Love is one of the most popular topics I get asked about with the Law of Attraction!
And the question I get asked the most is this:
How do I manifest a specific person with the Law of Attraction?
The good news? Yes, it’s possible to manifest the person you’ve got your eye on.
But the bad news is that it’s not quite as simple as it first sounds.
So please know that wanting to call in a specific person is a super common request.
Whether it’s an ex you’re attempting to reconcile with or you’re trying to win over the affections of that hot flirty bartender, it’s easy to get sucked into the allure of manifesting love.
I’ve written about manifesting love before due to popularity, I knew this topic deserved its own separate entry.
And your wish is my command babydoll! So here we go: the Good, the Bad and the Unexpected Truth about how to attract a specific person using the Law of Attraction. (Now with video!)
How To Manifest A Specific Person With The Law Of Attraction
Manifest A Specific Person Principle #1:
Respect Free Will
The most important thing to remember when you’re thinking about casting a love spell or manifesting your Dream Dude/Dudette into your life: everyone has a right to their personal sovereignty.
That means we can’t really ever control someone else’s thoughts, feelings or actions. After all, you probably wouldn’t like to have that happen to you, right? The same rules apply to the current object of your affections. Even if you’re truly the best match in the world for them, no one wants to be controlled.
That might not come as welcome news but obviously, it’s complete arrogance to presume to know what’s right for someone else–especially when you don’t know a thing about them!
So if we can’t control people’s thoughts and actions, then what can we do? If you are really set on this idea, there are two things I suggest instead.
First, try manifesting a chance encounter with the object of your attention. (No strings attached!)
Or do what I always suggest first and create a list of qualities your ideal partner would have. Then set about manifesting that. This is the best thing to d with love, only always. (And besides, isn’t that what you really want anyway?)
Manifest A Specific Person Principle #2:
Never Give Your Power Away
When you like someone a lot (like a lot A LOT), you’ve already automatically created a power imbalance that makes you much more likely to repel them than to attract them. Annoying but true!
Here’s how this works: we sometimes create all kinds of unrealistic scenarios in our mind that our crush cannot possibly live up to. But that kind of perfectionist thinking puts the whole relationship on a pedestal.
And make no mistake, the other person can feel it. When you’re trying just a little too hard, they’re energetically just going to do what feels natural to them: run away.
Here’s an example:
If you’ve convinced yourself that you will never EVER be happy unless this one person loves you back, then you’ve definitely handed all your power over to that person. Like really? You can’t be happy unless THIS ONE PERSON loves you? In this entire world of amazing magical humans, only THIS ONE will do?
Look I get it! In the throes of a crush, that all might seem very true. When our hearts are involved, it’s often difficult to see reality! But try to get some perspective. Think back to your crushes of yesteryear. How exactly do you feel about those bozos now?
While your emotions might be overwhelming at times, it’s important to maintain perspective. So like I suggested in the first tip, always come back to manifesting what’s actually right for you.
Manifest A Specific Person Principle #3:
Figure Out What’s Missing
Thinking deeply about why we’re attracted to the people we are is a powerful way to get to know ourselves a bit better. That’s because our love interest/crush almost always represents an unknown part of ourselves.
Attraction is quite often about completion; we’re seeking to make ourselves whole by finding a “missing” piece in someone else. Or similarly, in the case of people seeking to reunite with an old flame, you’re typically trying to reclaim some piece of yourself that you now perceive as missing.
However, this never actually works the way our subconscious mind wants it to! The only person who can truly complete you is you–which, again, is why it’s so important to figure out what your crush represents to you.
Every experience in our human lives is ultimately about growth. So what’s even more important than the actual person is figuring out what they really mean to you. I guarantee you there is something about them that you want for yourself, even if you haven’t consciously figured out what that is yet.
So I invite you to get curious and see what you can discover about you.
Besides, from a Law of Attraction point of view, we only realize what we want when we’re on that level, energetically speaking. So doing this work really will make you more magnetic to what (or who) you really want!
