It’s the season of LOVE–which is a beautiful thing.
Unless maybe Valentine’s Day just makes you acutely aware of your singleton status.
I get a ton of messages from my readers looking for guidance on this one! And since it’s Valentine’s Day this week, I thought it was a good time for another post on the topic.
But first, the bad news: you probably won’t find love if you do everything exactly the same, tell yourself there’s “no one out there” and don’t take a single action to change your situation.
Secondly, I want you to throw out any guilt or weirdness you have about this desire right freakin’ now! Sometimes when it comes to manifesting we’re our own worst enemy but not fully acknowledging the depth of our desire.
So let me reassure you that it’s okay! You are allowed to crave romantic love, no matter what your history is, your age, your location etc. If love is what your soul is craving, then take that as a huge sign that it’s meant to be yours!
And besides, don’t you think it’s all worth it? While I can’t predict every twist and turn in your love life, I can tell you that if you approach this process with joy and a sense of fun amazing things will happen for you. It’s all about your energy in the end and you have 100% control over that. (I’m living proof of this happening over and over again.)
So let’s not waste another second feeling oh-so-single and sorry for ourselves! Here are five tips to start shifting your love vibe and become magnetic to love today.
5 Powerful Tips To Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction
Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction Tip #1:
Love Yourself First
I’m not going to say you can’t find love until you love yourself but it certainly does help! After all, we’re going for healthy long-term relationships right? (Not destructive and damaging ones?) Sure, there are many people running after relationships right now in order to distract themselves from their own problems or to give them a false sense of being “complete”. But those types of relationships are almost always doomed to failure–because the short-term high wears off and sooner or later we’re faced with reality.
So the best possible thing for you (and your future partner!) is to start your healing work now. In this world, it’s often a big challenge to truly love ourselves but the more work we can do around this the better. But honestly, there’s truly nothing more magnetic in the world than someone’s who’s truly feeling themselves!
(And if you need a little help in this department, go over and check out my Unf*ckwithable Confidence program to get you started!)
Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction Tip #2:
Open The Channels
Bad news: you’re not going to meet anyone new sitting at home on your sofa. Nope! The Universe needs a channel to work its magic through! So it’s up to you to open that channel.
When it comes to love, a lot of it really is a numbers game at first! The more people you meet, the more likely that you’ll find someone that you really click with! And sometimes one of the most helpful things you can do for yourself is to take the focus off of finding “The One” and just focus on finding new people. Period. A new friendship is always welcome and you just never know who else you might stumble across in the process.
Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction Tip #3:
It’s so easy to point your finger and blame the world for your loneliness! But the truth is the struggle bus is an inside job. Yup, confusion is BS. Being stuck is just refusing to do anything new. And believing “there’s no one out there” means you’ve already committed to upholding that story no matter what.
Of course, finding love will be hard if you are buying into any of that stuff! So it’s time to put yourself on a short leash and challenge yourself to rise up. So ask yourself:
If you had to make a choice about what to do next, what would that be?
If you had to do something today to improve your love life, what would that be?
If you had to go out and meet new people, what would that look like?
Hmmmm kinda funny how the answers seem obvious once you challenge yourself enough to think about them!
Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction Tip #4:
Be Your One Now
Be real: are you dreaming of all the fancy vacations and nice dinners you’ll have after you find your ideal boyfriend/girlfriend? Well boo, the joke’s on you. The life you really want does not EVER hinge on the presence of someone else. So if there’s something that’s holding you back, then it’s important to know that it’s not your lack of romance. It’s really all YOU.
There’s really no good reason for you not to live your best life, right here, right now! The truth is lots of us put off feeling happy until something happens to us. But the only thing we’re really putting off is our own happiness! So let me remind you: happy people are sexy AF! The happier and more whole you can make yourself now, the more likely that packs of like-minded hot babes are going to be irresistibly attracted to you.
Attract A Relationship Using The Law Of Attraction Tip #5:
Know It’s Coming
The one answer to freaking out about almost anything to do with the Law of Attraction? Chill. All that freaking out and trying to control things is really just a sign that you don’t really believe your love is on its way. So you must then ask yourself:
If I knew with absolute certainty that love was coming to me, then how would I feel?
You probably wouldn’t be stuck in a Worry Spiral, chasing after people that (clearly) aren’t that into you or basically trying to force square pegs into round holes. After all, you wouldn’t need to do all that if you had the belief of “love is on its way” truly in your heart! You’d be out there, having fun, not stressing and staying excited to see what happens next. And let me tell you–that is exactly where you need to be!
So tell me: which tip resonated with you the most? How are you going to apply these lessons to your own love life?
As always, I’d love to hear your experiences with attracting love! So send your stories and experiences my way. And in the meantime, don’t forget to just relax and have fun!