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5 Ways You’re Repelling Money

by: Jenn

Does this sound familiar: you’re trying to manifest money for yourself. You set the intention and you start to do the inner work.

But it just seems like no matter what you do, the money doesn’t come in. Instead of attracting, you mostly seem to be repelling money.

It’s not that manifesting doesn’t work. (In fact, you’ve probably had some great experiences manifesting some other things!). So what’s actually going on?

This is one of the most common frustrations of manifestors.

When you really (really) want something, you also accidentally make it really hard to call in.

That’s because you end up putting way too much importance on it, which is just another sneaky way of giving your own power away.

So if this scenario sounds familiar, don’t panic and keep reading! I’ve got some brilliant advice for you today.

It’s always key to remember that money is really just energy in another form! It’s neither good nor evil. It just is. But all the stories and drama we create around money and finances mean we’ve made it much bigger and scarier than it needs to be.

If there’s one takeaway you get from reading this make it this: freaking out about money is not going to help you attract it! The more you try to hoard it or obsess about getting it, the more it will continue to elude you.

With manifesting, it’s never about forcing the world to change to your will. It’s about becoming magnetic to your desires to the point that you attract in the very thing you want.

Those two energies are very different so be honest with yourself about what your thoughts, feelings and actions are actually saying! The message we think we’re sending is quite often very different from the reality.

However, the good news is that is that because money is energy, you are in complete control of your own relationship with money!

That means you don’t have to beat your head into the ground “trying” to figure out how to make more of it or how to keep it or how to stack it. As Yoda says, there is no try! Your relationship with money is of your own making. So the real question is: what are you going to do differently from now on in order to attract it to you?

If today’s finally the day for you to take your financial future into your own hands, then be sure to keep reading:

5 Ways You’re Repelling Money

Repelling Money Action #1:

You’re Giving Money Too Much Power

Putting money on a pedestal is hands-down one of the biggest reasons money continues to elude you! But you’re truly the one writing your own money rules. The moment you decided money was too scary and important for you to handle was the exact moment you gave your money power away! But that also means you can start to rewrite that relationship any time you like.

So get this part straight: money isn’t better than you (like even remotely!). It’s energy just like you are. But the more you pretend like you’re not worthy of it or that you don’t understand it or that you can’t handle it, the more money will agree with you. So today’s a good time to stop! No matter what your money history has been remember that your future doesn’t have to look like that! It’s time to become money’s friend instead of pretending you’re not on its energetic level. (You totally are. Duh.)

Repelling Money Action #2:

You’re Stuck In Chase Mode

Just like love, money isn’t something you can chase down and force to happen. So it’s time to give up that approach entirely! Instead of running at it, it’s time to attract it! You always run the risk of chasing something off when you run directly at it. So what can you do to encourage money to come to you instead of the other way around?

So what can you do to become attractive to money? Hint: this just means loving your money, paying attention to your money, nurturing your money. If your money story largely revolves around fear, then I guarantee that love, attention and nurture aren’t words you use around money at all!

Repelling Money Action #3:

You’re Controlling The How

Having a rigid of idea of how money can show up for you is another likely culprit repelling money away from you. Our own expectations can sometimes be our biggest limitations! But why put extra limits on money when there’s no reason for it? Staying away from the how is an important part of maximizing your money energy potential.

So ask yourself: do you only think money can come through certain channels (like only through your paycheck)? In reality, there are many options that money can come through: unexpected windfalls, side hustles, forgotten checks, gifts, new careers etc. But if all your money energy is focused on suddenly (randomly!) getting a raise, then it might be time to expand your money horizons! Get creative (because the Universe definitely is!).

Repelling Money Action #4:

You’re Avoiding/Ignoring Money

One of the biggest pitfalls I see with manifestors is falling into the avoidance trap! In other words, if you’re actively ignoring your own money issues you’re probably also going to have problems manifesting! After all, it’s hard to get on the same vibration as something that you’re actively fearing.

Ignoring and avoiding your money issues are tempting. But trust me–no matter how bad or big you think your money problems are, you have the ability to conquer them! Right now you’re just letting your fears get the best of you.

But the truth is your fears are never nearly as big and terrible as your brain makes them out to be. The sooner you start taking action and facing your money fears head on, the sooner you’ll be moving past them for good!

Repelling Money Action #5:

You’re Not Being Grateful

Not being grateful for the money you do have is another repellent energy that might be keeping money well away from you. It can be challenging to summon gratitude when your bank balance is $5.62. But gratitude is the energy of flow and abundance (whereas fear belongs to scarcity and lack).

So I challenge you to flip your attitude on its head right now: no matter what your bank account says or how much you owe, say a big thank you for money. Put that number or idea in your hear and be truly grateful for it! Remember, this number is fleeting. Being grateful now will not tie you to this bank account balance forever! Indeed, it will actually change your vibrational energy and make you more receptive to receiving more. So try it right now and watch the money miracles happen!

