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Jenn Stevens | Spiritual Life + Business Coach

Here’s Why You’re Not Getting Results With The Law of Attraction

by: Jenn

Here's Why You're Not Getting Results With The Law of Attraction

So you’ve discovered then Law of Attraction and you’re super pumped about creating results with your findings!

You set your intention, put it out there then you sit back and wait….and wait…and wait.

Does that sound familiar?

When you don’t get the results you want fast, it can be hard not to take it all personally.

The first thing to understand is that this isn’t because the Law isn’t working!

It’s always working–just like gravity!

The true problem always comes back to us. And I’m willing to bet there’s a good chance that you’ve probably just gotten in your own way.

When you’re not getting results with the Law of Attraction, typically one of three things has gone wrong.

So if you’re serious about getting results, then it’s time to troubleshoot your manifesting practice!

Today we’re going to dive right into the three main reasons why you’re not manifesting results so you can make the adjustments and get back on track again.


3 Reasons Why You’re Not Getting Results With The Law Of Attraction


Not Getting Results With The Law of Attraction Reason #1:

You Don’t Really Want It



Well here it is–the most obvious and important manifesting question of all–do you really want your goal or intention?

And I mean on a heart and soul, cell-shifting passion sort of level?

It wouldn’t be all that weird if the answer was actually no.

Sometimes we attempt to manifest things because we think we should: Because everyone else is doing it. Because that’s just the way it is! Because that’s what we’ve always wanted. Because what else would we even do?

Or maybe you’re trying to manifest for some dark reasons: Because we want to one-up someone or to show someone that we were right. Or because we want to validate ourselves from someone or something in your past.

As I always say, you can manifest anything you want as long as you’re clear about your why.

But if you’re coming from one of those dark places (revenge, ego-boosting), then your energy is still tied to that dark place. It’s pretty damn difficult to manifest things when your core energy is hurt or anger!

It’s also difficult to manifest things that you aren’t actually all that pumped about!

So it’s time to get honest with yourself! In the end, you’re living your life for you. Trying to prove something to someone else or to follow the pack is just taking your precious time and energy away from the things that you do want.

The Cure: Always make sure your manifesting wishes are aligned to your soul mission! Your purpose. Your life’s work! And if you don’t know what that is quite yet, then go for the things that truly light you up–not the things that you think other people will be impressed with you for.

Why You're Not Getting Results With The Law of Attraction


Not Getting Results With The Law of Attraction Reason #2:

You Don’t Believe You Can Have It



Do you really (again, like with your whole heart) believe that you CAN have your intention?

It’s one thing to want something. It’s an entirely different game to truly believe that you can have it!

Many of us get stuck on feeling worthy of our goals. We want something but we also have a million excuses why we can’t have it: We’re not skinny or pretty enough. We haven’t “earned” it. No one’s told us we can Who do we think we are asking for that anyway?

If this resonates with you then it’s time to work on your worthiness levels! And the best way to do that is to just throw the idea of worthiness straight out the window.

The problem with the idea of worthiness is that when we fall for that line of thinking, we never ever truly measure up to where we think we should be. There will always be more work to do, more effort to put in, more weight to lose, a boyfriend to find. Our brain is really good at looking at successful people and figuring out all the “reasons” why we’re so different from them–and then turning that into an excuse for us not being there!

It’s totally normal to have doubts and even experience some negative emotions around your intention. But if you can’t EVER get on the level of believing that your wish can be yours, then you’ve got some work to do.

The Cure: One of the best ways to jump over this hoop is to look for people who embody the thing you want. No one is perfect! There’s surely SOMEONE out there in the world who’s doing the damn thing despite all the million excuses your brain has told you are in your way. Find that person (or those people!) and spend your energy (aka time and attention) on them. The more you can train your brain to see that all those reasons its come up with are stupid, the easier it will be for you to conquer those limiting beliefs and move forward!

Why You're Not Getting Results With The Law of Attraction


Not Getting Results With The Law of Attraction Reason #3:

You Think Something Bad Will Happen If You Get It



Secret worries about future potential problems are the sneakiest of all the manifesting blocks!

Life isn’t perfect! And that means when we up-level our life and start going for new scary goals, then we’ll automatically inherit a whole new set of problems! (“Mo’ money, mo’ problems!” as they say!)

Of course, that doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll have MORE problems in your life. But every intention and goal (no matter how good!) will give you a whole set of new ones.

The real issue here is that our brain likes to keep us comfy and cozy. Above all else, it’s primary job is to keep us SAFE (so we can have babies and keep that DNA going!). So our brain is hyper-wired to be on the constant lookout for DANGER. (We’re all the descendants of people who SURVIVED all that danger!)

Obviously, in this modern age, the new situations and problems we’re inviting into our life are rarely actually dangerous but our brain hasn’t got the memo just yet! It would rather stay over here, dealing with the shitty problems we already have, thank-you-very-much. Because even though we have problems now, at least we already KNOW what these problems are. Who knows what those new problems are all about! And the unknown=eeeek.

The Cure: It’s time to take over our brain and let it know we’re in charge!

The best thing to do in this situation is to acknowledge all the potential problems square on so that our brain won’t feel so unprepared (and therefore likely to run away or self-sabotage).

This is where I like to play the Why? Game Which really means just asking yourself the question why three times.

Here’s an example of the Why? Game at work:

Q #1: Why don’t I want to get the raise at work?
A: Because I’ll have to take over a bunch of new responsibilities and I’m not sure I can handle it.

Q #2: Why don’t I think I can handle it?
A: Because I get nervous around new things and the person who currently does that job does it so well.

Q #3: Why do I think that person can handle better than I can?
A: That person has been there for years and is much older than me! I’m not sure I can keep up.

Seeing your fears for exactly what they are has a funny way of lessening their hold over you. Of course, every new job has a learning curve! You’re allowed to take some time to pick up a new skill, even if that involves making a few mistakes along the way. Thinking that you can’t do something because someone else can do it better is of course totally false!

Your core fears are always hiding just below the surface so make sure you do the work of taking a good long look!

Why You're Not Getting Results With The Law of Attraction




In the end, when it comes to overcoming your manifesting “problems” the answer is always to hold the intention and have patience. You have to hold faith, even when it looks dire. You have to hold faith, even when your deadline has come and gone. You have to hold faith, even when shiny objects come up that are close but not quite what you want. You have to hold faith because you will be tested.

So how well are you passing your test?




Thank you so much for reading!




PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about 10 tips for manifesting the life you want or this one about how to get into alignment.




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Getting What You Deserve & The Law of Attraction

by: Jenn

Getting What You Deserve & The Law of Attraction

When you study the Law of Attraction for a while, sooner or later you’re going to start questioning some of your long-held beliefs. And you might be surprised to learn the things that you’ve always turned to suddenly don’t make as much sense anymore!

While this will happen with a lot of things, I’m specifically talking here about the concepts of fairness or deserving.