Manifest A Specific Person Principle #4:
Become Your Future Self
When we envision ourselves falling in love with that (supposedly) perfect person, the fantasy is never just about the relationship! It’s also about our new identity as a part of the couple. Somehow seeing ourselves with another person makes us suddenly think of ourselves as being smarter, funnier, sexier or more outgoing. Or in other words, it allows us to become our Future Badass Self.
While it might initially feel like it’s the other person really is making us more of those things, that’s not what’s really going on. In the end, the other person is just an excuse you’re using to tap into the parts of you that were already there.
So why don’t you just skip straight through “needing” someone else and just become that person you really want to be? Again, you don’t actually need the guy or the girl to be funny, confident, vivacious or sexy!
If you somehow think that you’ll dress differently or feel more relaxed in a crowd while in a relationship, then clearly some part of you just wants to BE that kind of person. So stop waiting and just do it!
And again, becoming is a powerful form of magic. We don’t attract who we want. We attract who we are. So, from a Law of Attraction perspective, allowing yourself to become that person is exactly what will attract your crush to you. Feeling comes before having, only always. Just sayin….
Manifest A Specific Person Principle #5:
Chasing down the object of your affection might seem like the only course of action. But is that really the smart thing to do?
Think about it: what would you do if someone started chasing you down the street? DUH! You’d run away–fast! And that’s the same reaction whether you’re a two-year-old, a dog or the extremely hot bartender at your local.
In an energetic sense, chasing is really just a symptom that we’re not trusting the process or surrendering to the Universe. It’s a frantic sign that we’re trying to control the how–one of the biggest no-nos in the manifesting handbook!
So don’t fool yourself: trying to manifest a specific person for most of us is just another form of chasing. That’s not to say that you can’t take any action at all. But it’s just important to know that the art of flirting (and attraction) is all about the push AND pull.
In other words, you can’t come on too strongly all the time or you’ll just scare your crush away!
Try to move from chasing and controlling and into finding your flow. This process is about becoming magnetic and attracting what you want into your life!
So work on becoming it and feeling it, not on desperately running towards it. Just don’t get too excited and throw yourself headfirst into the romantic manipulation. Besides what’s the rush? It’s all going to happen in divine timing and if your person is meant for you, then take a deep breath and enjoy the beautiful ride!
Manifest A Specific Person Principle #6:
Focus On That Feeling
Falling in love is a wonderful–the best feeling in the world! But feelings aren’t physical things that exist out in the world. They’re an energetic state that you are ultimately creating.
When we fall in love with someone, we’re just letting ourselves have that love experience. But the truth is, we could experience that at any time. The feelings are just the result of the thoughts you’re having.
So yes, that also means you can 100% fall in love even when the other person is not involved! But obviously, that doesn’t affect anything on the other person’s end. (So no, definitely don’t start showing up at their work and sending them flowers.)
Giving love always feels good, whether our crush is involved or not. And again that feeling comes from inside us, not from the other person.
So let this empower you to bestow the gift of love on the world around you.
You can send loving vibes all the livelong day and that well of love will never dry up! It will actually get stronger.
Of course, this is also a boon to your ability to manifest love! (Feeling before receiving, remember?) So the more you pour love energy out into the world the more love you will attract back into your life! It might not come from exactly who you want it to come from, but you will always experience the return of your loving energy. And that’s always a beautiful thing.
Manifest A Specific Person Principle #7:
The biggest reason why attracting a specific person almost NEVER works with the Law of Attraction is that we save this effort only for people we like entirely too much. We already want to control everything–which means we’re asking way too much. The biggest trick with the Law of Attraction is setting your intention and releasing it in full faith.
When you’re in the middle of a crush, you are already highly emotionally invested in that one person, so much so that it would be difficult to shrug your shoulders and stop obsessing over the whole scenario. (“Will he text me back? Will she be at the party?”)
But letting go is always key to the manifesting practice. It’s a sign of full faith.
If you’re too attached before anything has even happened, it’s never going to work. That’s because you’re already too attached to the outcome. Manifestation energy requires a sense of playfulness and curiosity. In other words, “Wouldn’t it be cool if….?” rather than “My life is over unless X asks me out on Friday.”
