Jenn Stevens | Spiritual Life + Business Coach
5 Habits For Manifesting Success | Why save manifesting only for the big things in life? It’s actually way more powerful if you learn how to manifest regularly. Here are my five tips to help you make manifesting part of your daily routine–so you can become magnetic faster than ever!
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When it comes to manifesting, the biggest barrier to your success is something you catch a glimpse of in the mirror every single day!
It’s your shadow.
Our shadow self is our secret monster in the closet! It’s the real boogeyman under the bed–but this boogeyman can actually cause real damage!
Of course, it’s not going to actually jump out of the shadows and hurt you. But it will trip you up. Your shadow self is key to self-sabotage.
If you’re serious about your success, you can’t ignore this very real part of you.
In other words, so much of what we’re taught is unmovable as “fate” is really just our own projections. So taking control of those projections is how we get our power back.
Your subconscious mind is a powerful force in your world, whether you know it or not!
Few of us want to acknowledge our darkness. But please know that the unchecked shadow is your real enemy. The more we ignore or avoid something, the more power it has over us.
Becoming a conscious creator means taking ownership of our own darkness.
So remember this: a funny thing happens when you shine a light in the darkness: all those scary shadows are never as scary as you first thought!
Are you ready to shine a light into your own darkness? Shadow work might be unnerving at first but it’s a powerful pathway to your own authenticity and magnetism. So please use this guide as a jumping-off point for your inner journey.
Looking at us now, it’s often hard to see the truth! But behind our glossy, fashionable, grown-up exterior lies a secret truth. We’re not just the person we see today; we also contain fragments of our most damaging and delicate times.
Think back to your personal moments of pain and discomfort. The pimply fourteen-year-old. The third-grader who peed her pants. The college student who tripped on her way to the podium.
We’ve all experienced more than a few cringe-worthy events over our life. And most of us think we’ve left all of that far behind us!
However, most of us have not truly healed from those experiences. Instead, we simply ran away. We worked hard at becoming not that version of us–which means that version of us is still left alone, rejected, and unloved.
Being a full and complete person means accepting and loving ourselves, even when we’re at our “worst”. The human tendency to categorize everything into good and bad, black and white is one of our most damaging traits! What if you were still completely worthy and deserving of love and respect, even at your most vulnerable moments?
That’s a truly radical belief but one that can bring us immense healing if we choose to embrace it.
So ask yourself: what were your most painful or shameful moments? Imagine that version of you standing in front of you now and offer him/her love and forgiveness. Keep working through each major moment that you can think of and feel how your inner world softens in response.
Not all of our desires are the result of our highest good! In fact some of them can come from a dark place. It’s up to us to keep asking questions and staying curious in order to find out.
When you ask anyone why they want a certain thing in life, the basic answer is the same: “I just want to be happy.” So you need a little deeper to figure out why you’ve associated your goal with happiness.
Most of us are trying to “complete” ourselves through acquiring something outside of us. (An approach that rarely works obviously!) But at the age of fourteen we decided that the popular girls knew something we didn’t. Or the guy that dumped us at sixteen was right about us. Without ever realizing it, we started to live our life through the idea that if we could get even or show someone a lesson or impress a certain type of person, then (finally!) we’d feel okay.
We all think we left grade school a long time ago but many of us carry those wounds around with us for much longer than we think.
Again, we can’t move into a new place in life if we’re still running on these dark motivations. Remember that the Universe always knows what’s up! If your goals are born out of self-loathing, then what are you really asking for? As always, it’s up to us to heal the wound inside of us. You can still ask for anything you like in life, but this is why it’s so important to be clear about your why.
If your desires are stemming from this dark idea that you need to show someone up or get even, then it’s time to press pause. We’re always the most magnetic when we’re operating
Sometimes the biggest problem with your manifesting is that–truth be told!–you’re actually completely and 100% okay with being exactly where you are.
It’s hard to hear but it’s often true! Perhaps being perpetually broke, single or unemployed might be exactly what you want! If you’re secretly getting something out of the situation, then it will very difficult to break free of it.
Some of us are hopelessly addicted to drama and chaos–and it’s not our fault! That’s simply the only thing we’ve ever known. Others thrive on the attention of being constantly “broken”, victimized or wronged. (Making other people wrong can be a way of feeding your own ego by making you perpetually right!)
For example, maybe you love being broke because you secretly feel virtuous and valued about complaining to your friends all the time. Perhaps you keep dating the same kinds of people (who break your heart) because you don’t really want to open your heart. Perhaps you think that if you really got what you wanted you’d also lose someone’s love, respect or attention.
