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Let’s Make Resistance Your New BFF! Move Through The Shit To Create Your Magic

by: Jenn

So you set your intention and you put in the work to get in the vortex and feel good….

Then it happens.

Resistance: a bump in the road ahead. We encounter an unexpected setback, a delay in time, or maybe even a whole new whack of obstacles that we’d never even anticipated.

All that “bad” stuff can make you go a little crazy–or maybe even make you think like you somehow got this manifesting thing all wrong!

That’s why I’m here to reassure you that’s not the case! Resistance is just part of the package. It’s nothing to do with you getting it wrong or not deserving what you want.

We can’t anticipate every bump in the road! So there’s really no reason to freak out when it happens.

But I get it. When you feel like something has gone wrong you immediately want to blame yourself or something for the problem.

But what if nothing has gone wrong? What if resistance is just part of how you move forward?

Doesn’t that shift the way you perceive it? Doesn’t that empower you to keep moving forward? Doesn’t that make you feel good about what’s happening?

So many of the things we label as negative are actually here to help us!

When you reframe your thinking about resistance, it frees up so much energy and helps you to focus on what you really need to do next.

In short, we all meet with resistance in one way or another! And the best way to work through that resistance is to cultivate the right mindset.

So here are my top five best tips to help you deal with resistance so you can stop feeling sorry for yourself and start making progress again!

5 Ways To Make Resistance Your New BFF

Make Resistance Your New BFF Tip #1:

Know Fear Always Equals Growth

Fact: our brains are hardwired to keep us safe and protected. After all, we’re the descendants of the survivors. And our genes have done exactly what they were meant to do: survive.

However, times have changed and our brains have not yet caught up. The average person encounters very few life-threatening situations on a day-to-day basis. Yet our brain still sends out fear signals all the time!

Instead of picking up only on life-threatening stuff, it now classifies anything that’s unknown as scary. Which is totally unfortunate because going to the next level (starting a company, getting a promotion, falling in love, travelling etc.) all involve doing something new. If you listen to what your body is telling you, you’ll make excuses for doing all those things even if they’re exactly what you really want.

In other words, fear is always just an illusion! It’s a blanket of fog that clouds our vision and makes everything seem way more terrifying than it is. That’s why simply facing your fears head on brings so much clarity and power! The things our brain wants to make us so afraid of are never as bad as we’d imagined.

In fact, I actually believe that fear simply highlights our quickest path to growth and success. We don’t learn nearly as much from the safety of our comfort zone! That’s why getting thrown off your path often yields the biggest life lessons and results. (You can read more about my particular journey right here!)

Make Resistance Your New BFF Tip #2:

Repeating Patterns

If you find yourself experiencing something over and over again, that’s a whopper of a sign that something needs to shift!

I like to use a video game analogy to explain this. In the old-school Super Mario world, if you tried to pass a level but made a mistake and died, the next time you played you’d try not to repeat the same thing! You’d automatically try out a new tactic instead.

But in the real world, few of us take the same approach! Instead we get upset that our approach isn’t working–and erroneously think that if we keep doing the same thing over and over that eventually the world will suddenly work the way we want it to.

Oh heck no girl! This approach is clearly madness–and it’s time to stop! If you’re stuck dating the same kind of person or in the same kind of job (or whatever it is for you!) time and time again, then you know it’s up to you to create something different.

Figure out where the common threads are. Why do you keep being attracted to the same kind of person? What patterns are continually happening at work that you could take new action on? Shifting out of feeling stuck isn’t about hoping things will work better this time! It’s about figuring out what you can do differently to avoid the same result in the future.

Make Resistance Your New BFF Tip #3:

Contrast

Way too many of us still fall prey to the myth of perfection. But trust me on this: it’s an absolute lie that you can either make a million dollars or get married etc. and never experience a negative emotion ever again! While we might not classify ourselves as perfectionists, so many of us still fall prey to this fairy-tale line of thinking. But we only hurt ourselves in the process.

Life isn’t always going to be rosy. It isn’t always going to turn out exactly the way you want it too. But it’s all just part of the experience of being human. Learning what you don’t want or finding out what’s not working is key to figuring out what does. This is the process of contrast.

Resistance is simply a natural part of your growth so please stop thinking that you can somehow magic your way out of it! That attitude will only set you up for failure, unnecessary pain and self-loathing.

