Jenn Stevens | Spiritual Life + Business Coach
What Is The Law of Attraction? | Sometimes we all need to get back to basics! If you’re a new student of the Law of Attraction or a seasoned pro, this video is a great reminder of what manifesting is really all about!
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Manifesting is so exciting! After all, who doesn’t want do design a life they’re wildly obsessed with? But there is something you #manifestationjunkies have to watch out for: that’s trying to manifest the impossible.
Look, I’m not someone who wants to rain on your parade! My job here on this site is truly to empower you and motivate you to start consciously creating your own life.
In general, I want to focus on what you can do instead of what you can’t! But I do get asked about these topics from time to time so I thought it would be helpful to do an entire post about it.
Sometimes the things we’re trying to manifest simply fall outside of our own power.
So let’s get clear about what those things are so that you can get back to focusing on the things you CAN manifest:
I love to tell people they can manifest anything they want in life! But that’s not entirely the truth. There are some very solid laws of the universe that simply can not be violated, no matter how much you desire them to be.
Even with all the faith in the world, you cannot change the laws of physics. You can’t be in two places at once. (Well, maybe while you’re dreaming but that’s another story.) You can’t fly. You can’t paint the sky green!
This might all sound ridiculous but it’s very much worth mentioning. While I don’t run into that many people trying to fly, honestly some of the things that I see people trying to manifest are essentially the same thing!
There’s a big difference between trying to manifest a beautiful life for yourself and trying to rearrange reality to suit your ego. So ask yourself: are you trying to change the past? Are you fighting hard against something that’s already happened? No amount of manifesting in the world can change history! We all just have to accept the world for what it is and work forwards from there. There’s no point in banging your head against a brick wall about something that’s already set in stone.
You have an incredible gift here on earth: total and complete autonomy over your own life!
The only problem? Everyone else has that same gift too!
Yup! That means attempting to control the people around you is just violating their own free will. Trying to make people do things solely for your benefit will often meet with mixed results. Changing someone’s thoughts, feelings and behaviors is an incredibly difficult thing to do–and if you do manage to succeed, it will have it’s consequences.
This most often comes up when people are trying to manifest a specific person to fall in love with them! Again, I won’t flat-out tell you not to attempt it. But truly think about the consequences of your actions. If the person you’re trying to manifest is already in another relationship, then you’re actually affecting three people, not just one! (That’s why I always suggest trying to manifest the best person for you instead of messing with other people’s lives.)
Certain elements of our life have been set in stone. These are our karmic paths. Many of the circumstances and obstacles we face were chosen specifically for us to experience! So no amount of manifesting can change them.
You chose to come into this life, in the time and body that you did. We’ve also chosen our parents (yup!) and most of the important people in our life. These are our soul families: people we’ve incarnated here with over and over again.
Our karmic plan also involves our eventual death. Some day our number will come up and manifesting cannot get you out of it! In Western culture, there’s a lot of hand wringing about this fact. Everyone fears the unknown and death is the biggest unknown of all! We also fear pain and suffering. So it’s natural that some people will try to manifest away their own end. However, that just won’t work!
So why not switch the focus back to what you can control? You can manifest health and an amazing body and all those wonderful things. Choose to live the best life possible in the time we have here (and in fact remembering that it’s short will put so much of life into true perspective).
As we already touched on, you can’t manifest for anyone else anyway! (If they don’t want to do put in the work, that’s their choice!) But to take it one step further, you definitely cannot no-way no-how change someone else’s karmic path.
That means you can’t change someone’s core struggles, their families, their children or their deaths. It’s so tempting to think that because we love someone we know what’s best for them! But some of the elements of life are simply not our human hands to control.
Sometimes we have to say goodbye. Sometimes we have to let people hurt themselves. Sometimes we have to love someone enough to let them figure life out for themselves. It can be tough to not want to interfere in the life of a loved one but at the end of the day, we’re all on our own path. We all enter and exit the world alone and that means we can only ever shift what’s going on inside of us.
If you’re desperately trying to “fix” someone else, this can be a tough lesson! But you will find so much peace when you step back rather than trying to change the immovable.
The more complicated you make manifesting, the more difficult it’s going to be! While most of us know this, I still see so many people who not only want to manifest something but also want to control all the details around how it shows up. And that, my darling, is just Too. Darn. Much.
Typically, when we’re trying to control so much of the world, it’s because we don’t truly believe in ourselves or the Universe. If you’ve ever encountered a control-freak in real life, you know that there are some fundamental trust issues going on beneath the surface! The same applies to manifesting.
The attachment to controlling every detail is a sign that you’re simply not in alignment. You cannot let go and trust because you fundamentally believe if you do, things will fall apart. That’s a pretty exhausting way to go through life and a very poor place to try to manifest from.
