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3 Things You Need To Heal To Manifest Love

by: Jenn

Are you ready to manifest love? Not so fast! Our romantic relationships are so important yet most of us don’t bother to heal our inner self to get ready for our next one. That means: we end up manifesting more of the stuff we don’t want instead of the stuff we do.

If you’re ready to get off the love rollercoaster with your dream partner, it’s crucial to do this healing work! Today I’m sharing the three areas you need to start working on now to shift your energy around love for once and for all!





Thank you so much for watching!

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life



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5 Powerful Tips To Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction

by: Jenn

It’s the season of LOVE–which is a beautiful thing.

Unless maybe Valentine’s Day just makes you acutely aware of your singleton status.

I get a ton of messages from my readers looking for guidance on this one! And since it’s Valentine’s Day this week, I thought it was a good time for another post on the topic.

But first, the bad news: you probably won’t find love if you do everything exactly the same, tell yourself there’s “no one out there” and don’t take a single action to change your situation.

Changing your love energy and calling in love is possible! But it takes some effort on your part.

Secondly, I want you to throw out any guilt or weirdness you have about this desire right freakin’ now! Sometimes when it comes to manifesting we’re our own worst enemy but not fully acknowledging the depth of our desire.

So let me reassure you that it’s okay! You are allowed to crave romantic love, no matter what your history is, your age, your location etc. If love is what your soul is craving, then take that as a huge sign that it’s meant to be yours!

And besides, don’t you think it’s all worth it? While I can’t predict every twist and turn in your love life, I can tell you that if you approach this process with joy and a sense of fun amazing things will happen for you. It’s all about your energy in the end and you have 100% control over that. (I’m living proof of this happening over and over again.)

So let’s not waste another second feeling oh-so-single and sorry for ourselves! Here are five tips to start shifting your love vibe and become magnetic to love today.


5 Powerful Tips To Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction


Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction Tip #1:

Love Yourself First


I’m not going to say you can’t find love until you love yourself but it certainly does help! After all, we’re going for healthy long-term relationships right? (Not destructive and damaging ones?) Sure, there are many people running after relationships right now in order to distract themselves from their own problems or to give them a false sense of being “complete”. But those types of relationships are almost always doomed to failure–because the short-term high wears off and sooner or later we’re faced with reality.

So the best possible thing for you (and your future partner!) is to start your healing work now. In this world, it’s often a big challenge to truly love ourselves but the more work we can do around this the better. But honestly, there’s truly nothing more magnetic in the world than someone’s who’s truly feeling themselves!

(And if you need a little help in this department, go over and check out my Unf*ckwithable Confidence program to get you started!)


Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction Tip #2:

Open The Channels


Bad news: you’re not going to meet anyone new sitting at home on your sofa. Nope! The Universe needs a channel to work its magic through! So it’s up to you to open that channel.

When it comes to love, a lot of it really is a numbers game at first! The more people you meet, the more likely that you’ll find someone that you really click with! And sometimes one of the most helpful things you can do for yourself is to take the focus off of finding “The One” and just focus on finding new people. Period. A new friendship is always welcome and you just never know who else you might stumble across in the process.


Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction Tip #3:

Stop Struggling


It’s so easy to point your finger and blame the world for your loneliness! But the truth is the struggle bus is an inside job. Yup, confusion is BS. Being stuck is just refusing to do anything new. And believing “there’s no one out there” means you’ve already committed to upholding that story no matter what.

Of course, finding love will be hard if you are buying into any of that stuff! So it’s time to put yourself on a short leash and challenge yourself to rise up. So ask yourself:

If you had to make a choice about what to do next, what would that be?
If you had to do something today to improve your love life, what would that be?
If you had to go out and meet new people, what would that look like?

Hmmmm kinda funny how the answers seem obvious once you challenge yourself enough to think about them!


Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction Tip #4:

Be Your One Now


Be real: are you dreaming of all the fancy vacations and nice dinners you’ll have after you find your ideal boyfriend/girlfriend? Well boo, the joke’s on you. The life you really want does not EVER hinge on the presence of someone else. So if there’s something that’s holding you back, then it’s important to know that it’s not your lack of romance. It’s really all YOU.

There’s really no good reason for you not to live your best life, right here, right now! The truth is lots of us put off feeling happy until something happens to us. But the only thing we’re really putting off is our own happiness! So let me remind you: happy people are sexy AF! The happier and more whole you can make yourself now, the more likely that packs of like-minded hot babes are going to be irresistibly attracted to you.


Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction Tip #5:

Know It’s Coming


The one answer to freaking out about almost anything to do with the Law of Attraction? Chill. All that freaking out and trying to control things is really just a sign that you don’t really believe your love is on its way. So you must then ask yourself:

If I knew with absolute certainty that love was coming to me, then how would I feel?

You probably wouldn’t be stuck in a Worry Spiral, chasing after people that (clearly) aren’t that into you or basically trying to force square pegs into round holes. After all, you wouldn’t need to do all that if you had the belief of “love is on its way” truly in your heart! You’d be out there, having fun, not stressing and staying excited to see what happens next. And let me tell you–that is exactly where you need to be!



So tell me: which tip resonated with you the most? How are you going to apply these lessons to your own love life?



As always, I’d love to hear your experiences with attracting love! So send your stories and experiences my way. And in the meantime, don’t forget to just relax and have fun!



Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life



PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about specific vs non-specific manifesting or this one about thoughts that are keeping you broke.



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5 Powerful Tips To Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction

How To Manifest A Relationship

by: Jenn

There’s a reason we love romance books and rom-coms. We love love. It’s simply human nature to want someone to share your life, heart and soul with!

So it’s no wonder really that manifesting LOVE is my top request from you, dear readers.

Having a loving relationship in your life will always be one of the most common life goals! And there’s no shame in that. It’s basic human nature.

Of course, I’m fully committed to helping you manifest your desires.

So of course I’m happily committed to helping you manifest a relationship too.

Please know that this is totally possible for you!

Because whether it’s your long-lost love, current crush or a mystery person you’ve never met before, love can be hiding around almost any corner.

But before we get started, there’s just one thing I really want you to know today and that is:


You don’t have to wait for love!



Too many of us sit around thinking we have to wait for Mr or Mrs Right to show up. We mistakenly think we need that other person first in order to begin the experience of love.

The truth is love is available inside of you at all times. And the more you tap into that energy, the more love you’ll attract in the world around you.

As always, I use the Law of Attraction as an empowering experience. There’s no waiting when everything starts inside of you, right?

I also don’t want anyone to sit around waiting for someone to complete them or save them. If that’s what you’re really looking for, then it’s time to start doing that work all on your own.

But when you’re truly ready for long-lasting loving companionship, then you’re also ready to try out this step-by-step system to start calling in the One!



How To Manifest A Relationship


Manifest A Relationship Step #1:

Get Clear On Your Why



Again, craving a loving relationship is totally normal–and overall it’s an awesome manifesting goal to have! But, as I always say, you can have anything in the world as long as you know why you want it. So it’s time to ask yourself honestly: why are you really looking for love?

If you want a partner to travel through life with, wonderful! That’s totally cool. But if in your heart you’re actually looking for someone to save you (from your shitty job, finances, roommates, family etc.) then it’s time to do a little work to free yourself from those situations.

Similarly, if you’re trying to call in a relationship because your ex just got engaged, because you just think you should be in one by now or because you want your life to look great on Instagram, be honest about that. It’s not that you can’t call in a relationship in those situations but it might take a bit more work if your core vibration is fear, jealousy or anger.

Of course, it’s always best to come to love from a genuine sense of caring and wanting to be together, instead of from neediness or fear! So if this is resonating with you, then you know it’s time to put in some inner work to resolve the underlying issue.


Manifest A Relationship Step #2:

Write Your List


Clarity is key, to life, to love, to everything. Because if you really want the life of your dreams but you have to put in the work of figuring out what that is first!