Make Resistance Your New BFF Tip #4:

Reframe Your Game

Today’s fun fact: your brain is kind of a drama queen! But don’t worry, because so is everyone else’s. That brain of yours just loves to search out problems for you to ruminate on. In fact, not having a problem to face might make your brain feel kind of weird. This problem-seeking tendency is just a bad habit that creates so much of our drama and pain!

And it need not be that way.

Those negative feelings feel very real when you’re in them. It might then be surprising to note that you’re only feeling that way because of the story you’ve created. So if you want to stop all the mental drama and anguish in its tracks, you simply need to change the story.

If you walk around thinking that every hurdle is a punishment that you could have avoided, they of course those hurdles aren’t going to feel good! So please try to remember that that’s not true.

Even with manifesting and holding space for what you want as best you can, the Universe knows best. Getting to the next level is simply about uplevelling and growing. So often the resistance that we face is simply an opportunity for growth in disguise.

If you decided to see your “problems” as opportunities to shine your light and to learn and expand, then you’d automatically switch back into your power instead of moping around in victim mode. The story you tell yourself truly matters! So make sure you’re paying attention to yours.

Make Resistance Your New BFF Tip #5:

Pass The Level

Manifesting is truly just about growth in the end. And sometimes the Universe is simply watching and testing you to see how much you’ve grown. That means if you really want to go to the next level you have to pass the test in front of you (whatever that might be!).

From an energetic viewpoint, few of us realize this is happening. We’re too busy creating drama about the fact that our life isn’t yet perfect to realize that the very real challenge in front of us is in fact the direct path to what we want.

You can protest all you want but that won’t help doing the work you’re meant to do. Your lesson is right here so why not dive in and start passing it? And why waste so much time and energy wishing things were different? Resisting reality is one of best ways to stay miserable and stuck.

So let’s figure it out: what does passing this level look like for you? Maybe it means saying no to the person who’s close-but-not-quite right. Maybe that means turning down a tempting job offer because it’s not what you really wanted. Whatever it is, do your best to identify it and move forward as fast as you can. And PS? That’s exactly how you uplevel fast.

Tell me: what kinds of resistance and obstacles are you facing on the path to manifesting success? How are you going to reframe the situation to get your power back and start moving forward again?

The way you look at the world truly does have an effect on your results. It’s actually the more loving and productive choice to stop our annoying human habit of labelling things either good or bad. Removing the negative drama we create will free up so much more of your energy to focus on what truly matters!

Thank you so much for reading! Good luck with this & please come back to let me know how it goes.

PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about 5 things you cannot manifest or this one about banish your blocks to manifest fast.

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How To Reduce Resistance To Manifest Quickly

by: Jenn

No matter how big or small your manifestation intention might be, there’s something standing in between you and whatever it is that you want: resistance.

Humans are funny creatures! Most of the time when we decide we want something, we often immediately start making it more difficult to actually get that thing.

We do this by creating resistance. This is the fight between what you say and what you do.

Resistance is the mental blocks and barriers you suddenly invent. It’s the struggle you create and the stories you create, even though none of that is necessary!

Here’s how this works: if you dive into water and you keep all your limbs as close together as possible, you keep your momentum and move through the water quickly. But if you don’t pay attention and let your arms and legs flail, you’ll find it a lot more difficult to accomplish the same move. (And also ouch!).

That’s because you’re creating resistance. Your body is the same body, but you’re just using it differently. You’re making it physically more difficult to move through the water so you go a lot more slowly.

This drag is easy to see in the diving scenario, but few of us notice it in real life! We experience the drag (Why is this taking so long? Why is it so hard?). Yet we don’t realize that it’s actually us creating the resistance.

So today I’m here to help set you straight! Now that we know what resistance feels like, it’s time to start minimizing resistance so you can start manifesting quickly and powerfully!

How To Reduce Resistance To Manifest Quickly: 5 Steps

Reduce Resistance Step #1:
Decide

When we think about what we want to create in our life, there’s a big difference between trying to make something happen and actually making it happen. So be real with yourself: are you still thinking of your intention as just being optional? “Wouldn’t it be nice if…” isn’t enough here! You’ve got to lock it in.

Making a decision is the difference between just thinking “I’m thirsty” and actually picking up a glass of water and drinking it. The problem is we can spend a lot of time just thinking about what we want to do and very little time actually doing it. So we also erroneously believe all that effort that’s going into our thoughts is actually doing something. But in reality, you’re really just in the thinking stage and not doing anything at all!