If you’ve already fallen too far into the Like Tank, it’s time to snap out of it!
You might have tunnel vision at the moment but don’t forget that the world is positively teeming with new romantic possibilities.
So get yourself back on Tinder. Chat up the person next to you at the bar. Do something (anything!) to break yourself out of your Eggs In One Basket Syndrome.
Besides, if you’re doing the work of manifesting the very best person for you (which is what you should be doing BTW!) this might just open the doors for you to find them. And in any case, it will make you a whole lot less anxious about that one special person as well.
So tell me: what are you going to do to manifest the love you truly deserve? Which tip are you going to apply to your own practice?
I hope that helps you take an enlightened and practical approach towards attracting a specific person using the Law of Attraction! While it’s not impossible, but it’s definitely not as easy as casting a love spell and being done with it. The big key is always to start to become that which you want–that’s always when you become truly magnetic.
So good luck & always let love rule. ????
PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about how to manifest your ex back or this one about how to manifest love.
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How To Use The Law of Attraction For A Specific Person
Hi guys it is Jenn from the Aligned life and I’m here today to bring you a very highly requested video.
This video is all about how to use the law of attraction to attract a specific person into your life. I’ve mentioned before I’m sure on here and on my blog that the top two questions I always get in regards to the law of attraction are always: things to do with money and things to do is love. When it comes to lovem the most popular question of all is how do I attract a specific person using the law of attraction?
So this is kind of a big can of worms which is why I thought I would want to do a video for you guys. It’s not all bad news but it might not all be the news that you want to hear. So let’s just put that out there right away.
The first reason for that I want to talk about this today is because of the matter of free will. So of course everybody is a sovereign being. We’re all sovereign over our own lives and that is exactly what I teach. In my manifesting classes I teach that you are a powerful conscious creator of your own life. But you cannot control other people.
So obviously you only get to control your story. You only get to write your story and the story of everybody else in the world is up to them. It’s kind of bad juju if you want to go messing around with that. I mean of course that doesn’t mean doing anything bad or terrible. It just causing the question in the your desire to want to do a love spell because I mean if you are only coercing someone into loving you because you did this thing do they really love you? that is the first question.
The second question is: even if they do start to love you for a little while eventually the same issues are going to come up. So I would advise highly against doing any specific like love magic or love spells. That is the biggest reason that is frowned upon.
But that doesn’t mean that there’s not anything you can do!
So we’re going to go through a few more reasons here today: things that you can do, things to think about if you are trying to attract a specific person into your life.
Okay so the second reason why the law using the law of attraction or love spell doesn’t really work when it comes to attracting a specific person is because fundamentally, we are giving that person so much power over us. So if you are basically saying to the Universe and to the world: “I will only be happy if I am loved by this person” then that person has the sole power to make you happy or not. Obviously that is way too much power to give anybody. You are the sole person in charge of your own happiness and if you are relying on somebody else to do that for you then you are not in your full power.
You are actually falling into an ego trap thinking that you need to be approved by this person in order to be loved. But if you don’t love yourself first of course no one else can. That is the biggest trick with personal development and manifesting. It’s all about our loving ourselves first before we can get it from someone else.
So if you are putting all of your stakes on one specific person, I want you to just take a deep breath and really start to call your power back into yourself and bring it back into loving yourself. Because that is the most important thing that you can do and that’s what you have to do first before you can attract anything into your life.
Okay the third thing is that every single time we have a crush on somebody or that we are attracted to somebody, it is because we are attempting to complete a missing element of ourselves. I mean this isn’t always the case but this is the case a lot of times. So for example, say you’re a really shy person and you see this person that is super outgoing and super gregarious and you are instantly attracted to them. It is not just about that person like physically. It is about what they actually are. So this person is walking through the world and in a completely different way than you and there is something about that that is super attractive to you.
So it’s not really about the crush it is actually about the elements of that person that are missing from you. So I actually think crushes are a really good tool to find out more information about ourselves. They can kind of tell us where we need to grow and where we need to focus on next in our life.
