Becoming Her: Use Your Identity To Manifest

Becoming Her: Use Your Identity To Manifest

Becoming her is your new favorite way to manifest the life of your dreams.

Anything you want–money, love, success–can only be achieved through identity shifting.

This is the problem that many people face when it comes to manifestation success. We think that if we get the date or earn the money then we’ll feel like that person.

But that’s completely backwards! You only receive the real-life results after you’ve done that inner mindset shifting.

After all, if achieving something was just a matter of wanting it, wouldn’t you have it by now?

Manifestation is more than just desiring something.

It’s about the act of creating that reality from the inside out.

You simply have to become her: every belief, every word, every action, all in alignment with that version of you.

It’s play acting.

But it’s okay to start small. Practice saying those things to yourself in your mind (aka affirmations). Then practice saying them to other people. You don’t have to tell people you’re perfect or (ugh!) imply that you’re better than them. (Competition is a game of the ego.) But you can own yourself: your experience, your style, your looks, your education, your sense of humor, etc. Reminder: it’s not egotistical to be self-aware and proud of yourself, no matter who told you that when you were a child.


Becoming Her: Use Identity Shifting To Manifest


Becoming Her Step #1: Find Your Goal


Identify your manifestation goal. This sounds simple but often people over look this step. Basically, if you’re asking for “more money” or “to feel better”, you haven’t gone deep enough.

  • How much money do you want? Is that in the bank or coming through your monthly paychecks?
  • What kind of relationship do you want? What are the qualities that will make you feel good in that relationship? (Pssst….it’s not about how tall they are!)
  • When you say you want to feel confident, what does that mean? What will you do with that confidence that’s different?


Becoming Her Step #2: Look At Who That Person Is & Take Notes


From here, we forget about the goal for a moment and take a look at the person.

Who do you have to become in order to achieve your goal? What type of person do I have to be to manifest this?

I like to call this person your “Ideal Future Self”. But you can give her a name, refer to her as “Future You” or whatever else you like!

Grab your journal and start making some notes. Let your imagination run wild and really “see” that person and how they are different from you.

  • How do they present themselves? Do they dress differently? Stand up straighter?
  • How do they speak? What language do they use about themselves/your goal/the world?
  • Are their habits different? In which ways?

Whatever you come up with here is now your homework assignment. It’s up to you to connect the dots from where you are now to who you want to become.

If the world is a stage, then this is your new character. It’s also your big chance to design your life. Change out whatever you’re inspired to. Get rid of the old and make way for the new!


Becoming Her Step #3: Implement & Repeat


From here, you simply take your list and start taking action on it.

Manifestation doesn’t just happen in your mind. Your actions always show a lot about who you really think you are.

If nothing changes, nothing changes. You must motivate yourself to start doing things differently.

Dress up, if you usually don’t.

Buy the fancy new water bottle and commit to drinking more from it.

Book the personal trainer, buy the website domain, consult a business coach.

Everyone’s success plan will be a little different. Which means it’s not the actions that really matter, but rather, the fact that you’re doing them.

Over time your self-concept will begin to stretch and grow into your Future Ideal Self.

“Fake it till you make it” sounds like trite advice. But it actually works.

Yes, in the beginning you’re going to feel ridiculous: like you’re playing dress up or make-believe. You might even feel like someone is coming to tell the truth about you. (ie. Imposter Syndrome!)

In other words, don’t expect it to feel natural at first. It will actually feel anything but natural!

Remember, practice makes perfect. The more you stick with it, the easier it will get.

So what did you think? Have you created your vision of what you want and who you want to become? Are you ready for your journey to become her?

Your future is not only in your hands but it’s also closer than you think! Be deliberate about which direction you’re going in and use that vision to back-wards hack your way there. It really is that easy, when you go for it and get out of your own way.

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life

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