Our human brains simply like the world around us to make sense! We like to think that if we do X, Y and Z then we’ll get what we want, almost as if there’s a way to tally up all those “good” actions and turn them into the desired result.

But let’s be clear: the idea of deserving is simply a trick of the ego.

Yet most of us sit around all day judging those around us who deserve what they’ve got and those who don’t.

This judgment seems to be part of our human nature! Yet it also means we’re ultimately setting everyone on a scale, where the opposite ends of the scale mean okay or not okay.

But life doesn’t work like that! The concept of deserving is false.

All humans are inherently deserving, despite our many flaws and mistakes.

Do you ever think that we don’t deserve the air that we breathe?

Of course not!

Gravity just is. The sun rises and sets. The earth spins on its axis. And the Law of Attraction is always working.

You don’t have to DESERVE it to work more or less than someone else. It just works.

Western society has conditioned us to think we need to work at life in order to deserve it. We need to work at looking beautiful and losing weight in order to deserve love. We need to struggle and strive in our job in order to deserve making lots of money.

But there are plenty of people out there who defy all of those ideas! So why don’t we look at those people as proof and stop trying so fucking hard to be deserving?

I’m sure you can think of more than a few people that don’t seem to “deserve” their beauty, wealth or talent. We want those people to match our expectations about how the world should operate–and when they don’t we get upset!

We like to think the world is fair, even though we can think of many MANY reasons why life doesn’t actually work like that.

But all of those people you just thought of are proof that “deserving” doesn’t mean anything.

So why hold yourself accountable to the idea of deserving when it doesn’t actually apply in the real world?


Thinking that you need to deserve something is one of the biggest limiting beliefs in the way of achieving your true desires.



Getting What You Deserve + The Law of Attraction

The idea that we need to earn, struggle and strive to get what we want is damaging. At best, it means we’ll never get to relax and enjoy our life because we’re too busy constantly trying to earn it. At worst it means we’ll never actually get where we want to go because no one has told us we deserve it yet.

And of course, the only person you can truly decide on your worthiness is YOU.

In reality, there are multiple paths to getting what we want.

So what would life be like if you could lose weight without effort?

What would life be like if you landed a huge amount of money without putting the overtime?

What would life be like if you got the guy without losing fifteen pounds or training yourself to laugh at all his dumb jokes? (Shocking idea, I know!)

And you’ll never discover how easy those paths might be if you are committed to the idea that you need to STRUGGLE first in order to achieve it.

The idea that we need to struggle to earn and deserve is all one giant lie that we’ve been fed. We’ve swallowed it hook, line and sinker.

But it’s time to snap out of it! Because there is another way.

So be honest with yourself: is your shiny happy future only available to you after you hustle and push? Maybe deep down you think your goals couldn’t possibly happen tomorrow because you haven’t PUSHED enough yet.

But instead, you can decide on EASE and flow any time you like. You just have to change your story about yourself, how you see the world and what you expect for your future.

Getting What You Deserve + The Law of Attraction

So if you need some more clarity on how to do that, keep reading!


6 Ways To Remove The Concept of Deserving


Deserving & The Law of Attraction Tip #1:

Past Experiences



Many of the reasons that we feel unworthy stem from our past. Think about the people who have hurt you and made you feel unworthy. In reality, the people who feel the need to make others hurt and feel unworthy of life are always the people who feel the most unworthy themselves. The friend that tears you down behind your back is really just attempting to make themselves feel better in relation. (Of course, this approach never actually works but that doesn’t stop the hurt person from trying!)

But the truth is that no one can make you feel anything without your permission! There will always be an internet troll out there ready to hurl obscenities at almost everyone but most of us know not to take those basement dwellers too seriously. It can be a little more difficult when the person being mean is someone you know quite well! But the principle is the same in both situations. Being mean and trying to drag you down is a reflection of them, never of you.


Deserving & The Law of Attraction Tip #2:

External Judgements



We all have the experience of remembering VIVIDLY some mean comment a popular kid said to you back in sixth grade. I’m sure you’ve had thousands of compliments and awesome times since then but for some reason, those negative experiences are seared into our memories with astonishing intensity. And that’s just one example! We learn a lot of things from the people around us, including their sometimes shady (and untrue!) opinions about us.

All of that negativity can add up over time and make us feel very unworthy. But the only opinion that truly matters in this life is your own. There’s no logical reason to hold onto the opinions that someone foisted on you twenty years ago. It’s very likely that they weren’t true back then, and it’s even more unlikely that they’re true now! So don’t let someone else’s bad day determine your long-term worthiness.

It might be difficult at first but you can always shut out all that unwanted noise and focus in on the only opinion that truly matters: your own.


Deserving & The Law of Attraction Tip #3:

The World Is Our Mirror



The world we live in is always a mirror of our internal world. But that also means that we see our own problems reflected everywhere we look.

Our own judgments about the world are just a reflection of our own self-worth. Feeling resentment about someone else receiving a raise shows how inadequate we feel in that department. Judging the girl who snags the hot guy is just a reflection of our own unworthiness levels.

The things that bother you the most about other people can offer you the biggest clues about your own insecurities. So when those judgments pop up it’s time to get curious! Take a look inside when something pops up and get the courage to discover what you’re really feeling.

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Deserving & The Law of Attraction Tip #4:

Shame



Shame is one of the most poisonous methods of mind control in the world. And again, it doesn’t work without your permission. When someone is trying to shame you, they’re placing their own judgments on you. Of course while empirically you might realize that, the sharp sting of shame can still do its work at keeping you small.

So take a look at what you’re being asked to feel ashamed of. Of daring to claim space in the world? Of showing your true talents? For asking for what you need? None of those things are truly shameful! So why is someone attempting you to feel that way? Gaining clarity about where you’re being asked to feel shame and why is the magic wand for warding off a shame attack.


Deserving & The Law of Attraction Tip #5:

Drop The Struggle



So many of us think that we really need to push, to earn, to hustle in order to get what we want. Even when it comes to manifesting, it can be difficult to shake that “push harder” mindset! But sometimes we opt for the struggle because we feel deep down inside that we can’t be worthy of achieving our goals until we earn it.

If you fundamentally feel unworthy of what you’re asking for, you’re also likely to put up invisible barriers to your own success. You’ll say no, miss opportunities and talk yourself out of what you really want because YOU don’t feel like you should really get it.

There’s no real reason why you shouldn’t have a million dollars right now without putting in the years of effort and struggle first! If it could be so easy, then why aren’t you letting it?

Many of the difficulties on the path to manifesting are of our own doing! So maybe it’s time to drop the struggle and go for ease! Sometimes when you get out of your own way you can finally claim those things in life that you really want.


Deserving & The Law of Attraction Tip #6:

Forget Fairness



Our extremely fallible human brain just loves to categorize the world around us. We really want everything to make sense! But that means we start assigning meaning where sometimes there isn’t any. For example, we start thinking that hard work is a necessary element of success.

Of course, putting in effort is necessary to achieve our goals but you’re probably also aware of the deep truth that extra effort doesn’t always pay off!