That isn’t to say that you can’t have that relationship. It’s just about completing yourself. It’s not real (no that’s not really true). But there are definitely two work tools like the attraction that we feel to people is definitely a tool that we can use to discover more about ourselves.
So I would invite you to think about the person that you are wanting to attract and start to question what it is about that person that you think is missing from your life. Because I think that will help enlighten you in a way that a few other questions can and will help with your manifesting.
Also because of course the more that we become what we think that person wants they’re the more welcome that the thing that we want to be the more we attract that thing back to us.
So this is just going to be a clue for personal development and for your manifesting: try to figure out what that person represents that you don’t have.
Number four: so every time we think about ourselves in this happy perfect relationship with this special person, you are not just imagining that person loving you. But you are imagining yourself as a slightly different person. So you have created this little fantasy world in your head and in that fantasy world you feel loved and secure and sexy or whatever it is. Whatever those things are I want you to think about that. Like think about what you think this relationship would make you feel. Think about that person. Think about who that person is and then start becoming that person you don’t have to wait for someone to love you in order to feel those things! Or to become that person. You don’t have to wait for anybody. You can just start doing that right now! And the trick is, with the law of attraction, of course the more that you become that person, the more that you will actually attract that relationship into your life.
And maybe it isn’t with the person you think it’s with. Maybe it’s with someone else. But the more that you can step into that role of becoming this happy fulfilled sexy whatever feeling person, the more that that will actually show up in your reality.
So I want you to think about that think about the kind of person you think this relationship will make you be and then start working towards it. That will help attract it to you. It is all about becoming. It is never ever about bringing that person to us.
This is all about becoming the thing we want in real life.
Okay number five: just the same as with any other manifesting practice, attracting a specific person to you is all about flow and not about force. So what I mean by this is don’t chase that person. So of course the more we’re all like just um running on instincts and of course if anybody starts chasing you down the street what do you do you? Run away! You don’t run towards that person. So the more that you chase somebody the less likely they are going to be to let you catch them.
It is not about chasing. It’s not about forcing. It is not about showing up where this person’s gonna be every time. It is not about trying to get them to go on a date with you when they don’t want to. It’s not anything like that.
The whole trick for a relationship and for the law of attraction it is all about attracting. You are trying to attract this person to you not forcing them to be with you. So if any of your energy is going into activities to make this person hang out with you and I would just say drop that entirely. The point is that we are going to become so magnetic and so attractive that person will have no choice but to come towards you. That’s the way you have to do it. You can’t think about going after them. You have to think about drawing them into you. That is the way this works.
Number six is to focus on love. So with any crush…I mean I’m a big fan of crushes! I just have to say I usually always have some crush on somebody somewhere and I think crushes are really awesome in general. And the thing is like when I was younger, I would have a crush and I felt totally out of control because I felt like oh I like this person so much and there was nothing I could do to bring them into my life.
But the thing is now that I’ve studied the law of attraction and studied energy of course I know that sending out a loving energy is something you can do without anyone’s permission. You can do this anytime with anyone, anywhere.
You can send anyone you want to love and it is like an energetic gift. Of course the thing is with love, love is not a finite resource! The more love that we bring into our lives the more love we feel love is not something that can dry up and shrivel. It’ll never do that.
So you can give up as much love and as much love and as much love as you want every single day and there will always be more love to give.
So this the trick is though with this is that you can’t give that love and expect something back. Each time we put an expectation on any relationship even in real life if we expect that because we love somebody they have to love us back that we’ve already set ourselves up for the fall.
Love is always about giving from our own free will and you don’t need anyone to do that. You can give it yourself. Of course the way this works is the law of attraction is the more that you give, the more that you receive. So again this might not come back 100% in the form of the person that you want to attract! But I guarantee you it will put you in a more loving a state of mind and there will be more love in your life in general the more love that you give out.
So I highly encourage you to go and send love send energetic love to the person that you have a crush on or that you want to attract. You can do that but just do it with complete free will. Make sure that you are not adding any expectation on there. But it just actually feels good. Like giving love feels good. Receiving love feels good but giving love also feels good and you don’t need anyone to do that. You can do this with anybody anybody you want to, even celebrities. So go ahead!