Yet I still come across so many manifesters who haven’t actually bothered to figure out what they want. They want to manifest “love” or meeting “the One” but when you dig a little deeper, they’re not entirely sure what that looks like.

So let me ask you this: if you don’t know what you’re after, how is the Universe supposed to fulfill your request?

Instead of fearing this process, it’s time to get excited about placing our cosmic order! So I invite you to grab a notebook and start brainstorming. What are you looking for in a partner?

Write down everything that springs to mind at first (you can always edit it down later if need be). And remember that this is just a dreaming session right now so don’t hold back and–for the Universe’s sake–don’t censor yourself! Capture everything that springs to your mind instead of what you think you “should” be looking for.

You can write down as many details as you like (tall, dark and handsome etc.) but it’s also important to think about the big picture. How do you want this person to make you feel? Think about communication, emotional intelligence and common interests or activities. Right now you might think owning a nice car is a must-have but that’s an external quality (and that stuff can always come and go!) However, it’s hard to change someone who’s a non-communicative homebody into someone who’ll happily accompany you to your friends parties.

Knowing what will really make you happy is a powerful exercise in itself and will automatically make you more able to “see” what you want when you come across it.




Manifest A Relationship Step #3:

Become Who You Want To Attract



Now that you have your list in hand, it’s time to look at it with fresh eyes. It’s sounds a little crazy at first but the best way to attract what you want in a relationship is to become it yourself.

Of course, this only makes sense from a Law of Attraction standpoint. You get back what you put out there. So the question is: what are you putting out there?

At the end of the day, a lot of the attraction in love is about completion. While birds of a feather do flock together, sometimes we’re attracted to people because of what they represent: freedom, strength, youth etc. Our subconscious looks at them and (like in When Harry Met Sally) says “I’ll have what she’s having!” But instead of doing the work ourselves, we go about falling in love with that person instead.

So whatever it is that you’re ultimately looking for: think about how you can better provide that to yourself. Maybe you need to work on your health regime or start boosting your bank account. There’s a reason you want the things you do! Uncovering the reason is actually reveals an awful lot about us.


Manifest A Relationship Step #4:

Embody Love



Again, with the Law of Attraction, you always attract what you put out there. So if you’re looking for love, it’s time to start working on your love vibrations!

The truth is romantic relationships just give us an excuse to open up our heart chakra. But that experience is ultimately inside of us. Yup! Those ooey-gooey-good falling in love vibe is actually our own creation. We just don’t exercise that part of us unless we have a human excuse!.

But don’t worry. I’m not suggesting that you have to do hours upon hours of heart chakra opening exercises to get into that state. The point here is simply to understand that we are the ones who control our experience of love. So why not start embracing and emitting all those loving vibes right now?

This isn’t nearly as weird as it sounds at first! You can spread those vibes around without anyone being the wiser (on a conscious level anyway). Make it a habit throughout your day to send love to the people around you: your boss, the cashier at the grocery store, your roommate, whoever. You can do this on the fly or make it more formal ceremony by conducting a Mettā (loving kindness) meditation. Start to look at your love energy as a gift and get ready to bestow it on the world!

While those around you might never be aware of what you’re doing, just sit back and watch what happens! This really does make a difference in how people perceive you. Ultimately, the more love you give the more you’ll get so don’t hesitate to give yours to the world!


Manifest A Relationship Step #5:

Hold Space



Sometimes saying yes to your happiness also means saying no to certain opportunities. That means sticking to your guns and focusing on what you ultimately want in a relationship! Not every person who arrives in your life will be that person so you have to take an honest look at what’s in front of you.

Ladies, listen up, because this is especially for you: people don’t change. Too many of us have a fairytale view of what love can do. (“He’ll stop acting like that once he knows how much I care!”) Thinking someone will magically change into who you want is living in denial–and one of fastest ways to block your own relationship manifesting.

