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Complete Guide To Subconscious Manifestation

by: Jenn

Hey there Conscious Creator! Does any of this sound familiar?

Have you been struggling to manifest the same thing, month after month, or year after year?
Do you feel like other people can manifest super easily while you can’t seem to get it to work at all?
Are you settling for less than what you really want because you don’t think you can make anything more happen?
Are you living a life that’s not bad but doesn’t quite match up to your dreams?

Here’s where most manifesting books, coaches, and programs get it wrong.

Those people that tell you to just “visualize” and “think positive thoughts” so you can “change your vibration” and magically call in your desires are only telling you about one piece of the manifestation puzzle.

And yes, I do talk about those things too! However, I always encourage you to take the work deeper.

Please know that if you’re feeling stuck or like you can’t quite get what you want, it’s not a reflection of you.

It’s actually just a big red flag that there are deeper patterns happening in your own mind that you’re are likely unaware of.

But if you continue to ignore this stuff, it will continue to (secretly) trip you up and prevent you from getting what you really want.

The Truth About Subconscious Manifestation

The problem is that right now you are manifesting from your subconscious mind as well as your conscious mind.

While we all have our conscious desires that we are highly aware of, we also have unconscious desires: the desires of our subconscious mind.

That means that while one part of you is very much hoping to change, the other (larger) part of your mind very much doesn’t want to.

Your subconscious mind is hard-wired to protect you at all costs. And unfortunately, because of that program, it will hold onto old situations and patterns–even if they’re painful or unsatisfactory–just because it knows what to expect.

Your subconscious mind will always favor the familiar over the unknown.

Without doing the work to reprogram your entire mind to feel worthy of what you really want, you’re always going to run into blocks calling in your manifestations.

Here’s how I explain this: imagine having a car with one wheel turned in one direction and one wheel turned in the opposite direction. When you try to go in two directions at once, you will remain exactly where you are.

It’s impossible to make progress in either direction, as long as your will is divided and your subconscious mind feels it is not worthy of what you really want in life.

So if you’re in any way feeling stuck with manifesting or like you just can’t make progress towards what you want, then it’s time to fix it! It’s time to start creating awareness around your own subconscious programming so you can begin to heal it.

3 Parts Of Your Subconscious Mind

Your shadow, your worthiness (or havingness levels, as I also call it), your programmed limiting beliefs: these are the biggest subconscious mind elements that have an impact on your manifestations. Let’s have a look at each one:

Subconscious Manifestation Element #1:

The Shadow

Your shadow self is one of the biggest elements of your subconscious programming.

When I talk about the shadow, I’m referring to two different things.

1. Your Dark Desires

Humans are complicated creatures. While we have some very high-vibe desires, we’re also frequently motivated by factors that we’d rather not admit to ourselves.

For example, while your conscious mind is dreaming of wealth perhaps your subconscious mind is secretly enjoying the f*ck out of not having money!

It might very well love the drama and the attention and the constant rollercoaster dynamics of not knowing how to pay your own rent.

Most of us have a lot of shame around this–which means, we don’t even want to admit it to ourselves! But if we refuse to look at them, we can never heal and transmute those desires.

Or, in other words, as long as we pretend those dark desires don’t exist, they’re going to continue to rule over us.

2. Your Rejected Selves

You might be the most badass, confident, sexy creature right now. But were you always this way?

Most of us experienced some times during our childhood and youth where we were very much not the people we are today.

Maybe you were the overweight child or the acne-riddled teenager. Or maybe you had debilitating shyness (like me!) or some other issue that made you feel rejected, unlikable, and ashamed.

Those days might be long behind us. However, most of us “got over” those times by learning how to be something more acceptable.

However, that is just a coping mechanism. It typically means we’re still rejecting that version of use. On some level, we still agree with the shame we experienced back then–which is the complete opposite of full self-acceptance and real self-love.

Exploring your rejected selves can spark some huge lightbulb moments. This powerful work will always help you to become a more whole and integrated (and therefore powerfully magnetic) version of you.

Subconscious Manifestation Element #2:

Your Limiting Beliefs & Trauma

It’s tough to believe at times but so many of the things we take “as fact” are actually, not factual at all!

These things are limiting beliefs: the beliefs we have about the world that limit and prevent us from actually having what we want in life.

They sound like reasonable factual ideas: “There’s no good single men in this town.” “No matter what I do I can’t lose weight.” etc.

What has really happened is that our brain has gone out and looked for proof of these fleeting ideas over and over again, to the point that we don’t even question them anymore.

But trust me, they’re not actually true and–even worse!–they are getting in the way of you manifesting your desires.

This problem becomes even more compounded when the beliefs are the result of what I call Small-T Trauma: the kind of childhood trauma we all experience that “teaches” us that we are unlovable or not worthy of getting our needs met.

