Wake up babe! It’s time to stop being cool.
Being cool should definitely NOT be something you’re striving to be! Here’s why “being cool” can be a dangerous thing for your overall mindset, your happiness and your relationships.
Video Transcript: Why You Need To Stop Being Cool
Hi, guys! It’s Jen. I am a life coach and Law of Attraction teacher, and today I’m here to tell you what you need to know about being cool.
I have been thinking about this for a very long time, and I’ve been inspired to come and talk on camera about it with you guys because I think this is still a very valuable message. I think we kind of get in our own way sometimes when we try to be cool instead of focusing on the other things in life that are so important.
There are two reasons why I think it is time to forget about being cool because, guys, being cool isn’t doing us any favors. You are never going to get to the end of your life, laying on your deathbed, looking back and thinking, “Wow, I was so cool.”
Stop Being Cool Reason #1: You Don’t Need Validation
The number one reason why I think it is time to stop worrying about being cool is that it puts us in an automatic place where we need validation from other people. No one needs to be cool for themselves; we’re all trying to be cool because we want to impress somebody else. If you are trying really hard to be cool, that just means you are trying really hard to get approval from someone else. This just comes from a place of low self-esteem.
If you need someone else to tell you that you are okay, that fundamentally means that you don’t think you are okay yourself. It is crucial for you to realize the underlying reason for why you are trying to do the cool thing or be a cool person or hang out with the cool people. If it is because you need validation, if it is because you don’t feel good enough by yourself on your own doing your own thing, then you already have it a little bit wrong. You are already setting yourself up for a fall.
Of course, it feels great if you manage to get that approval and if you manage to do that thing. It feels great to be cool. But what if you don’t get that thing? What if those people don’t want to hang out with you anymore? What if you get the wrong shoes? What if you go to the wrong restaurant? I don’t know, whatever it is.
If you do something according to the cool rules, then it starts to feel really [ __ ] and that isn’t good. I just want to give you this as an example because I don’t think people talk about being cool as a need for validation. But if you are really feeling like you need to look big in someone else’s eyes, it is time to question why you need that and to start learning how to give that to yourself instead.
Stop Being Cool Reason #2: It’s Boring
The second reason why I think it’s time to forget all about being cool is that being cool is so boring, you guys. So, here’s a little anecdote. I was out at this really nice bar with a good friend of mine and a girl that I had never met before a couple of weeks ago. We’re in this place, and it’s beautiful, and there are beautiful people there, you know what I mean? That kind of posh kind of place.
This girl that I don’t know, the one that was not my friend, was just so visibly bored by the whole thing. The way she sat in her chair, she sat way back, her body language was like not impressed, she was complaining about the service staff, she was just not seeming to have a good time. Later on, I was thinking about it, and I was like, why was that so strange to me? Because I don’t usually run into people anymore that are just not having a good time. I like to surround myself with people that are enjoying life and are into life.
I don’t actually know this to be true, but I’m making an educated guess that this person was just trying really hard to be cool because boredom is cool. Not being impressed is cool. Not being really happy is cool. But [ __ ] that, you guys. I want to go through life feeling the good things in life. If you are too worried about being cool to let yourself experience joy and happiness, what is the point? What is the point of being cool if that comes at the expense of your own happiness?
Stop Being Cool Reason #3: It Pushes People Away
I see this a lot also in relationships. Like when you meet somebody that maybe you like, but your friends tell you to play it cool because you don’t want them to know that you really like them. Like that is such a ridiculous game to play, and I just really try not to go through life playing those games. When I see somebody I haven’t seen in a while and I’m excited to see them, I am going to show that. I’m going to let them know.
There is no point in not letting them know. People only feel really good if you’re excited to see them. People only feel really good if you are engaged with them and want to hear about their own life and are showing them your affection. That is all good stuff. Playing it cool is not the way I want to go through life. It is not the way to have an engaged relationship. It is not going to find the love of your life. If everyone is too busy playing it cool, you guys, we are going to be cool until we die, and you’re also going to die sad and alone.
Stop Being Cool Reason #4: It Prevents You From Being Happy
Today my video, I just want you guys to take this away. It is time to stop being cool because it is preventing you from being happy. It is trapping you in this way of thinking that puts everyone else’s opinion above yours. I don’t think there’s any point in being cool, you guys. I want to hang out with people that enjoy life, that aren’t afraid to laugh, that aren’t afraid to show their affection, that aren’t [ __ ] around with stupid games. I want to hang out with people that don’t need approval, that aren’t waiting for someone to tell them that they’re awesome because they already know they’re awesome.
If you are ready to leave the cool game behind, drop me an emoji below. I just want to know this video resonated with you guys. I think this is something that needs to be said honestly. Of course, in my teens and twenties, I did spend a lot of time worrying about being cool, but now that I’m older, who gives a [ __ ]? I just want to be happy, and I know most of you guys just want to be happy. Being cool might be a secret blockless getting in the way of you actually being happy.
Thank you so much for watching!
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