Of course, humans are still gonna human! They’ll make mistakes and not show up as their most brilliant selves at times. But it’s crucial to understand the difference between a mistake and someone who is just not emotionally invested in your relationship (like…at all). A fairytale that exists inside your own mind is just that…a fairytale!

So be honest with yourself and take a good look at what’s happening in your world. If someone isn’t worth your time, then don’t be afraid to move on! Saying no is often the most magnetic move of all. Your dream person is waiting for you–but you’ll just be waiting longer to find them if you’re wasting your time with Mr Okay But Definitely Not Right.



So tell me: where are you at in your manifesting a relationship journey? Which manifesting tip are you going to use today?



I hope this post changes the way you look at love and empowers you to go out there and start creating it for yourself today! You deserve love my darling. So go out there and start creating it.

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life



PS – Want more? You might also want to check out this post about how unconditional love can change your life or this one about the top 5 most common love blocks.



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How To Manifest A Relationship

How To Manifest Love: 6 Proven Tricks

by: Jenn

The human race is ultimately driven by our biology; we all possess the urge to merge! Love is a fundamental human need; we all crave partnership and affection. Long-term partnerships are one thing that distinguishes us from the animal kingdom. Human babies will actually die if they’re deprived of touch!

Love is essential to our very well-being.

So it’s no surprise that one of the most popular uses for manifesting is for attracting love!

While I’ve talked on the blog before about using Feng Shui to attract love, I haven’t yet tackled how to manifest for love.

So in the spirit of Valentine’s Day (or Singles Awareness Day ???? ), let’s dive in with some proven manifesting love techniques.


The Love Spell Caveat

I’m not a fan of specific love potions. After all, we don’t want to fuck with anyone’s free will. Remember that what you put out there you’ll also get back!

So while it’s okay to ask for love in a general way, it’s kind of a gray area about whether you want to focus in on that cute guy in accounting specifically. Do what you will of course, but that’s my love spell advice.


How To Manifest Love: 6 Proven Tricks


How To Manifest Love Technique #1:

Get Clear On What You Want


Let’s start your manifesting adventure by getting detailed about what you really want. What does being in love really look like for you? There’s no such thing as a perfect one-size-fits-all relationship. What lights you up might drive your BFF totally crazy! We all have different needs: someone to play video games with, someone to travel with, maybe even someone to build a company with.

So think about your desires and expectations and write them all down. Go beyond physical looks and occupation. What are your must-have’s? Your nice-to-have’s? What activities are important to share? And most importantly, how do you want this person to make you feel?

Finding a romantic relationship is so much more than just finding someone who ticks the superficial boxes (like tall, dark and handsome). It’s important to get clear about your own expectations for your romantic relationships for two reasons. The first is you you’ll need to recognize it when you see it. The second is that not just anyone can make you happy!

When you’re feeling lonely or unlovable, it’s easy to get excited by anyone who shows you a teeny bit of attention. But when you’re clear about your own needs, it’s much easier to determine whether the relationship is actually a good fit or just “good enough”.

(And you can do so much better than good enough!)

The Universe loves specificity. The more specific you can be with your love intention, the faster they will manifest. Just thinking about “being in love” is not very specific! But thinking about the who, what and how of what you want is.


How To Manifest Love Technique #2:

Recognize It


Love encompasses much more than just romantic love. It’s actually all around you, day in and day out. If you’re coming from a scarcity mentality, the biggest hurdle to overcome is your own perception of it. Love is not a rare or unusual thing so you need to stop thinking about it that way.

Begin by training yourself to notice love in the world around you, from your personal relationships to images in media to the people in your neighbourhood. For example, I’ve felt my heart break a little (in a good way!) from watching older couples walk down the street hand in hand. Despite all the madness in the world at large, love is still plentiful. All you need to do is train yourself to see it.

The law of attraction teaches that you focus on always expands. So if you want to experience more love in your life, start noticing the million and one ways it’s manifesting in front of you every day.