You can also strategize better than other or have a divine stroke of luck and neither of those things are a result of “deserving”.

It might be difficult but the less you classify things as fair or right, the less black and white your thinking will be around this topic. Besides, you also only have your perspective to rely on!

In reality, people are far more complex than we typically give them credit for. You will never truly know another person’s full story, even if you know them well. Stay humble and remember that there are many possibilities in this beautiful world.




Take a deep breath and say it with me now: I am deserving exactly as I am! There’s no need to push, change or earn. The addiction to struggle is just an illusion that we’ve created and as long as we still believe in it, it will continue to show up in our reality. The big question is what would life be like if you could finally bust through the illusion?

I hope we find out together! Good luck and much ????




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How To Manifest A Specific Person With The Law Of Attraction

by: Jenn

How To Manifest A Specific Person With The Law Of Attraction

Love is one of the most popular topics I get asked about with the Law of Attraction!

And the question I get asked the most is this:

How do I manifest a specific person with the Law of Attraction?

The good news? Yes, it’s possible to manifest the person you’ve got your eye on.

But the bad news is that it’s not quite as simple as it first sounds.

So please know that wanting to call in a specific person is a super common request.
Whether it’s an ex you’re attempting to reconcile with or you’re trying to win over the affections of that hot flirty bartender, it’s easy to get sucked into the allure of manifesting love.

I’ve written about manifesting love before due to popularity, I knew this topic deserved its own separate entry.

And your wish is my command babydoll! So here we go: the Good, the Bad and the Unexpected Truth about how to attract a specific person using the Law of Attraction. (Now with video!)


How To Manifest A Specific Person With The Law Of Attraction


Manifest A Specific Person Principle #1:

Respect Free Will



The most important thing to remember when you’re thinking about casting a love spell or manifesting your Dream Dude/Dudette into your life: everyone has a right to their personal sovereignty.

That means we can’t really ever control someone else’s thoughts, feelings or actions. After all, you probably wouldn’t like to have that happen to you, right? The same rules apply to the current object of your affections. Even if you’re truly the best match in the world for them, no one wants to be controlled.

That might not come as welcome news but obviously, it’s complete arrogance to presume to know what’s right for someone else–especially when you don’t know a thing about them!

So if we can’t control people’s thoughts and actions, then what can we do? If you are really set on this idea, there are two things I suggest instead.

First, try manifesting a chance encounter with the object of your attention. (No strings attached!)

Or do what I always suggest first and create a list of qualities your ideal partner would have. Then set about manifesting that. This is the best thing to d with love, only always. (And besides, isn’t that what you really want anyway?)


Manifest A Specific Person Principle #2:

Never Give Your Power Away


When you like someone a lot (like a lot A LOT), you’ve already automatically created a power imbalance that makes you much more likely to repel them than to attract them. Annoying but true!

Here’s how this works: we sometimes create all kinds of unrealistic scenarios in our mind that our crush cannot possibly live up to. But that kind of perfectionist thinking puts the whole relationship on a pedestal.

And make no mistake, the other person can feel it. When you’re trying just a little too hard, they’re energetically just going to do what feels natural to them: run away.

Here’s an example:

If you’ve convinced yourself that you will never EVER be happy unless this one person loves you back, then you’ve definitely handed all your power over to that person. Like really? You can’t be happy unless THIS ONE PERSON loves you? In this entire world of amazing magical humans, only THIS ONE will do?

Look I get it! In the throes of a crush, that all might seem very true. When our hearts are involved, it’s often difficult to see reality! But try to get some perspective. Think back to your crushes of yesteryear. How exactly do you feel about those bozos now?

While your emotions might be overwhelming at times, it’s important to maintain perspective. So like I suggested in the first tip, always come back to manifesting what’s actually right for you.


Manifest A Specific Person Principle #3:

Figure Out What’s Missing


Thinking deeply about why we’re attracted to the people we are is a powerful way to get to know ourselves a bit better. That’s because our love interest/crush almost always represents an unknown part of ourselves.

Attraction is quite often about completion; we’re seeking to make ourselves whole by finding a “missing” piece in someone else. Or similarly, in the case of people seeking to reunite with an old flame, you’re typically trying to reclaim some piece of yourself that you now perceive as missing.

However, this never actually works the way our subconscious mind wants it to! The only person who can truly complete you is you–which, again, is why it’s so important to figure out what your crush represents to you.

Every experience in our human lives is ultimately about growth. So what’s even more important than the actual person is figuring out what they really mean to you. I guarantee you there is something about them that you want for yourself, even if you haven’t consciously figured out what that is yet.

So I invite you to get curious and see what you can discover about you.

Besides, from a Law of Attraction point of view, we only realize what we want when we’re on that level, energetically speaking. So doing this work really will make you more magnetic to what (or who) you really want!


Manifest A Specific Person Principle #4:

Become Your Future Self


When we envision ourselves falling in love with that (supposedly) perfect person, the fantasy is never just about the relationship! It’s also about our new identity as a part of the couple. Somehow seeing ourselves with another person makes us suddenly think of ourselves as being smarter, funnier, sexier or more outgoing. Or in other words, it allows us to become our Future Badass Self.

While it might initially feel like it’s the other person really is making us more of those things, that’s not what’s really going on. In the end, the other person is just an excuse you’re using to tap into the parts of you that were already there.

So why don’t you just skip straight through “needing” someone else and just become that person you really want to be? Again, you don’t actually need the guy or the girl to be funny, confident, vivacious or sexy!

If you somehow think that you’ll dress differently or feel more relaxed in a crowd while in a relationship, then clearly some part of you just wants to BE that kind of person. So stop waiting and just do it!

And again, becoming is a powerful form of magic. We don’t attract who we want. We attract who we are. So, from a Law of Attraction perspective, allowing yourself to become that person is exactly what will attract your crush to you. Feeling comes before having, only always. Just sayin….


Manifest A Specific Person Principle #5:

Don’t Chase


Chasing down the object of your affection might seem like the only course of action. But is that really the smart thing to do?

Think about it: what would you do if someone started chasing you down the street? DUH! You’d run away–fast! And that’s the same reaction whether you’re a two-year-old, a dog or the extremely hot bartender at your local.

In an energetic sense, chasing is really just a symptom that we’re not trusting the process or surrendering to the Universe. It’s a frantic sign that we’re trying to control the how–one of the biggest no-nos in the manifesting handbook!

So don’t fool yourself: trying to manifest a specific person for most of us is just another form of chasing. That’s not to say that you can’t take any action at all. But it’s just important to know that the art of flirting (and attraction) is all about the push AND pull.

In other words, you can’t come on too strongly all the time or you’ll just scare your crush away!

Try to move from chasing and controlling and into finding your flow. This process is about becoming magnetic and attracting what you want into your life!

So work on becoming it and feeling it, not on desperately running towards it. Just don’t get too excited and throw yourself headfirst into the romantic manipulation. Besides what’s the rush? It’s all going to happen in divine timing and if your person is meant for you, then take a deep breath and enjoy the beautiful ride!


