Manifest A SPECIFIC Person

How To Manifest A Specific Person With The Law Of Attraction

Love is one of the most popular topics I get asked about with the Law of Attraction!

And the question I get asked the most is this:

How do I manifest a specific person?

The good news? Yes, it’s possible to manifest the person you’ve got your eye on.

But the bad news is that it’s not quite as simple as it first sounds.

Wanting to manifest a particular person is a super common request.

Whether it’s an ex you’re attempting to reconcile with or you’re trying to win over the affections of that hot flirty bartender, it’s easy to get sucked into the allure of manifesting love.

I’ve written about manifesting love before due to popularity, I knew this topic deserved its own separate entry.

And your wish is my command babydoll! So here we go: the Good, the Bad and the Unexpected Truth about how to attract a specific person using the Law of Attraction. (Now with video!)

How To Manifest A Specific Person

Manifest A Specific Person Principle #1: Respect Free Will

The most important thing to remember when you’re thinking about casting a love spell or manifesting your Dream Dude/Dudette into your life: everyone has a right to their personal sovereignty.

That means we can’t really ever control someone else’s thoughts, feelings or actions. After all, you probably wouldn’t like to have that happen to you, right? The same rules apply to the current object of your affections. Even if you’re truly the best match in the world for them, no one wants to be controlled.

That might not come as welcome news but obviously, it’s complete arrogance to presume to know what’s right for someone else–especially when you don’t know a thing about them!

So if we can’t control people’s thoughts and actions, then what can we do? If you are really set on this idea, there are two things I suggest instead.

What To Manifest Instead of A Specific Person

First, try manifesting a chance encounter with the object of your attention. (No strings attached!)

Or do what I always suggest first and create a list of qualities your ideal partner would have. Then set about manifesting that. This is the best thing to d with love, only always. (And besides, isn’t that what you really want anyway?)

Manifest A Specific Person Principle #2: Never Give Your Power Away

When you like someone a lot (like a lot A LOT), you’ve already automatically created a power imbalance that makes you much more likely to repel them than to attract them. Annoying but true!

Here’s how this works: we sometimes create all kinds of unrealistic scenarios in our mind that our crush cannot possibly live up to. But that kind of perfectionist thinking puts the whole relationship on a pedestal.

And make no mistake, the other person can feel it. When you’re trying just a little too hard, they’re energetically just going to do what feels natural to them: run away.

Here’s an example of giving your power away to a specific person

If you’ve convinced yourself that you will never EVER be happy unless this one person loves you back, then you’ve definitely handed all your power over to that person. Like really? You can’t be happy unless THIS ONE PERSON loves you? In this entire world of amazing magical humans, only THIS ONE will do?

Look I get it! In the throes of a crush, that all might seem very true. When our hearts are involved, it’s often difficult to see reality! But try to get some perspective. Think back to your crushes of yesteryear. How exactly do you feel about those bozos now?

While your emotions might be overwhelming at times, it’s important to maintain perspective. So like I suggested in the first tip, always come back to manifesting what’s actually right for you.

Manifest A Specific Person Principle #3: Figure Out What’s Missing

Thinking deeply about why we’re attracted to the people we are is a powerful way to get to know ourselves a bit better. That’s because our love interest/crush almost always represents an unknown part of ourselves.

Attraction is quite often about completion; we’re seeking to make ourselves whole by finding a “missing” piece in someone else. Or similarly, in the case of people seeking to reunite with an old flame, you’re typically trying to reclaim some piece of yourself that you now perceive as missing.

However, this never actually works the way our subconscious mind wants it to! The only person who can truly complete you is you–which, again, is why it’s so important to figure out what your crush represents to you.

Every experience in our human lives is ultimately about growth. So what’s even more important than the actual person is figuring out what they really mean to you. I guarantee you there is something about them that you want for yourself, even if you haven’t consciously figured out what that is yet.

I invite you to get curious and see what you can discover about you.

According the the Law of Attraction, we only manifest what we want when we’re also on that level. Doing this inner work really will make you more magnetic to what (or who) you really want!