The lessons we learn in those moments (like when a parent ignores your requests to play) are extremely deeply embedded. What was a passing moment in your past can result in you carrying around a story of: “My needs are not important” or “I am not worthy of attention.”

Subconscious Manifestation Element #3:

Low Self-Worth & Identity

I just talked about limiting beliefs. While there are lots of types of limiting beliefs, multiple beliefs can work together to lower our self-worth and create an identity that ultimately settles for way less than we want (and deserve).

We all have some ingrained ideas of what we’re worthy of when it comes to love, money etc.

But the more deeply ingrained those ideas are, the more difficult it will be to shift them.

Taken to an extreme, when we identify these things as just part of who we are, we will fail to realize that we have power in this situation!

Basically, you have the power to learn how to become anything you want to be, no matter what your brain is telling you.

If we are someone who perpetually accepts low paying jobs or not-so-healthy relationship patterns, it’s time to think about our identity beliefs. Why do we continually accept these things into our life if we know they’re not what we really want?

Your self-talk is a huge giveaway here as well. If you have conscious (or unconscious) thoughts like “I’m such a loser.” “I’m a hot mess.” then you definitely have some subconscious identity issues to work on.

Subconscious Manifestation Blocks & Your Self-Worth

All of these elements can come together in various ways to form subconscious blocks.

But to put it simply, when your self-worth is too low, you will continually settle for less than what your conscious mind wants, without you even noticing it.

It will feel like you’re stuck in a neverending loop or pattern: changing jobs or relationships only to face the same issues, over and over again.

You might start to think “that’s just the way it is” or maybe even that you’re cursed or doomed to live a life that’s not what you really want.

But it’s really just your subconscious mind acting out its old unhealthy programming.

Starting now, you have a choice.

Take no action with your subconscious mind and continue to let life play out the way it currently is (going around in circles & feeling frustrated).

Understand that while your subconscious has been blocking you, you can take back control if you want to.

We all have the power to reprogram our subconscious mind to raise our self-worth and increase our havingness levels (aka receiving more money, love, success, health, etc.)

This process isn’t just going to happen without you taking control.

(You can’t read a book about going to the gym and expect to lose weight!)

Your subconscious mind will be more than happy to keep doing what it’s always done. But you do have the power to change that! With a little time and effort, you can begin the process of healing.

Reprogramming Your Subconscious Mind For Manifestation

So now the question becomes how exactly do I reprogram my subconscious mind to receive what I want to manifest?

Fortunately, there are lots of ways to do this!

The important thing to remember is that your subconscious mind was programmed over time. So it usually takes time for us to fully integrate the new ideas we need to help us manifest.

Here are a few examples:

NLP (and/or) hypnosis is one of the most powerful methods. (I am soon releasing my new hypnosis package so stay tuned!)

Hypnosis meditations and subliminals are a way to do this at home. (I’m also offering a brand new monthly program with more of these very soon!)

EFT (or tapping) is another method.

Plus, there’s also journaling: a practice that I personally use daily, in conjunction with the other tools to help me rewire my subconscious mind for what I want.

Remember my dear friend, you are not cursed. You are not broken. And you are definitely not the exception to the manifesting rule! You are perfectly capable and deserving of manifesting your desires. You just need to understand the way in which your brain works first and then start doing the work to heal and reprogram what you think is possible.

PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about program your subconscious mind to manifest or this one about beginner’s guide to subconscious reprogramming tools.

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Authentic Desire Vs. Your Ego: How To Find Your Soul Truth

by: Jenn

It’s a fact: if you want to greatly improve your life, you’ll have to get deeply acquainted with your own desires.

However, desire is not always what it appears to be on the surface! Not every desire is created equally.

While some desires are rooted in our own power, others are not. Some desires aren’t even our own! So it’s important to dig a little deeper under and question where your desires are really coming from.

Of course, you always have the ability to ask for anything you want in life. But we all only have so much time and attention to go around. Why spend time chasing down a desire that’s not meant for you when you can focus your attention on what is?

Learning to figure out what desires are authentic to your soul and what aren’t will help conserve your energy and time for the ones that truly matter!

Authentic desire (aka those desires that are meant for your soul!) are some of the most powerful things in the world! Stepping into your authenticity is part of your journey as a conscious creator!

Any time we must learn to dig within our own shadows and confront what we find there we must also dig into our fears. Being real with ourselves is scary at first! But ultimately this journey is about you finding your true path and power. So don’t be afraid of being honest with yourself about what you want in life.

There are three main types of desire to be aware of: programmed desire, ego desire and authentic (soul!) desire.

Authentic Desire Vs. Ego + Programmed Desire

Desire Type #1:

Programmed Desires

As an independent adult, it can be quite disconcerting to realize just how many of our “desires” aren’t actually ours at all! Instead, they’re just the result of years of picking up other people’s thoughts and opinions.

