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3 Non Woo-Woo Ways To Explain The Law of Attraction

by: Jenn

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While I LOVE manifestation and the Law of Attraction, I’m the first to admit that not everyone gets it.

And while that’s fine with me (no really!) I also thought it might be fun to switch things up and talk about manifesting in a different way than I normally talk about it.

So today I’m shining a light on the scientific and psychological explanations for the Law of Attraction! This one’s perfect for anyone who doesn’t quite connect with the spiritual explanations but still wants to know how it all works.







Thank you so much for watching!

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life




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Fear, Shame And Guilt: 3 Emotions To Release To Create Freedom

by: Jenn

Fear, Shame And Guilt: 3 Emotions To Release To Create Freedom

Learning how to manage your mind and emotions is a superpower! Of course, we all want to do this to create more happiness and success in our lives.

For most of us, emotional intelligence doesn’t come so easily. Many of us still feel controlled by our emotions rather than understanding that our emotions come from us.

Make no mistake: we’re ruled by our emotions. Even when we use our logical brain to decide on what to buy or where to eat etc. we’re usually just justifying a choice that our feelings already made! We’re ruled much more by our emotions than we’d like to believe.

That can be particularly troubling when you learn that emotions can be used against us. They’re actually a common way for people outside of us to control our opinions and actions.

The truth is that the outer world (your family, friends and the media) use emotions as weapons all the time. But if you’re not aware of how this works, you’re doomed to be controlled by it.

For example, this is the very foundation of modern advertising itself. Did you know that Sigmund Freud’s nephew Edward Bernays basically invented advertising as we know it today? He took principles from propaganda and figured out how to use them for large corporations. We still feel the effects of this rebranding today! Our emotions are being manipulated all the time; unless you develop emotional intelligence of your own, you run the risk of being controlled by them.

Creating a life of true freedom means becoming vigilant about this type of emotional control.

You’re here to live your best life–not to become a happy Kmart shopper who’s blind to how much their outside world controls their feelings and actions.

Ultimately, our emotions are always in our own control! You don’t have to to take the emotional bait from anyone. You’re actually giving permission to all those things you feel–which means you can also stop giving that power away!

It’s only once you see how common emotional manipulation really is that you’ll understand how susceptible we all are to it. Understanding how your brain works really will give you your power back and make you less likely to feel out-of-control in this chaotic world.

While emotional manipulation is actually a huge topic, today I wanted to touch on the three most common emotions that are used to control us: fear, shame and guilt.


Fear, Shame And Guilt: 3 Emotions You Need To Release To Create Total Freedom


Negative Emotion To Release #1:

Fear



Fear is one of the best tools of mind control there is! When we’re afraid, we’ll do almost anything to convince ourselves we’re safe again. But most of the time, fear is just an illusion! Our brain excels at making mountains out of mole hills which means our fear is often wildly out of proportion to reality.

Fear literally locks your brain up and puts you in fight-or-flight mode. In that state, your vision gets super-focused: you’re trying to solve just one problem to put yourself at ease. However that tunnel vision doesn’t do you any favors. When you’re narrowly focused on one problem or issue, you lose perspective and also the ability to see some very obvious solutions.

Be very wary when someone is asking you to be afraid of something. Once you notice this tool, you’ll see it being used almost everywhere: on the news, by politicians, in regular advertising. But of course the TV show wants you to keep watching, the politicians want you to vote for them and the advertising people want you to buy something! Developing awareness of this mechanism will help you to build immunity to it.


Negative Emotion To Release #2:

Shame


Shame is another potent tool of control. We’re pack animals at heart; we want nothing more than to fit in and be accepted by those around us. At one point in time, being rejected by our peers really was a matter of life-or-death. We had a much better survival rate in a group. Going it alone was highly dangerous.