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Manifest A Specific Person Principle #4: Become Your Future Self

When we envision ourselves falling in love with that (supposedly) perfect person, the fantasy is never just about the relationship! It’s also about our new identity as a part of the couple. Somehow seeing ourselves with another person makes us suddenly think of ourselves as being smarter, funnier, sexier or more outgoing. Or in other words, it allows us to become our Future Badass Self.

While it might initially feel like it’s the other person really is making us more of those things, that’s not what’s really going on. In the end, the other person is just an excuse you’re using to tap into the parts of you that were already there.

Why don’t you just skip straight through “needing” someone else and just become that person you really want to be?

You don’t actually need the guy or the girl to be funny, confident, vivacious or sexy! (And you never did.)

If you somehow think that you’ll dress differently or feel more relaxed in a crowd while in a relationship, then clearly some part of you just wants to BE that kind of person. So stop waiting and just do it!

Becoming who you want to be is a powerful form of magic. We don’t attract who we want. We attract who we are. So, from a Law of Attraction perspective, allowing yourself to become that person is exactly what will attract your crush to you. Feeling comes before having, only always. Just sayin….

Manifest A Specific Person Principle #5: Don’t Chase

Chasing down the object of your affection might seem like the only course of action. But is that really the smart thing to do?

Think about it: what would you do if someone started chasing you down the street? DUH! You’d run away–fast! And that’s the same reaction whether you’re a two-year-old, a dog or the extremely hot bartender at your local.

In an energetic sense, chasing is really just a symptom that we’re not trusting the process or surrendering to the Universe.

It’s a frantic sign that we’re trying to control the how–one of the biggest no-nos in the manifesting handbook!

Never fool yourself. Trying to manifest a man into your life or a specific person for most of us is just another form of chasing. That’s not to say that you can’t take any action at all. But it’s just important to know that the art of flirting (and attraction) is all about the push AND pull.

In other words, you can’t come on too strongly all the time or you’ll just scare your crush away!

Try to move from chasing and controlling and into finding your flow. This process is about becoming magnetic and attracting what you want into your life!

Work on becoming it and feeling it, not on desperately running towards it. Just don’t get too excited and throw yourself headfirst into the romantic manipulation. Besides what’s the rush? It’s all going to happen in divine timing and if your person is meant for you, then take a deep breath and enjoy the beautiful ride!

Manifest A Specific Person Principle #6:

Focus On That Feeling

Falling in love is a wonderful–the best feeling in the world! But feelings aren’t physical things that exist out in the world. They’re an energetic state that you are ultimately creating.

When we fall in love with someone, we’re just letting ourselves have that love experience. But the truth is, we could experience that at any time. The feelings are just the result of the thoughts you’re having.

That also means you can 100% fall in love even when the other person is not involved! However, that obviously doesn’t affect anything on the other person’s end. (So no, definitely don’t start showing up at their work and sending them flowers.)

Giving love always feels good, whether our crush is involved or not.

And again that feeling comes from inside us, not from the other person.

Let this empower you to bestow the gift of love on the world around you. You can send loving vibes all the livelong day and that well of love will never dry up! It will actually get stronger.

Vibrating in love is a boon to your ability to manifest love! (Feeling before receiving, remember?) So the more you pour love energy out into the world the more love you will attract back into your life! It might not come from exactly who you want it to come from, but you will always experience the return of your loving energy. And that’s always a beautiful thing.

Manifest A Specific Person Principle #7:


The biggest reason why attracting a specific person almost NEVER works with the Law of Attraction is that we save this effort only for people we like entirely too much. We already want to control everything–which means we’re asking way too much. The biggest trick with the Law of Attraction is setting your intention and releasing it in full faith.

When you’re in the middle of a crush, you are already highly emotionally invested in that one person, so much so that it would be difficult to shrug your shoulders and stop obsessing over the whole scenario. (“Will he text me back? Will she be at the party?”)

Letting go is always key to the manifesting practice.

It’s a sign of full faith.

If you’re too attached before anything has even happened, it’s never going to work. That’s because you’re already too attached to the outcome. Manifestation energy requires a sense of playfulness and curiosity. In other words, “Wouldn’t it be cool if….?” rather than “My life is over unless X asks me out on Friday.”