Manifest A Specific Person Principle #6:

Focus On That Feeling



Falling in love is a wonderful–the best feeling in the world! But feelings aren’t physical things that exist out in the world. They’re an energetic state that you are ultimately creating.

When we fall in love with someone, we’re just letting ourselves have that love experience. But the truth is, we could experience that at any time. The feelings are just the result of the thoughts you’re having.

So yes, that also means you can 100% fall in love even when the other person is not involved! But obviously, that doesn’t affect anything on the other person’s end. (So no, definitely don’t start showing up at their work and sending them flowers.)

Giving love always feels good, whether our crush is involved or not. And again that feeling comes from inside us, not from the other person.

So let this empower you to bestow the gift of love on the world around you.
You can send loving vibes all the livelong day and that well of love will never dry up! It will actually get stronger.

Of course, this is also a boon to your ability to manifest love! (Feeling before receiving, remember?) So the more you pour love energy out into the world the more love you will attract back into your life! It might not come from exactly who you want it to come from, but you will always experience the return of your loving energy. And that’s always a beautiful thing.


Manifest A Specific Person Principle #7:

Surrender


The biggest reason why attracting a specific person almost NEVER works with the Law of Attraction is that we save this effort only for people we like entirely too much. We already want to control everything–which means we’re asking way too much. The biggest trick with the Law of Attraction is setting your intention and releasing it in full faith.

When you’re in the middle of a crush, you are already highly emotionally invested in that one person, so much so that it would be difficult to shrug your shoulders and stop obsessing over the whole scenario. (“Will he text me back? Will she be at the party?”)

But letting go is always key to the manifesting practice. It’s a sign of full faith.

If you’re too attached before anything has even happened, it’s never going to work. That’s because you’re already too attached to the outcome. Manifestation energy requires a sense of playfulness and curiosity. In other words, “Wouldn’t it be cool if….?” rather than “My life is over unless X asks me out on Friday.”

If you’ve already fallen too far into the Like Tank, it’s time to snap out of it!
You might have tunnel vision at the moment but don’t forget that the world is positively teeming with new romantic possibilities.
So get yourself back on Tinder. Chat up the person next to you at the bar. Do something (anything!) to break yourself out of your Eggs In One Basket Syndrome.

Besides, if you’re doing the work of manifesting the very best person for you (which is what you should be doing BTW!) this might just open the doors for you to find them. And in any case, it will make you a whole lot less anxious about that one special person as well.




So tell me: what are you going to do to manifest the love you truly deserve? Which tip are you going to apply to your own practice?








I hope that helps you take an enlightened and practical approach towards attracting a specific person using the Law of Attraction! While it’s not impossible, but it’s definitely not as easy as casting a love spell and being done with it. The big key is always to start to become that which you want–that’s always when you become truly magnetic.

So good luck & always let love rule. ????

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life



PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about how to manifest your ex back or this one about how to manifest love.




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Video Transcript:



Sep 25 2017 How To Use The Law of Attraction For A Specific Person

Hi guys it is Jenn from the Aligned life and I’m here today to bring you a very highly requested video.

This video is all about how to use the law of attraction to attract a specific person into your life. I’ve mentioned before I’m sure on here and on my blog that the top two questions I always get in regards to the law of attraction are always: things to do with money and things to do is love. When it comes to lovem the most popular question of all is how do I attract a specific person using the law of attraction?

So this is kind of a big can of worms which is why I thought I would want to do a video for you guys. It’s not all bad news but it might not all be the news that you want to hear. So let’s just put that out there right away.

The first reason for that I want to talk about this today is because of the matter of free will. So of course everybody is a sovereign being. We’re all sovereign over our own lives and that is exactly what I teach. In my manifesting classes I teach that you are a powerful conscious creator of your own life. But you cannot control other people.

So obviously you only get to control your story. You only get to write your story and the story of everybody else in the world is up to them. It’s kind of bad juju if you want to go messing around with that. I mean of course that doesn’t mean doing anything bad or terrible. It just causing the question in the your desire to want to do a love spell because I mean if you are only coercing someone into loving you because you did this thing do they really love you? that is the first question.

The second question is: even if they do start to love you for a little while eventually the same issues are going to come up. So I would advise highly against doing any specific like love magic or love spells. That is the biggest reason that is frowned upon.

But that doesn’t mean that there’s not anything you can do!

So we’re going to go through a few more reasons here today: things that you can do, things to think about if you are trying to attract a specific person into your life.

Okay so the second reason why the law using the law of attraction or love spell doesn’t really work when it comes to attracting a specific person is because fundamentally, we are giving that person so much power over us. So if you are basically saying to the Universe and to the world: “I will only be happy if I am loved by this person” then that person has the sole power to make you happy or not. Obviously that is way too much power to give anybody. You are the sole person in charge of your own happiness and if you are relying on somebody else to do that for you then you are not in your full power.

You are actually falling into an ego trap thinking that you need to be approved by this person in order to be loved. But if you don’t love yourself first of course no one else can. That is the biggest trick with personal development and manifesting. It’s all about our loving ourselves first before we can get it from someone else.

So if you are putting all of your stakes on one specific person, I want you to just take a deep breath and really start to call your power back into yourself and bring it back into loving yourself. Because that is the most important thing that you can do and that’s what you have to do first before you can attract anything into your life.

Okay the third thing is that every single time we have a crush on somebody or that we are attracted to somebody, it is because we are attempting to complete a missing element of ourselves. I mean this isn’t always the case but this is the case a lot of times. So for example, say you’re a really shy person and you see this person that is super outgoing and super gregarious and you are instantly attracted to them. It is not just about that person like physically. It is about what they actually are. So this person is walking through the world and in a completely different way than you and there is something about that that is super attractive to you.

So it’s not really about the crush it is actually about the elements of that person that are missing from you. So I actually think crushes are a really good tool to find out more information about ourselves. They can kind of tell us where we need to grow and where we need to focus on next in our life.

That isn’t to say that you can’t have that relationship. It’s just about completing yourself. It’s not real (no that’s not really true). But there are definitely two work tools like the attraction that we feel to people is definitely a tool that we can use to discover more about ourselves.

So I would invite you to think about the person that you are wanting to attract and start to question what it is about that person that you think is missing from your life. Because I think that will help enlighten you in a way that a few other questions can and will help with your manifesting.

Also because of course the more that we become what we think that person wants they’re the more welcome that the thing that we want to be the more we attract that thing back to us.

So this is just going to be a clue for personal development and for your manifesting: try to figure out what that person represents that you don’t have.

Number four: so every time we think about ourselves in this happy perfect relationship with this special person, you are not just imagining that person loving you. But you are imagining yourself as a slightly different person. So you have created this little fantasy world in your head and in that fantasy world you feel loved and secure and sexy or whatever it is. Whatever those things are I want you to think about that. Like think about what you think this relationship would make you feel. Think about that person. Think about who that person is and then start becoming that person you don’t have to wait for someone to love you in order to feel those things! Or to become that person. You don’t have to wait for anybody. You can just start doing that right now! And the trick is, with the law of attraction, of course the more that you become that person, the more that you will actually attract that relationship into your life.