So if you’re spending time designing all the the details of your manifesting intention, it’s time to take a step back. You have to leave some room for the magic to surprise you and that’s awfully difficult when you’re micromanaging everything!
I hope this post sheds some light on the limitations we must all face in this human world! Again, this isn’t intended to be a Negative Nelly post. Rather, I’d just like to shift your focus back to what you can control rather than wasting your time and energy on the things you can’t!
Thank you so much for reading and, as always, let me know your thoughts and questions below!
As you have likely noticed by now, I’m a full-on #manifestationjunkie! I’ve been actively studying and playing with the Law of Attraction for about 6 years now.
I still am wildly obsessed with the concept. I LOVE anything that helps to empower people to dream big and make their lives as amazing as they should be.
That’s mostly because I think a lot of us are selling ourselves short. We’ve stopped believing in our own innate creation power. So these days I’ve made it my job to help you all remember just how powerful you really are.
Just take a look around you: everything you see (that’s manmade) originated as an idea in someone’s mind. Which is truly wild! Humans are crazy powerful, even though most of us don’t wake up feeling that way every morning.
With that said, I know what your next question is: what’s the difference between manifesting and–you know–just regular goal-setting stuff?
Honestly, the two are not that much different! You pick a target and head out.
One is simply consciously manifesting and the other isn’t. One is trying to do everything itself and the other is a lot more chilled about the whole process.
They both take you to the same place ultimately but you’ll have a lot more fun along with way when you operate from faith!
With the Law of Attraction, we know that there’s a secret invisible force behind the scenes. We know that we’ll get help along the way. And because we have full faith in our own power, we operate with a sense of confidence.
So it’s also true that you don’t really need a special teacher to start manifesting. You are a born manifestor. Your very nature is manifesting!
However, you likely haven’t explored this power. You’ve probably been shown by the world at large that if you don’t hustle and sweat, you’ll never achieve your dreams. You’ve been told that money is difficult to earn, that men come and go, that people like you just can’t live the life they really want to (insert reason here).
(And now you can see what I’m really fighting against!)
Your attitudes and beliefs about yourself and the world around you are what actually create your life!
To be honest, many spiritual people seem dead-set against dreaming big and setting goals. They want to just float and take life as it comes. And to a certain degree that’s cool–if you’re aware of the potential downfalls! But here’s where I think this goes wrong:
Humans are meant to live in expansion mode. That means constantly learning, growing and changing. The Universe itself is in a state of constant expansion so it only makes sense that we should do the same!
However, most of us shirk this notion. We’ve been conditioned to believe that you go to school, find a job and stay there forever. Of course, now we’re beginning to understand just how outdated that concept is!
Yet many of us still hold this up as the standard. So when life throws us some unexpected curveballs we take it personally. We’re not living up to the ideal so there must be something wrong with us–right?
Sometimes we stop setting goals because we think we’re past that stage. We’re adults now. We’ve checked all the boxes. The pushing part of our life is over.
But purpose is the opposite of depression!
When we stop having a focus, when we stop growing, we’ll one day wake up, look around and wonder “Is that all there is?” It’s so common to have this feeling of waking up in someone else’s life because you’ve gone on autopilot for months or years at a time. You’ve stopped listening to your soul–but when the soul wakes up, it’s going to confront you with the truth: something has gone deeply wrong.
Manifestation works hand in hand with growth. Manifestation asks that you constantly assess where you are so you can figure out where you want to go. And manifestation offers you a way to make all those dreams of yours a reality–but without the intense struggle and push that you’ve been conditioned to believe comes first.
In my world, successful manifestation is 10% intention and 90% mental work. So the people that literally want to sit on the sofa watching Kardashian marathons and not doing anything, will probably click away from this post right now!
But those of you who are really committed to growth might find this comforting. That’s because:
It isn’t a matter of not being good manifestor.
(Because you’ve been manifesting your entire life!)
It isn’t a matter of not being lucky.
(Because you can create your own luck!)
Manifesting lets you control all those variables you’ve been told are out of your control! It’s truly just about consciously creating your own life. It’s about deciding what you want and believing that you’re good enough to have it. It’s about throwing out your own unhelpful mind programming, beliefs and stories so you can start fresh.
Manifesting truly does create a wild new world of possibilities! So if this is your first introduction to the world of the Law of Attraction, welcome to the club of Conscious Creation.
I hope that post helps you whether you’re just becoming familiar with the Law of Attraction or whether you just needed a refresher in order to get excited about it again.
As always I’d love to hear your comments and questions, so please feel free to drop them below. Thank you so much for reading & I’ll see you back here next week!
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