled life! As Oprah once famously said: Be grateful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you’ll never ever have enough

Yet in our fast-moving society, we’re rarely taught to be happy with what we’ve got! Consumerism means we’re always focusing on the so-called “latest and greatest”. That leaves us perpetually feeling like we’re trying to catch up–and therefore, like we’re never quite matching up to what’s expected of us. That ultimately leaves us feeling exhausting and perpetually lacking.

It takes strength to opt-out of this cultural expectation. But mentally strong people are inspired to do so because they know that on the other side lies true happiness.


Mentally Strong People Habit #4:

They Use Their Willpower


No matter what you’re after in life, willpower is an essential element in achieving your goals. Mentally strong people understand that success comes from persistence more than anything else! You can’t try for something one day and give up the next and still expect to get results. You have to keep showing up, whether you feel good or not.

If you keep giving up on yourself before you achieve your results, then of course you’ll never get where you want to go! But if you develop the habit of simply showing up–again and again and again–then you become unstoppable.


Mentally Strong People Habit #5:

They Challenge Themselves


Mentally strong people know that standing still is not an option! No matter how good their life might be at the moment, there’s always room for improvement!

That means they’re always setting goals and deciding on what they want to pursue next. They’re not going to let themselves get lazy and try to coast through life (which is smart because that doesn’t work anyway!). They know that while doing new things can be intimidating, it’s also the only way to learn–and the only way to keep making progress to what they want.


Mentally Strong People Habit #6:

They Keep Going After Setbacks


Everyone faces bumps in the road from time to time! Maybe you worked really hard on something and it didn’t turn out how you wanted it to. Or maybe you thought something was about to happen for you and it just didn’t. These moments can seem intensely personal, ultimately signifying something negative about us. But when you let that negative story take up space in your mind, then you’ll find it hard to get yourself back to in the ring.

Mentally strong people simply don’t let those moments get in their way! Yes, sometimes things are tough or we get disappointed but it’s always up to us whether or not to keep going. The story of negativity is yours to believe–or not believe. But picking the option that allows you to keep moving forward instead of giving up really is the strongest thing you can do!


Mentally Strong People Habit #7:

They Are Kind


Fact: it’s a whole lot easier to take your anger or frustration out on people than it is to come from a place of love and respect! We’re all tempted to snap at people sometimes–whether it’s a friend, partner or the cashier at your grocery store–but not following that impulse is a sign of true inner strength.

So the next time you’re tempted to lose it on someone, take a deep breath and come back to your power. Ask yourself: is this really the best use of my energy? Be strong and stay kind.


Mentally Strong People Habit #8:

They Take Responsibility For Themselves No Matter What


At times it’s tempting to blame our failures and shortcomings on other people or circumstances. But a funny thing happens when you do that! When you decide to believe that it’s all X’s or Y’s fault, that also means that you can’t do anything to change it! After all, you’re not X or Y! So while blame feels good temporarily it also goes hand-in-hand with victim mentality.

While it might be a tough pill to swallow to admit where you’ve gone wrong, it’s also the path to becoming the hero of your own story! If you can admit to where your mistakes were, then you’ll also be able to start correcting them. That’s the first step towards getting your true power back!




So what did you think? How mentally strong do you feel you are? Which steps are you going to implement first?

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Your mental image of yourself is so key to everything you want in life! If you don’t think of yourself as being mentally strong, you can do something about it! Your mindset is everything and you really can change anything you want about yourself. And, as a bonus, once you do, you might just be surprised at how much your outer world changes too!



Jenn Stevens | The Aligned Life




PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about manifest confidence with the Queen archetype or this one about 7 lessons that transformed my entire life.




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~ Jenn
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~ Jenn

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