How To Manifest Love Technique #3:

Reframe Your Limiting Beliefs


Limiting beliefs run rampant, especially when it comes to finding true love and romantic relationships. There’s a million lame excuses I’ve heard from people looking for partners! But it’s important to realize that those excuses are usually just a defence mechanism. When we feel rejected or unlovable, we want to point the blame elsewhere.

To see if you’re suffering from limiting beliefs, start to notice any definitive negative statements you might be making (or thinking) about love: “There aren’t any good men left”, “I’m too old”, “I’m too unattractive” etc.

The first step is to recognize is that these statements aren’t even true! Yet we cling to them rather than taking ownership for our actions.

Secondly, it’s critical to realize that your beliefs literally create the world you live in. So do you want to live in a world where no one can commit or great partners are scarce? If not, then it’s time to stop thinking and saying those very things! Remember that a handful of lackluster dating experiences are not a good barometer for the entire population. Take a deep breath and try to have a little perspective about yourself and the dating experience as a whole.


How To Manifest Love Technique #4:

Date Yourself


It’s true what they say: you need to love yourself before anyone else can. So take a look at your own self-care routine. Hopefully you’re covering your basic needs at the minimum: getting enough sleep, eating well and doing physical exercise.

But when was the last time you did something for yourself that was truly indulgent? You don’t have to wait for the guy to show up before you start doing the things that you truly enjoy! Think of this as self care on steroids. It might mean getting a pedicure, booking a weekend away or just going out for a nice glass of wine all on your own. Getting out there and actually doing the things you like is a great way of telling the Universe what you want more of.

Remember, if you don’t love and treat yourself well, it’s going to be difficult for other people to do so. You teach the world how you want to be treated. So no matter how down or lonely you might be feeling, aim to make self-care a big priority.


How To Manifest Love Technique #5:

Send Out Your Love


Now that you’ve spent some time learning to recognize love in the world around you, it’s time to start giving it back. Love is a strong frequency and sending love into the world just means you’re going to receive more of it back.

Metta meditation (also known as loving kindness meditation) is a wonderful way to do this. This simple practice simply involves sending out loving intentions to the people around you.

Giving away your energy might seem strange at first but look at it this way:
You know that feeling when you’re really excited to give a gift to a friend? Metta meditation should feel that good and exciting! (Plus it’s particularly effective when you direct your meditation towards someone that you’re currently irritated or upset with.)

When it comes to romance, you can also practice sending love towards a particular person or crush. But there’s a catch. Love must always be given freely! If you start to send your love their way with the strong intention that this person is going to fall in love with you in return, you’re essentially casting a love spell. (Which can be a violation of free will and might open up a host of other issues. Be careful what you wish for, basically.)

On the other side, love given freely is a beautiful entity and giving that energy away feels good (for both people). And if you’re an incredibly crush-prone person (like me!), that’s an incredibly empowering thing.


How To Manifest Love Technique #6:

Write Them A Letter


Words are powerful miniature spells in their own right. You always have the power to speak your desires into existence.

So think back to the dream relationship you wrote down in the first exercise. Why not start talking to that person like they’re actually here? You totally can. What would you be saying to them right now? First thing in the morning? Last thing before bed? Have a conversation out loud with them in your car or in the shower. Or if you can’t bring yourself to actually do it out loud, write a letter, email or even a nice long text.

Having conversations or writing letters isn’t crazy. It’s actually just a powerful visualization exercise. It’s envisioning yourself in that happy fictional future and it’s by far one of the best ways I’ve found to feel those loving feelings before the event actually happens.

So though it sounds a little nutty, don’t scoff because feeling is always the real trick to manifesting!

And again, this exercise works best when you’re not envisioning an actual person in this role. We don’t want to fuck up our magic but pulling on someone else’s energetic chain. Everyone is entitled to their own free will, which is why I advocate doing non-specific love spells instead of specific ones.



I hope this post inspires you to start manifesting some more love into your life, in whatever way is best for you. Thank you so much for reading & I’m sending you lots of luck and love in your adventures. ????

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life



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