So whatever you might be manifesting, it’s time to move into deciding. So if you knew your intention was going to come true, how would you feel? What would you be thinking? What would you be doing? Spend some time connecting to this having energy before moving onto the next step.

Reduce Resistance Step #2:
Remove The Lack

The minute we decide we want something, it becomes quite apparent that, as of right now, we don’t have that very thing! So the very act of desiring creates a funny problem: we become acutely aware of our own lack. But of course, whatever you put your attention on always expands! So if you keep obsessing over the fact that you’re not there yet, you’re just creating more and more lack.

Now how do we overcome this? It’s time to lessen the distance between where you are and where you want to go by connecting to that energy of having. If it was already here (as it soon will be) then you don’t have to focus on the lack! Stop concentrating on the how’s and why’s and start gently reminding yourself that it’s already done. It’s yours as long as you keep lining your energy up to it. The more you can do this, the faster you’ll call your desire into you!

Reduce Resistance Step #3:
Remove The Importance

No matter what you’re after, you’re after it for a very good reason: to feel better. Yet it’s common to take this logic a step too far! If you start to believe that the only way you’ll feel better is to realize your desire, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

There is no be all and end all in life! Yes, your intention might make you feel better for a while. But it’s not the only way to feel better. It’s important to realize that there are lots of ways to feel successful, wealthy or loved, and you can access those ways right now if you choose to!

So don’t put all your emotional cookies in one basket! Removing the importance of your intention is actually a crucial part of actually achieving it.

Reduce Resistance Step #4:
Get Emotional

Emotions are incredibly powerful! They are what creates our attraction point: we attract in other situations and people that feel the way we feel.

Yet all too often when it comes to manifesting, we don’t harness the full power of our emotions! We think of the things we want, but we don’t connect our feelings to them. However, without feeling, your intention is just another item on your to-do list. You’ve got to create that soul connection in order to truly start attracting your intention to you!

To do this, simply dial into your intention. Why do you want the thing you do? How will it make you feel? Why do you want to feel that way? Exploring your emotions with your desire is a powerful way to reduce resistance and to become magnetic to the thing you want!

Reduce Resistance Step #5:
Face Your Fears

Our fears are often the biggest barrier between where we are and where we want to go! But you’re not alone if you haven’t noticed! That’s because your fears are excellent at hiding themselves. They actually do their job best when you don’t really know what’s going on. They’re wonderful at creating stories and excuses, tempting you into playing it safe and doing all the things you’ve always done.

The first plan of action is to actually ferret out what you’re afraid of! Change? Disappointment? Shame? There are many ways we can experience fear (Check out the top ten most common fears are right here!). However, each of us has to put in the work of mapping out our own fear makeup.

Of course, once you realize where your fears are stemming from, it’s relatively easy to overcome them! Fear always does the most damage when we don’t even realize it’s there. So get curious about your real motivations and dare yourself to see what you can uncover!

Reduce Resistance Step #6:
Get Ready To Receive

Just like happiness or gratitude, receiving is a muscle that we need to work on! A surprising number of us are incredibly skilled at blocking the very things we want. Maybe we say no to extra help, to the date, to going out to get a drink. While protecting your energy is important, you also have to leave room for the Universe to work its magic. This is what I call leaving the window open: if you don’t create space for opportunities to come your way, it’s going to be very difficult indeed for the Universe to help you to achieve your goals!

So how can you start opening yourself up to receiving? Start with the little things: say thank you to compliments and yes to extra help. Keep your eyes and heart open. If you get a nudge or a divine download, act on it! We’re always being given help you see. But this is a dance: you need to pick up on your partner’s cues in order to really get moving. If you start saying yes to the Universe, the Universe will start saying yes to you!

So tell me babes: where do you get the most resistance with your manifesting? What actions are YOU going to take to get back into flow?

As always, the best part of manifesting is realizing just how much of your world is under your control! So if you’re feeling frustrated or feeling like things aren’t working, take heart! It’s simply time to figure out where your resistance is coming from and take the appropriate actions to fix it.

Thank you so much for reading! Much love & see you next week!

PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about stop fighting for your problems or this one about 5 things you cannot manifest.

Let’s Make Resistance Your New BFF! Move Through The Shit To Create Your Magic