And maybe it isn’t with the person you think it’s with. Maybe it’s with someone else. But the more that you can step into that role of becoming this happy fulfilled sexy whatever feeling person, the more that that will actually show up in your reality.

So I want you to think about that think about the kind of person you think this relationship will make you be and then start working towards it. That will help attract it to you. It is all about becoming. It is never ever about bringing that person to us.

This is all about becoming the thing we want in real life.

Okay number five: just the same as with any other manifesting practice, attracting a specific person to you is all about flow and not about force. So what I mean by this is don’t chase that person. So of course the more we’re all like just um running on instincts and of course if anybody starts chasing you down the street what do you do you? Run away! You don’t run towards that person. So the more that you chase somebody the less likely they are going to be to let you catch them.

It is not about chasing. It’s not about forcing. It is not about showing up where this person’s gonna be every time. It is not about trying to get them to go on a date with you when they don’t want to. It’s not anything like that.

The whole trick for a relationship and for the law of attraction it is all about attracting. You are trying to attract this person to you not forcing them to be with you. So if any of your energy is going into activities to make this person hang out with you and I would just say drop that entirely. The point is that we are going to become so magnetic and so attractive that person will have no choice but to come towards you. That’s the way you have to do it. You can’t think about going after them. You have to think about drawing them into you. That is the way this works.

Number six is to focus on love. So with any crush…I mean I’m a big fan of crushes! I just have to say I usually always have some crush on somebody somewhere and I think crushes are really awesome in general. And the thing is like when I was younger, I would have a crush and I felt totally out of control because I felt like oh I like this person so much and there was nothing I could do to bring them into my life.

But the thing is now that I’ve studied the law of attraction and studied energy of course I know that sending out a loving energy is something you can do without anyone’s permission. You can do this anytime with anyone, anywhere.

You can send anyone you want to love and it is like an energetic gift. Of course the thing is with love, love is not a finite resource! The more love that we bring into our lives the more love we feel love is not something that can dry up and shrivel. It’ll never do that.

So you can give up as much love and as much love and as much love as you want every single day and there will always be more love to give.

So this the trick is though with this is that you can’t give that love and expect something back. Each time we put an expectation on any relationship even in real life if we expect that because we love somebody they have to love us back that we’ve already set ourselves up for the fall.

Love is always about giving from our own free will and you don’t need anyone to do that. You can give it yourself. Of course the way this works is the law of attraction is the more that you give, the more that you receive. So again this might not come back 100% in the form of the person that you want to attract! But I guarantee you it will put you in a more loving a state of mind and there will be more love in your life in general the more love that you give out.

So I highly encourage you to go and send love send energetic love to the person that you have a crush on or that you want to attract. You can do that but just do it with complete free will. Make sure that you are not adding any expectation on there. But it just actually feels good. Like giving love feels good. Receiving love feels good but giving love also feels good and you don’t need anyone to do that. You can do this with anybody anybody you want to, even celebrities. So go ahead!

Freely practice giving it like a gift and see how you feel and see what changes in your world. Because I guarantee like I said the more love that you give up the more love that you will attract ultimately and that is always an awesome thing.

So the final point about trying to attract a specific person using the law of attraction is this: one of the reasons why this usually doesn’t work is because you can only attract somebody using a law of attraction if you are willing to let it go.

So with any law of attraction scenario one of the big steps is always like making a declaration to the Universe and then releasing it and then knowing in your heart that it’s done. But you’re not sitting around worrying about it all the time. You know that it’s coming to you. You’ve released it it’s done. It’s over. It’s on its way.

But keep doing your inspired actions and the thing will eventually show up. So the problem with having a crush is that most people can’t let it go. Like you are so over-the-top attracted to this person that you can’t stop thinking about them and it makes you super sad to think about them not being in your life. Then you are already too attached. You have to take a step back. Whatever you need to do, maybe you need to go on Tinder and date some other people or you need to distract yourself by like enrolling in a bunch of classes or something like that.

You just have to do something to get them off the top of your mind. Because if they are the first person that you think of in the morning and the last person that you think of at night and they don’t even know you, then that’s not good. So you need to learn how to let it go. Just start thinking of this as a game as like any other manifesting game.

You have to be like “Oh wouldn’t it be cool if so-and-so asked me out?” and then kind of know it, see it, feel it in your heart and then let it go. Don’t obsess over it! If you can’t let it go then you are too attached to it and you’re not going to manifest anything.

So that is I know a huge trick especially if you are in the middle of unrequited love! But it’s possible, it’s totally possible. You just need to make yourself stop obsessing. You need to let it go.

So that is all of my rather unconventional advice for attracting a specific person using the law of attraction. Again I am Jenn from The Aligned Life and I write a lot of blog posts and stuff over at The Aligned Life dot C-CO about manifesting, the law of attraction magic and personal development. So if you like all that stuff please go over there and check it out.

If you like this video please give it a thumbs up and I would love to make more content! I would love to hear from you guys so feel free to write a comment in the box below and I’ll try to answer your question or comment over the blog and hang out. I’ve got lots of goodies for you over there too.

So thank you so much for watching! I wish you all good luck in your manifesting a specific person intensions. I hope this video helps you out in that regards. This is all true! It does work. I’m not trying to do this to discourage anyone from doing it. If you want to do it go for it but just know, know in your heart what the parameters are and please love yourself first love yourself first. That’s all I’m asking.

Okay again I’m Jenn from The Aligned Life and I’m asking you to get ready for the miracle and I will see you in the next vlog!

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Self Love + The Law of Attraction

by: Jenn

Self Love + The Law of Attraction

Self-love is a massively important concept for anyone who’s on a path of personal development. But I’m about to take it a step further:

If you don’t truly LOVE yourself, you’re never going to be successful with the Law of Attraction!

That’s because becoming a Conscious Creator requires a few different things:

It requires you to hold the confidence to dream big in the first place.

It requires you to have the ability to decide on what you want, to go after it and to ask for help with it.

And it requires you to believe in your dream and your ability to actually MAKE those dreams come true.

If you don’t believe in yourself, you’re not going to make magic happen.


You must fundamentally believe in your ability to have anything you want.

You must believe in your own power to change the world. (No matter how small that change might seem!)

And you must believe that you deserve it. Right here, right now, exactly as you are (not some “perfect” future version of you.)

As they say in the dating world, you have to fall in love with yourself first before anyone else can.

It’s just as true with manifesting as it is with dating!

If something’s “wrong” with your ability to manifest, this might just be the missing link.

And let’s just be clear: self love isn’t about false ego traps or developing an oversized ego!

It’s simply about loving yourself and believing in yourself enough to do the best thing for you: creating a life you’re wildly in love with.