If you have any kind of attachment to where you’re at, then you have to take action or risk suffering from reverse motivation! We’re all experts at self-sabotage, to the point we’ll still call ourselves a victim when it’s really all our own doing.
Change is always scary–especially to our subconscious mind! So if you’re stuck with your manifesting, this is an important rock to look under. Ask yourself: what do I secretly love about being exactly where I am right now?
You must acknowledge these shadow-y motivations before you can release and clear yourself from them! So please do the work and dare to be honest with yourself. The answers can be life-changing.
This stuff may be intimidating at first but it really is important to do the work if you’re serious about creating sustained change and success in your life! In the end, your happiness is always worth it.
Good luck & much love my darlings!
PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about create your world or this one about success consciousness.
Why You Need To Decrease Importance To Increase Manifesting Success | It’s time to take your intention off the pedestal! In this video, I share three tips on how to do that so you can get shoulder-to-shoulder with your desires in order to actually call them in!
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If you want to increase your manifesting success, you’ve got to clear on the basics.
And one basic step that beginner manifester’s often miss is embracing your truth.
We all tell ourselves little lies to avoid facing up to our own reality.
Having is evidence of wanting, as the elegant witch Carolyn Elliott says.
Meaning that you asked for everything you have in your life right now.
All that stuff you don’t like is actually serving some deep need inside of you.
We all love to bitch and complain but there’s also something comforting about being stuck.
That’s because we already know what being stuck feels like. And even when we’re asking for great things, ultimately, growth requires bravery. It requires discomfort. It requires taking action and doing things that we’ve never done before.
It involves throwing all those comfy ol’ excuses out the window and starting fresh.
(And blarg. Who wants to do that?)
But before you can actually manifest a raise, a new car or a better relationship, you’ve got to take an unflinching look at where you are right now, in all its bold truth.
Truth is raw. It’s real. It’s uncomfortable. And it’s totally necessary as part of the manifesting process.
If you’re feeling in denial about this suggestion, then you need this post them most! So let’s start embracing our own truth with this simple three-part exercise:
It takes guts to take a cold hard look at your life. But please be brave for a minute and do it.
This is your life so don’t you dare hide your hide in the sand. You can’t overcome negative things by simply pretending they don’t exist.
What you resist, persists. Meaning the more you try to ignore your problems, the bigger and uglier they will become.
Pushing the pain away is an illusion. You have to feel those feelings sooner or later (and I think you should aim for sooner).
The discomfort won’t kill you. Remember that you’re ultimately stronger than those “negative” feelings could ever be so don’t be afraid to let them in and really feel them.
Come on in, sit down and tell me your story: the story you’ve told yourself about who you are, where you come from and why.
Maybe you’ve never articulated it out loud before, but there’s a story in your head and it holds some deep clues as to how we perceive the world.
What brought you here? What decisions did you make that contributed to that?
And most importantly, what are your big excuses?
I know there’s someone or something you’re holding responsible for some aspect of your life! (Whether that’s your parents, ex boyfriend or boss.)
The blame game is something we all play, most of the time without even realizing it.
Things might not have turned out the way you wanted them to. Life might not have been fair.
Relying on blame is basically relinquishing your own power. Please realize that no one has more power over your life than you.
The past is over and you get to choose whether you want to remain in the same place or not. Nothing will ever change unless you do.
It’s time to start reframing your story in a more positive light. You are not a victim and it’s time to stop thinking of yourself that way. It might take time and practice, but the results will be worth it.
If you can become truly grateful for every aspect of your life, you’ll be an unstoppable force.
That means expressing gratitude for parking tickets, unexpected bills, heartbreak, the whole “icky” lot of it. You have the power to transmute everything.
But if you have trouble summoning that gratitude for the darker parts of life, try asking yourself some questions:
Why are you enjoying poverty? Why are you enjoying your loneliness? In what ways do you take joy (or get attention) from talking about it, complaining about it?
You’re getting something from this, or you wouldn’t still be here.
And it’s only once you figure out what that is that your thinking (and your life) can begin to shift.
When you summon the courage to switch up your story and start living a more balanced view, opportunities for change will start lining up for you.
This exercise might be uncomfortable but, trust me, it’s totally necessary. At the heart of it, manifesting isn’t about wishful thinking or attaining some secret from an ancient teacher. It’s about becoming the best version of you.
I hope this helps you on you journey!
PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about practical advice for empaths or this one about how to feel abundant.