The truth is we’re all programmed to think, behave and–yes!–even desire in a certain way. For example, just think about the pathway that we’re all “supposed” to fulfill: college, job, partner, 2.5 kids, house in the suburbs. Yet that’s only one way to do life–and it might not be right for you! This vision of adulthood is shown to us over and over again, so often that we don’t even realize that there are other ways of being a successful and happy adult.

If you don’t ever discover the world of personal development, you might never even realize this has happened! Many of us get on this path and then “wake up” at some point realizing that they’ve never really listened to their own authentic desire.

But please know that it’s not that your parents or friends or society had bad intentions for you. But we’re all very much a product of this “group think”. Figuring out who you really are also means being brave enough to throw all those old-fashioned ideals in the garbage. But if that’s what you have to do in order to be truly happy, then isn’t facing the uncertainty worth the risk?

Just remember, the more you say no to what isn’t serving you the more energy you’ll have to pour into what does!

Signs Of Programmed Desire

feeling obligated or like you “have to” do something
not wanting to let someone (your parents etc.) down
not feeling that excited
feeling like you’re just going through the motions
feeling disconnected or like you’re living someone else’s life

Desire Type #2:

Ego Desires

Our ego pushes to label everything good or bad. It wants to place everyone (and everything) on a hierarchy. It does this because it wants to place itself above everything! But ultimately, that selfish desire comes from a place of fear.

Our ego is highly concerned with our place in the world! It’s the part of us that’s keeping tabs on other people and either wanting to “one-up” them or to prove something to them somehow.

But our ego also has a big effect on the things we want in life. If you’re after something in life because of how it will look or of how someone else will perceive you, then it’s probably your ego talking.

Of course, you are allowed to want whatever you want! But this kind of desire is by no means authentic. Yes, it might feel good to show the popular kids at school how much money you’re making these days. But that will only temporarily fill the real problem! The wounds inside of you can’t be fixed by other people’s opinions.

It gets sticky here because of course some of our genuine desires cross over into this category! So it’s up to you to be honest with yourself: are you wanting something because you truly want it? Or because of how it will look? Be honest with yourself! Only you have the true answer.

Signs Of Ego Desires

feeling bruised when things don’t go exactly the way you want them to
circling thoughts about your desires (negative rumination or anxiety)
feeling anger or fear about not getting your desires
wanting to control the how or other people
feeling like you’ll be worthless unless you acquire or achieve something

Desire Type #3:

Authentic Desires

Authentic desire is any desire that stems from your soul. These are the things that genuinely light us up and make us happy. They are our unique preferences, interests and gut instincts.

We all have a completely unique path in this life! We’re all here to do something and the way we figure out what that thing is is by following the path of our desires. We get closer to who we’re supposed to be by listening to the voice inside of us, not to the fear of our ego or the programming we’ve received from the outer world.

Authentic desire is part of your core essence. It’s the kinds of things you would do over and over again, whether or not you’re “good” at them or if you’re getting paid.

Stopping yourself from experiencing that kind of joy will just create resistance and pain! It takes a lot of energy to pretend to be someone other than who we really are.

That means you might be feeling some dissonance here! Perhaps in your heart you’re meant to be an artist but your family has raised you to pursue a career in medicine. Perhaps for the last ten years you’ve been an accountant but somewhere inside you you know you’re meant to design jewelry instead!

That isn’t to say you need to drop out of your job immediately. But you also need to fulfill your authentic desire in one way or another.

Please also understand authentic desire doesn’t also mean that every desire will be realized! Our desires are designed to bring us lessons; they help us to grow and expand. Sometimes that means we’ll find a new goal on our path and not realize the old one. Please know that this is totally normal!

The soul desire of all human beings is to just be and to eliminate suffering. Our individuated soul desire is a unique way of performing our individuated essence and is linked in some ways to our ego or personality type. It’s the gold at the end of the rainbow, so to speak.

Signs Of Authentic Desire

joy and excitement, especially for no apparent reason
feeling a sense of flow
feeling deeply deserving of your desires as you already are
experiencing synchronicities or just feeling connected to the Universe
an easiness around your goals (not a grasping desperate energy!)
feeling loving and accepting of others (not jealous or controlling)

Behind every desire is the motivation to just be happy! However, true happiness can only be found through love and acceptance–not in trying to fix ourselves from the inside out or from trying to please others. So be brave and dare to figure out where your motivations are coming from. You might just learn something new about yourself that will allow you to truly connect with your soul purpose and ultimate happiness!

I hope this post helps you untangle the sometimes complex world of desire! Let me know how your work goes with this and thank you so much for reading!

PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about how to shift your reality or this one about 5 reasons why you’re not manifesting.

Complete Guide To Subconscious Manifestation