Times might have changed but our brain remembers that danger from our collective past. That’s why shame is one of the most painful emotions we have. Think about your most shameful memories! Even though they may have happened long ago, bringing yourself back there can still sting terribly. We know what shame feels like so acutely we’ll do almost anything to avoid feeling that way again.

The funny thing about shame (like all emotions) is that shame requires our participation. Someone can’t shame you unless on some level you agree with them. Our natural instinct is to run from shame but we actually have much more power over it than we think! Developing a sense of shamelessness is really just an act of self-love and preservation. The more you can shrug off your shameful feelings with a “so what?” the less likely you’ll be to be influenced by them.


Negative Emotion To Release #3:

Guilt



Guilt is another dark emotion that causes us much discomfort. It’s actually built right into many major religions. If (like me) you were raised in a Catholic household, you’re probably all too aware of the power of guilt!

Guilt lies very closely to shame. Unlike shame, we experience guilt mostly as a projection. Other people tell us what we need to feel guilty about. But, once more, we have to agree to that projection in order for it to have an effect on us.

There are multiple ways we can feel guilt. We can feel guilt around things we actually did or around things we’re just thinking about doing. We can also feel societal guilt (like for eating meat) or for guilt about other people (for having more or not doing enough).

A normal amount of guilt is healthy; it helps us have empathy and relate better to others. But excessive guilt can be toxic. Again, it’s you that’s that’s really holding all the cards! What happens when you drop the “should’s”? Where does your heart tell you is truly right? When you stop worrying so much about what other people think, it leaves you the space to step powerfully into your own authenticity.




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So tell me: which emotions do you notice the most in yourself & what were the triggers? How can you zoom out to see the full picture instead of letting your emotions rule over you?




No matter how intense or fast emotions are, there’s always something you can do to help shift them. Remember that you’re in charge of your own thoughts which then dictate your feelings! The more you practice diving in to see where things are really coming from, the easier it will be to manage these tricky low-vibe feelings.



Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life




PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about how you’re self-sabotaging or this one about the truth about your upper limit problem.




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Unf*ckwithable You Episode 7: Your Shadow Self

by: Jenn

Unf*ckwithable You Episode 7: Your Shadow Self

In this episode, we start exploring the dark recesses of our psyche. We each have a Shadow Self, which is the part of us who is very often hard at work undermining all our good intentions! We’re going to shed some light on what the Shadow is so you can start to become conscious of yours.




Thank you so much for listening!

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The 4 Types of Clutter & How To Banish Them

by: Jenn

The 4 Types of Clutter & How To Banish Them

Hey have you heard the news?

Clutter is a total vibe killer.

There’s a damn good reason I’m always talking about why we need to control of our belongings:

An unconscious attitude towards our stuff means that our stuff is in control.

Clutter is always the symptom of a bigger problem.

It’s the result of grief, guilt or attachment.

It’s a symptom of stress and it causes more stress.

It creates a negative feedback loop that affects every other aspect of your life.

It’s like a tiny nagging cough that doesn’t ever clear up.

But instead of hauling yourself off to a doctor, clutter is best dealt with by you.

So ready to get deep and begin to banish those demons? First let’s take a closer look at the four different types of clutter so we can better learn how to deal with them.


Four Kinds Of Clutter & How To Manage Them


Clutter Type #1: Life Change Clutter

Clutter can often arise after the experience of a major life event. Death and divorce can bring a huge emotional weight to your belongings while moving in with your significant other or welcoming a new baby poses another set of challenges. Be gentle with yourself but give yourself a deadline to work towards. That way an unpleasant task won’t go on and on forever.


Clutter Type #2: Overflow Clutter

This is the clutter that arises from simply not having enough space. If your drawers are overflowing from a giant t-shirt collection, take it as a big hint that it’s time to pare down. There’s only one real solution to this: prioritize, purge and make room for the things that are truly important. Get inspired by the tiny home movement or by looking at a few extremely small homes on Pinterest. Thinking that we don’t have enough room for everything is often just a trap that we’ve set for ourselves. And yes, you still might need to be another piece of furniture to help manage things but that should truly be your last resort.