So just in case you don’t believe me by now, here are 6 more ways to illustrate that self love not only supports but actually SUPERCHARGES your manifesting practice.


6 Ways Self Love Works With The Law of Attraction


Self Love + Law of Attraction Principle #1:

Self Love Allows You To Dream Bigger


So many dreams are crushed before they’ve even had a chance to hatch. When you’re not truly loving with yourself, you’ll be far more prone to all of those Negative Nelly thoughts: Who are you to ask for that? Why would that ever happen to you? What makes you think you can do that?

Of course, dreaming the dream is only the beginning the beginning of the journey towards creating an amazing life! Your desires are here to gently nudge you ever closer and closer to your true purpose. If you shut those desires down because of your low self-confidence, you’ll never get close to achieving what’s truly possible for you.


Self Love + Law of Attraction Principle #2:

Self Love Allows You To Take Up Space



Changing your life fundamentally involves taking up more space in the world. (But not too much space! Your rightful amount of space.)

When you set a goal, you’re deciding to become something bigger and better than what you are! That means you need the attitude to go with it. You need to be able to BECOME that person you’re dreaming of being. When you love and respect yourself, you’ll see how easy it is to step out of the shadows and let the world notice just how wonderful you truly are.


Self Love + Law of Attraction Principle #3:

Self Love Gives You Improved Confidence


Loving yourself means that you are BRAVE enough to declare what you want and to ask for help in receiving it. Many people don’t want to take this step because they’re so afraid of failure! They’re too worried that people will look at them and laugh if they don’t achieve what they said they would. But the truth is that no one is paying as much attention to your life as you are. Never let the fear of embarrassment hold you back! The chance to create your beautiful life is worth so much more than the off-chance of momentary shame.


Self Love + Law of Attraction Principle #4:

Self Love Allows You To Accept What Is


You cannot love yourself and impose pre-requisites for change on yourself at the same time. Self-improvement is one thing; but preventing yourself from living your best life because you haven’t achieved X, Y or Z yet is just self-flagellation in disguise.

You need to deeply understand that you are wildly DESERVING of love and success exactly the way you are. You don’t need to change in order to acquire or deserve a life you love and the sooner you realize that the better off you’ll be.


Self Love + Law of Attraction Principle #5:

Self Love Gives You The Ability To Receive


I know that at first receiving doesn’t sound like a skill at all! But many people have massive blocks about upgrading their lives because they’re not truly open to receiving.

Receiving means you’re willing to accept help and that you’re willing to let yourself change. Many people block any efforts to receive because they’re still trying to control the world around them. (I can’t accept that compliment until I’ve lost ten more pounds! If I let someone help me at work, then maybe my work won’t need me anymore.)

The ability to receive requires you to open your heart to yourself and to the beautiful possibilities all around you.


Self Love + Law of Attraction Principle #6:

Self Love Increases Magnetism


Finally, the more you love yourself the higher your vibration will be! That means you’ll be much more likely to attract the things you want in life because you’ll actually be on their level. This is the biggest reason why a solid self-love practice is crucial for your manifesting efforts! Low-vibes are difficult to change but the more you can practice loving yourself the more the Universe will love you right back.




I hope this post helps inspire you to fall back in love with the most beautiful thing on the planet: you. All the material goods and achievements in the world will be for nothing if you still can’t be happy with yourself at the end of the day. And if you can’t be happy with yourself right now, you may never achieve that! So go on and start challenging yourself towards self-love.




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PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about how to get into flow or this one about why you shouldn’t try to manifest happiness.




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6 Things To Do If Your Manifesting Isn’t Working

by: Jenn

Manifesting Not Working? Here's What To Do

One of the most common questions I get about manifesting is “why isn’t it working for me?”

Unfortunately, the road to manifesting our intentions isn’t always as smooth as we would like!

It’s very common for beginners (and even seasoned pro’s!) to (seemingly) run into problems along the way.

So first off: don’t panic! The more you freak out about your magic not working, the more difficult it will be to get back on track! And then take heart:


There’s always a positive step you can take towards manifesting your dreams.



Manifesting is a practice. It’s an art; we’re co-creating our future with the Universe. I can give you all the advice in the world but it all comes down to managing your own energy, above all else.

So with that in mind, today’s post is all about troubleshooting your manifesting practice and getting back on track:


6 Things To Do If Your Manifesting Isn’t Working


What To Do When Your Manifesting Isn’t Working Step #1:

Recalibrate



First and foremost, it’s time to check back in with yourself. Think about your intention. Now try imagining how it would feel to have it actually come true. Then ask yourself: do you still feel truly aligned with that goal? Does it still light you up?

Because it should!

Remember that you are not the same person you are yesterday (nor are you the same person you will be tomorrow). We can’t predict what’s going to be right for us in the future. If your goals need to shift, let them! Sometimes they need to shift rapidly so don’t freak out if that’s the case.

So the first priority when something has “gone wrong” is making sure you are still on the right path.

If your intention is no longer in alignment, then go ahead and start asking for something else! You don’t need to cling to anything that no longer serves you. Go on and find a new intention that’s better for you.


What To Do When Your Manifesting Isn’t Working Step #2:

Shift Your Energy


Manifesting energy cannot work within the same field as fear or anxiety. So ask yourself how you are really feeling about what you’ve asked for. If you’re detecting more negative feelings around your intention than positive ones, it’s time to shift things.

Stage an energy intervention on yourself! Start practicing radical gratitude. The more we can be thankful for what we already have, the faster we’ll shift out of a fear mentality. Even if you’re feeling extremely far away from your goal, try being extra thankful for the water in your tap, the hot shower you can have, the comfortable bed you sleep in. Play a gratitude game with yourself and see just how thankful you can be in just one day.


What To Do When Your Manifesting Isn’t Working Step #3:

Leave The Door Open


Are your actions truly aligned with your intentions? In reality, it’s not always the case. Many of us (myself included) think and say we want certain things while pursuing behavior that does not really align with that.

So really ask yourself: have you left the door open for those good things to come find you? You can ask the world for anything you want but precious few things can show up in the middle of a Netflix marathon. (That is one very closed door!)

The Universe chases movement and it’s desperately trying to meet you half way. So make it easy, ok? Put in a little effort and make some room for the Universe to respond to.


What To Do When Your Manifesting Isn’t Working Step #4:

Feel, Don’t Think


Manifesting always starts in the heart, not the head. You must believe before you can receive.

Since feeling is the most important thing, it’s time to check back in with yourself. Can you really feel what it will be like to win the job, the contest, the girl? If you can’t, it’s time to put some extra effort into it.

Believing always comes first: even if you don’t see evidence, even if your dream seems crazy to an outsider. Belief is your own manifesting super-power. And if you don’t truly believe in what you’re asking for, then try adjusting your wish to something that you do believe in.





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What To Do When Your Manifesting Isn’t Working Step #5:

Let Go


Remember to let go and stay out of the details. In other words, you can set an intention but don’t get attached to the how. The Universe is much smarter than we are! There are a million different ways you can get what you want. Don’t try to micromanage how things should happen.