If you’ve already fallen too far into the Like Tank, it’s time to snap out of it!
You might have tunnel vision at the moment but don’t forget that the world is positively teeming with new romantic possibilities.

So get yourself back on Tinder. Chat up the person next to you at the bar. Do something (anything!) to break yourself out of your Eggs In One Basket Syndrome.

Besides, if you’re doing the work of manifesting the very best person for you (which is what you should be doing BTW!) this might just open the doors for you to find them. And in any case, it will make you a whole lot less anxious about that one special person as well.

Manifest A Specific Person FAQ

Is it possible to manifest love?

Yes of course! Learn more about how to manifest love here.

How do you write a manifestation for a specific person?

Setting an intention is as easy as deciding on something in your mind. But if you want to set an intention with writing, you can also do that.

There’s always something witchy and poweful about writing down your intentions–even if you don’t use any love magick at all.

Here’s how to do it:

Be sure to use the person’s full name. Write down the traits in them that you like. Then write down what you want to happen. Use present tense!

And voila! That’s it.

How do you attract a specific person?

Yes it’s possible to attract a specific person with the Law of Attraction! Just use the steps above.

Can I manifest to see someone?

Of course! Manifesting a specific person isn’t always about romance. Sometimes it’s about friendship or even career opportunities. Put out your intention that you want to run into them somehow and see what happens!

Can I manifest a text from someone?

Yes! Use the same outline as above but simply change your intention to receive a text.

Can I manifest seeing someone in person again?

Yes, you can definitely manifest seeing someone in person. Just be sure you’re specific about that when setting your intention?

Can you manifest a specific person back into your life?

Yes, you can definitely manifest someone back into your life (like an ex or an ex-friend). The exact same process applies. (But if you’re manifesting an ex, just be sure that you really want them back!)

You can also learn how to manifest your ex back here.

What is the 369 method?

You can definitely use the 369 method to manifest someone specific.

Can I feel if someone is manifesting me?

Yes! Read more about signs that someone is manifesting you here.

Can I manifest something for someone?

Fortunately for all of us, the answer to that is no! When you want to manifest something for someone, try reframing your desire. What can you manifest for yourself instead?

So tell me: what are you going to do to manifest the love you truly deserve? Which tip are you going to apply to your own practice?

I hope that helps you take an enlightened and practical approach towards attracting a specific person using the Law of Attraction! While it’s not impossible, but it’s definitely not as easy as casting a love spell and being done with it. The big key is always to start to become that which you want–that’s always when you become truly magnetic.

Good luck & always let love rule!

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life

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  1. Thank you for this post – I wish I could get your advice on my specific situation! (Where the person I’d like to attract is not a stranger but was my partner for more than 4 years). So difficult to know how to handle it…

    1. The same principles still apply! It’s about getting in alignment with that person and (basically) just becoming the best version of you possible! Concentrate on holding that loving energy in your heart but also get really busy living YOUR life to the best of your abilities. Good luck ????

  2. Thank you for your post, it really helped me. I need to work harder to love myself, but I have made progress. I am very interested in what you have to teach and land am interested in learning more.Thank you for your post

  3. This is a terrific post and it opens my eyes to my situation. I love her like crazy want her back in my life so badly. It’s hard to let go when she mean so much to me. I wish I could use LOA to get her back. But I’m sure we’re on different vibrations right now. I’m still in the Hurt stage. She’s livin life.

    1. Hi Paul! As always, the best thing to do is get back on your game. Good luck! ????

  4. I just want to attract him to me as a friend. What can I do?

    1. Be the best kind of friend you can be to the people already in your life! Be friendly & see what happens ????

  5. Hi Jenn! I had a situation that took place recently that left me hurt and lost. I have always had this vision of the perfect mate for myself and low and behold this person starts talking to me on social media. It felt so good at the time but then ended abruptly. How do I recover from this situation? He is constantly on my mind still so is there a chance I can “re-attract” him or just cut my losses? Thanks!-Mandy

    1. Hi Mandy! To me, it sounds like he’s a manifesting “test”: something that’s close to what we want but isn’t ultimately it. When those tests happen, it means you’re very close to getting what you want. So stay true to YOUR vision of what your partner looks like & don’t get too caught up on the idea that this person is it. Good luck! ????

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