Clutter Type #3: Time Management Clutter

When we’re in a hurry, we tend to make a mess. Just think about the last time you got ready to go out! Sometimes this is a time management issue but often its still possible to create a system that will help you manage. To start, make yourself really aware of how you behave in certain situations. For me, making a mess from pulling a million black t-shirts out of my drawers was always a big problem until I started using the KonMari folding method. And that’s just one life-changing example! Just becoming aware of what your hot buttons are is a great way to figure out a coping mechanism.


Clutter Type #4: Behavorial Clutter

If your clutter doesn’t seem to be related to any of the other categories, you might have a behavioral issue on your hands. This is clutter that stems from an underlying psychological issue like depression, low self-esteem or attention deficit disorder. These issues of course cannot be solved simply by getting rid of your excess junk. But you might find that tackling a few small areas helps to build your self-esteem and confidence. If your clutter is out of control for a behavioral reason, it might be time to seek out professional help (through a therapist or professional organizer).





Step 1: Purge

Don’t fall into the trap of organizing your stuff before you get rid of anything! This is a two-step process: purge first then organize. Don’t try to make yourself do both at the same time! That’s just a sure-fire way to get overwhelmed and burn out early.

My favorite method is the KonMarie method. To break it down, this entails going through each and every item that you own and asking yourself if it sparks joy.

Of course, things like your kitchen knife or running shoes probably won’t spark joy. But as long as they’re useful items (and not being kept for “one day”) you can keep those things around too. Take a look: Has it expired? Is it a duplicate? Is it a good fit for your current lifestyle? If not, then you know what to do.


Step 2: Organize

After you’ve cleared the clutter it’s time to create better systems. Start off grouping like items together. In the end it might not make sense for everything to stay together, but it’s the only way to take inventory. Look for duplicates. Do you need three pairs of household scissors? Again, your lifestyle is the priority and what works for me might not work for you. But there are always smart choices you can make in order to keep the things in your home organized and your entire life running a little more smoothly.




Tackling your clutter is not a one-time job. It’s an ongoing process that will change in order to meet the demands of our current life. Break it into bite-sized pieces and go from there. And remember that every little bit helps so don’t feel bad if it takes you a few weeks or months to get through it.




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The Life-Changing Power of Color Psychology

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The Life-Changing Power of Color Psychology

One of the biggest disconnects I’ve come across in the design world is the complex relationship between color and our psyche.

Most people choose a paint color based on what they like or on what’s currently trendy. The psychological aspect of color is usually a distant second thought.

But as a Conscious Designer, this just seems straight-up crazy to me!

We’re ultimately creating the environment that we spend most of our time in and we are always affected by the colors around us, even in very subtle ways. Why would you ever want to choose a color that makes you feel depressed or lethargic?

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So while your preferences and current design trends are also important, we should also give careful consideration to the power of Color Psychology: how our chosen color truly makes us feel.

The Power of Color Psychology

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But if you’re looking to feel different in your day to day life (be that calm, happy or energized) then it’s probably a great idea to choose a color that will jumpstart that feeling.

For example, gray is a trendy color right now. But using too much of it can seem drab or depressing. And I’m not saying you need to avoid it entirely! But be sure to balance it out with some bright colors that are highly associated with your desired states.

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All of that said, color is a highly personal thing; we are also influenced by the role color has played in our past. So a color might seem wrong according to this chart but maybe it reminds you of a happy memory. Then it’s still a great choice!

Getting clear on the reasons why you like a certain color can reveal a lot about our inner self.

If a certain shade really speaks to you, then follow your heart and put it on your walls!

Ultimately it’s up to you to make the best decision for your own unique personality and desires.




I hope this has inspired you to think about color from a fresh new perspective. Let me know how it goes!

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life



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