Are you trying to insist on things happening only one way? If so, you’re not leaving much room for the Universe to reach out and surprise you. If you’re attached to a specific event or date, try letting it go. Leave a little room for the magic to do it’s thing.


What To Do When Your Manifesting Isn’t Working Step #6:

Look For The Proof


Sometimes your wishes will come falling straight out the sky, practically bumping you straight on the head. But other times, things aren’t so obvious. Energy is a pattern; sometimes signs arrive long before our actual intention shows up. Sometimes the tides begin to turn in tiny almost-imperceptible ways. But by turning our attention to those tiny events, we magnify and attract more and more of them. So start looking around you for “evidence”. You’ll always find some, if you keep an open mind.




I hope these tips serve you well on your manifesting adventures! Thank you so much for reading & if you enjoyed this post, please remember to share!

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life



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7 Ways To Feel Abundant (Even When You’re Broke!)

by: Jenn

7 Ways To Feel Abundant (Even When You're Broke!)

Hands down, the most popular manifestation request of all time is to create more abundance.

Of course, this is only natural. In an ideal world, we would all live an abundant life: we want to eat fancy food at nice restaurants, wear designer clothes, travel, own property. (Not that everyone’s definition of abundance is the same! For you that might mean a fridge well-stocked with vegan delicacies rather than Lamborghini parked in the driveway.)

Abundance is also one of the trickiest things to manifest, by its very nature. To admit that you want abundance, is to acknowledge that you’re also somehow lacking.

They are two sides to the same coin.

So to just wish and think about acquiring abundance somehow magically in the future is not enough to make a change. That will only keep you trapped where you are!


You’ve to do the work on yourself now in order to make the shift happen.



So just because it’s such a tricky topic, today I’m offering seven different tips to help you manifest that abundant state.


7 Ways To Feel Abundant (Even When You’re Broke!)


How To Feel Abundant Tip #1:

Love What Is



While you’re looking to improve your abundant state, you’re probably not thinking very positively about the state you’re in right now.

You might even be stressed, scared or a bit in denial about where you are.

Do you have excuses for where you are right now? Maybe you say are where you are due to some old trauma, tragedy or heartbreak.

Oh how we love our excuses! And while there might be a kernel of truth in each excuse, the excuse is often shielding our real truth.

So ask yourself: what do you LOVE about your life/situation right now?

Acknowledging these things involves confronting that secret Shadow side of ourself.

Maybe you secretly love shirking responsibility from certain things. Maybe you secretly love living your life at 70% because that allows you a whole lot more time for those Netflix binge sessions. Maybe you’re afraid that moving forward will result in less free time or less time for your relationship.

The bottom line: no matter who you are or where you are, there’s something that you really love about your life right now.

And you’ll need to figure out what that is first, before the change can come.

We can’t move forward if we’re denying where we currently stand. We can’t transform without becoming brutally honest about who we are first.

Confronting ourself only seems scary at first; the reality is never as bad as we’ve made it out to be. So get onboard with your laziness, emotional confusion, energy levels or whatever. Acknowledge it all to make peace with your future.


How To Feel Abundant Tip #2:

Shift Your Perception



There’s always something good you can focus on, even if right now you think everything is against you. There’s always something you can be happy about or grateful for, even in the most dire of circumstances.

Even if you’re scraping by, there’s always something to express gratitude for. So right now, even if your rent is overdue or there are bills that need to be paid, take a look around at what you already have. If you’re reading this, you’ve probably got a roof over your head and a computer (or smartphone!) to read it on. So you’re already doing pretty well, by the standards of the world! Be thankful for your warm winter coat, your waterproof shoes, your reliable car, your education, your clean, running water, your beautiful boyfriend, your loving family, that moment of laughter you shared with a cashier at the grocery store.

Find at least five things today that you can genuinely be happy for. Then tomorrow, start again with another five and the next day and the next. Make it a habit and keep that grateful energy flowing!


How To Feel Abundant Tip #3:

Look For Signs From A Loving Universe



Turn on the TV and you’ll see war, pain, fear. But that’s a one-sided picture. There’s still a lot of good in the world, even though much of it will never make the six o’clock news. In order to see the love, you need to train yourself to look out for it. Be a witness to the random good around you, the kindness between your neighbours, those small moments between strangers that echo into your soul.

I promise you, it’s out there. Look for the things the Universe has conspired to bring to you. (There are many!) We all have a story about thinking about someone and having them call 10 seconds later or bringing up a name in conversation only to turn around and find that person behind us. Think about how often you were in the right place at the right time or how things just seemed to somehow magically happen for you. The Universe is talking to you all the time. It’s showing you how important you truly are. So if you’ve forgotten, now’s the time to tune in and listen.


How To Feel Abundant Tip #4:

Be Happy For Others



It’s time to kill your jealousy monster! Remember that someone else having something that you do not does not have any reflection on you. We’re all on our own timelines and we’ll never know the true story behind someone else. Your jealousy comes in part from judging yourself. (And also partly from the belief that life should always be fair. Ha!)

Instead, it’s time to try sending some active love towards the object of your jealousy. Being genuinely happy (like right down to your heart) energizes you and the other person. And sending out happy energy feels really really good!

It can take practice to get to that place but you can start small. If throwing down some congrats in person or on social media seems like too big of a step, start with your own thoughts. Just purposefully think a few happy, warm thoughts towards whoever you’re feeling jealous of. Then later on, add in a few more. Then tomorrow, try a few more.

Eventually, this practice will also become second nature. (Really!)


How To Feel Abundant Tip #5:

Notice Those Negative Thoughts



For most of us, our own biggest enemy is our own mind. The limitations we unknowingly impose on ourself begin to shape our life. We mentally get in our own way.

Eliminating negative thinking is an ongoing process, not an overnight miracle cure! The first step is simply to become aware of when you’re experiencing a negative thought pattern. You always have the option of choosing a better thought!

Here are some common ones:

  • I’m just not good/smart/pretty enough.
  • I can’t pay my bills.
  • This always happens to me.
  • No matter what I do I can’t get ahead.
  • I never have enough money/time.
  • I’ll never get the guy/girl/job/recognition.

Each one of these statements (or similar statements) represents a limiting belief: a nonsensical, non-rational negative belief we carry about ourselves.

When you “vibrate” (think/speak/act) in accordance with one of these thoughts, you are agreeing that you are not enough. And as long as you let your energy stay there, you won’t be able to shift out of it. In fact, you might only make things worse!

It’s time to look at those thoughts rationally. Are they empirically true? Do you even have any evidence of them being true? (And no an experience you had at the age of fourteen should not count as solid evidence twenty years later!)

These thoughts are always very black and white. But the world we live in has a lot more color and nuance than that! Just hold in your heart the fact that very rarely can any such statement be true.