Freely practice giving it like a gift and see how you feel and see what changes in your world. Because I guarantee like I said the more love that you give up the more love that you will attract ultimately and that is always an awesome thing.
So the final point about trying to attract a specific person using the law of attraction is this: one of the reasons why this usually doesn’t work is because you can only attract somebody using a law of attraction if you are willing to let it go.
So with any law of attraction scenario one of the big steps is always like making a declaration to the Universe and then releasing it and then knowing in your heart that it’s done. But you’re not sitting around worrying about it all the time. You know that it’s coming to you. You’ve released it it’s done. It’s over. It’s on its way.
But keep doing your inspired actions and the thing will eventually show up. So the problem with having a crush is that most people can’t let it go. Like you are so over-the-top attracted to this person that you can’t stop thinking about them and it makes you super sad to think about them not being in your life. Then you are already too attached. You have to take a step back. Whatever you need to do, maybe you need to go on Tinder and date some other people or you need to distract yourself by like enrolling in a bunch of classes or something like that.
You just have to do something to get them off the top of your mind. Because if they are the first person that you think of in the morning and the last person that you think of at night and they don’t even know you, then that’s not good. So you need to learn how to let it go. Just start thinking of this as a game as like any other manifesting game.
You have to be like “Oh wouldn’t it be cool if so-and-so asked me out?” and then kind of know it, see it, feel it in your heart and then let it go. Don’t obsess over it! If you can’t let it go then you are too attached to it and you’re not going to manifest anything.
So that is I know a huge trick especially if you are in the middle of unrequited love! But it’s possible, it’s totally possible. You just need to make yourself stop obsessing. You need to let it go.
So that is all of my rather unconventional advice for attracting a specific person using the law of attraction. Again I am Jenn from The Aligned Life and I write a lot of blog posts and stuff over at The Aligned Life dot C-CO about manifesting, the law of attraction magic and personal development. So if you like all that stuff please go over there and check it out.
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So thank you so much for watching! I wish you all good luck in your manifesting a specific person intensions. I hope this video helps you out in that regards. This is all true! It does work. I’m not trying to do this to discourage anyone from doing it. If you want to do it go for it but just know, know in your heart what the parameters are and please love yourself first love yourself first. That’s all I’m asking.
Okay again I’m Jenn from The Aligned Life and I’m asking you to get ready for the miracle and I will see you in the next vlog!
Thank you for this post – I wish I could get your advice on my specific situation! (Where the person I’d like to attract is not a stranger but was my partner for more than 4 years). So difficult to know how to handle it…
The same principles still apply! It’s about getting in alignment with that person and (basically) just becoming the best version of you possible! Concentrate on holding that loving energy in your heart but also get really busy living YOUR life to the best of your abilities. Good luck ????
Thank you for your post, it really helped me. I need to work harder to love myself, but I have made progress. I am very interested in what you have to teach and land am interested in learning more.Thank you for your post
Thank you Linda!!
This is a terrific post and it opens my eyes to my situation. I love her like crazy want her back in my life so badly. It’s hard to let go when she mean so much to me. I wish I could use LOA to get her back. But I’m sure we’re on different vibrations right now. I’m still in the Hurt stage. She’s livin life.
Hi Paul! As always, the best thing to do is get back on your game. Good luck! ????
I just want to attract him to me as a friend. What can I do?
Be the best kind of friend you can be to the people already in your life! Be friendly & see what happens ????
Hi Jenn! I had a situation that took place recently that left me hurt and lost. I have always had this vision of the perfect mate for myself and low and behold this person starts talking to me on social media. It felt so good at the time but then ended abruptly. How do I recover from this situation? He is constantly on my mind still so is there a chance I can “re-attract” him or just cut my losses? Thanks!-Mandy
Hi Mandy! To me, it sounds like he’s a manifesting “test”: something that’s close to what we want but isn’t ultimately it. When those tests happen, it means you’re very close to getting what you want. So stay true to YOUR vision of what your partner looks like & don’t get too caught up on the idea that this person is it. Good luck! ????