How To Feel Abundant Tip #6:

Use Your Nice Shit



Take a look at you! Are you sitting around in cat-hair covered sweatpants when you have a closet full of designer jeans at the ready? (Admittedly, this is me far too often!) We often own lots of nice things that we put off using for “someday”: towels you keep for guests, the fancy expensive candles you’re afraid to burn, the nice clothes you’re keeping for special occasions.

Well it’s time to stop waiting for a day that might never come. How would it make you feel to actually use all that stuff right now?

The truth is you might have closed yourself off to receiving more abundance because you’re not enjoying the abundance you already have.

Burning that expensive candle is an act of receiving. It’s an act of allowing. It’ll smell good and make you feel amazing.

And feeling good about using it opens up the possibility that you might just have enough money to buy a new one when it’s done! (Whereas hoarding it keeps that energy trapped!)

So using all that stuff is a way to hack into that abundant part of your brain (instead of “punishing” yourself by limiting your own use of your belongings! It’s loudly saying yes to a more abundant life.


How To Feel Abundant Tip #7:

Play A Game



For most people, money (and abundance) can be heavy, emotionally charged issues. If that’s the case for you, then it’s time to shift that. The best manifestation experiments begin with a playful mindset. The Universe wants to dance with you, not to be ordered around like a robot! So let’s start by giving it some parameters and seeing what you can make happen.

Try playing a game. Pick a symbol (not money-related to start with) and ask The Universe to bring to you within the next 72 hours. Once you’ve done this successfully a few times, start playing with monetary amounts ($2, $5 etc.) See what you can find! Then once you’ve got some more confidence with money, go bigger!

Remember: it’s ultimately the attitude that counts, not the dollar amount of what you’re actually asking for.




The Truth About Abundance

Money will not set you free. I half-heartedly tweeted the other day that “celebrities exist to show us that you can be beautiful, famous and rich and still an absolutely miserable fuck”. It was tongue in cheek but the point remains. Nothing outside of you can truly make you happy. Wishing for more money (which, let’s face it, is what most people are after when they seek “abundance”) will not solve the other issues you have in life.

Money can be a bandaid; it can be a distraction just as much as drugs or alcohol can be. So while I’m not asking you not to ask for more abundance (we all have the right to live as abundantly as we wish!) I’m asking you not to follow the money blindly because you believe it’ll be a magical panacea for everything else that’s wrong with your life.

If you don’t know how to be happy now, money will not be your teacher! It’s always the true mastery of our inner self that brings us the greatest joy, not the outer accoutrements of life.




I hope this inspires you to think abundantly (and freely!) about your own life! Even while you’re manifesting great change in your life, never forget that the most important thing of all is you.

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life



PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about most common money blocks or this one about how to manifest money fast.




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And now for a quick message from your Higher Self: And now for a quick message from your Higher Self:Love yourself enough to LET IT GOBreathe deep & have a happy Sunday my beautiful babes!
You are magic itself.And your desires have meani You are magic itself.And your desires have meaning for the WORLD.So if you really KNEW that you were here to feel happy and do the things that bring you joy, what would you be doing differently?If you’re like me, it’s too easy to forget our true divine nature.It’s too easy to believe our worries and limitations more than we trust ourselves and this beautiful journey.But if you could trust your magic for just a moment, what would change?If you knew your dreams where a matter of WHEN not if, how would this moment be different?All the magic you ever needed is IN you already. All you need to do right now is TUNE into it!
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with love + miracles ✨
~ Jenn
Identity shifting is KEY to manifesting.Because Identity shifting is KEY to manifesting.Because you ALWAYS manifest from your subconscious mind.Meaning you WILL play out old programs and ideas over and over again.Until YOU decide enough's enough! And do the work to REPROGRAM your mind to reflect what it you want and who you need to be.But sometimes, this work doesn't FEEL like it's doing anything.Those little tiny shifts on the inside are close to invisible--which might even make you doubt that it's happening at all.But trust me gorgeous, it IS.Keep taking tiny steps forward.Keep doubling down on who you WANT to be.TRUST the process and understandThat little by little, bit by bitIt all adds upUntil one day you look around and realize: I'm already there.
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with love + miracles ✨
~ Jenn
What would it be like to TRULY be enough for yours What would it be like to TRULY be enough for yourself?💜To not CRAVE that outside approval or validation?To forget about other people's opinions or what they say behind your back?To not motivate yourself to move TOWARDS something only because you cannot stand where you are?This just goes to show that as much as we all LOATHE to admit it, so much of what we do is based off of artificially leveraging ourselves UP.If so-and-so would only say "good job"If that person would LOVE meIf I finally did [ insert arbitrary goal here ]THEN I could finally feel good and actually TRULY love myself.Sometimes we all get our wires crossed on this at times. (Myself included!)We focus on the future fantasy that our issues will MAGICALLY disappear once X/Y/Z happens.And we chase the things outside of us, forgetting that the ONLY place our true happiness lies is within ourselves.I'm here to warn you:You could run the whole race of life and NOT get what you think you need from other people.You could meet milestone after milestone and still NEVER feel like you measure up. 😩ORYou could start being enough, right here, right now.Enough = you as you are, flaws, mistakes and all.Enough = you without anyone else.Enough = you.💗Happy Thursday Conscious Creator friends!
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with love + miracles ✨
~ Jenn
It's a FACT of life: you're simply NOT going to fe It's a FACT of life: you're simply NOT going to feel good all the time.And that's okay!Not gonna lie: the last month or so has been rough for me.The darkness of winter + strict lockdowns/limited holiday celebrations were TOUGH.I've definitely had my moments of letting it all get to me.But that doesn't mean anything has gone wrong.It doesn't mean that I'm somehow failing.And it definitely does NOT mean I'm putting more space between me and my manifestation goals.Even with the BEST of intentions, life is 50/50. Expecting perfection at any time will ONLY set you up for disappointment.Feeling frustrated, down, exhausted: those are all normal feelings for anyone experiencing a pandemic (plus general winter blues/ political chaos etc.)So while I don't want to create MORE of those feelings, I'm also not going to judge myself for having them.Making your feelings WRONG does not speed you up back into feeling better. It only creates self-loathing and resistance.Are you feeling the same? Here are a few things that are helping me right now:- Just letting myself cry if I feel like it (Sometimes 10 minutes of a good cry is a sufficient release!)
- Concentrating on pandemic-lockdown friendly goals that I CAN achieve (Doing pilates every day, meditation + Manifestation Journaling)
- Taking a break from drinking (I only drank about once a week anyway! But why not try going without it for a month?)
- Doing more behind-the-scenes entrepreneur stuff (The kinds of things that are so easy to put off for "someday")
- Using my SAD lamp every morning! (I only just got it but I swear it's helping)
- NOT judging myself too harshly if I suddenly don't feel up to doing the work I had planned or posting as much I "should" (Being an entrepreneur brings an EXTRA level of potential self-judgment that's hard to get out of at times.)This is all just a great example of one of the most important lessons of LIFE.You don't get to choose all your circumstances. But you DO get to choose what you do WITH them.What are you choosing to create right now? Whether you're in lockdown or not, I'd love to hear it!

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