So tell me: which money mindset trick are you going to implement? Where do you think you’ve been blocking your money energy this whole time (and how are you going to change it)?

Don’t ever be fooled into thinking you can’t control your own relationship with money! As with everything else, you’re always the one writing the rules. If you’re serious about creating a change, then it’s time to start the journey to change: from the inside out.

PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about 5 reasons why the Law of Attraction isn’t working for you or this one about 40 small ways to massively transform your life.

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Why You Can’t Manifest From Lack

by: Jenn

Why You Can’t Manifest From Lack | One of the intrinsic problems with manifesting is that we tend to approach our intentions as a band-aid solution (ie. trying to manifest a lot of money instead of working on our actual money issues etc). But if you’re feeling a real sense of lack, then it’s going to be difficult to get on the same page as your desire! In this video I explain why manifesting from lack just won’t work and what you should do instead.

Thank you so much for watching!

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Manifesting From Lack, Scarcity & Fear: Why Spiritual Bypass Never Works

by: Jenn

Did you know: your goals are never just about what they appear to be on the surface?

They can always help reveal the truth about our true motivations in life, just as long as we’re willing to look!

Manifesting can be just another way for us to hide our heads in the sand and avoid the very things that are most important. Plus many of us are attempting to manifest something simply in order to feel better about ourselves. We think that if we get the guy/money/job etc. then we’ll finally feel good about ourselves.

But that’s just following the a formula that doesn’t work! As much as you try, you cannot use something outside of you to heal your inner wounds.

Attempting to do this is what we call spiritual bypass–and it might be the very reason you can’t manifest what you want!

Trying to manifest while overlooking your true fears is like trying to fly with a lead backpack on. You can try all you want but it’s probably not going to work!

You can’t simultaneously fear something and successfully call it in. Your fear and insecurities will remain until you do the work to clear them.

Face it: the Universe always know what’s up. (And how annoying is that??)

The bottom line is: you can’t skip the lesson that’s right in front of you! So there’s no point in trying.

But you can still manifest your desires, just as long as you’re willing to ferret out those issues and fears so you can truly heal them. It’s from that place of wholeness that we have the most magnetism and power! So please take this guide not as a cautionary tale but as a place to begin the healing process.

Spiritual Bypass: The Top 3 Symptoms

There are three major signs and symptoms of spiritual bypass:

Spiritual Bypass Symptom #1:

Lack

Goal-setting is undeniably a tricky business! We decide we want certain things in life because we think they’ll make us happy. But one the biggest truths of life is that happiness isn’t a result. It’s a choice! So all the material goods or life achievements in the world won’t necessarily make you happy! Fortunately, that means happiness is always optional no matter what your life might look like.

However, we’re here to grow and expand and goal-setting is the perfect path to doing that. Plus, our desires are also part of our unique soul path. Following them might not take you exactly where you want to go but it will always take you to where you’re supposed to be.

Still, for many of us, goal-setting doesn’t come from an enlightened place. Instead, it’s part of our old outside-in paradigm. We think that manifesting the car or the Louboutins or the ring on our finger will make us (finally!) feel good about ourselves. So we set out manifesting those things. But the core issues are all still there. If you feel insecure or unloved or whatever right now, the thing won’t make you feel better for more than a day or two.

All too often the goals we set for ourselves do not ultimately have our best intentions in mind. We’re just playing catch up so we can feel similar to our peers or using something outside of us to try to feel good.

When you’re doing this you’re putting the power in the object or event, more than in yourself. You’re creating situational validation, which is not true happiness at all! Your worthiness is the key issue here. If you don’t think you’re worthy, the Universe will ultimately echo that back to you.

Spiritual Bypass Symptom #2:

Scarcity

Operating from a scarcity mindset means you’re constantly competing with others or somehow worried that there’s not enough to go around. But it’s really all just fear in a slightly different format.

Not surprisingly, scarcity most often comes up around money and abundance. When people try to manifest winning the lottery, their desire is often rooted in a place of scarcity. They’re looking outside of themselves for the answer because they don’t fundamentally trust in their own ability to make or keep that kind of money.

Another way we default into scarcity is by buying into scarcity beliefs. When it comes to money, there are an awful lot of them–so many that you might not even have questioned their validity! For example, “Money doesn’t grow on trees”, “You have to work hard to get rich”, “The rich get richer” etc. We hear these things so often over a lifetime we often start to regard them as fact, when they are anything but.

Test out your own scarcity beliefs by thinking about what you’re manifesting for yourself. Are you only trying manifesting because you think you couldn’t get it in the normal Muggle way? Or do you truly believe in scarcity beliefs around money (or love or whatever it is)?

None of those scarcity stories are empirically true–which means you also get to not believe in them, even if you’ve carried them with you for your entire life! Your beliefs are literally what creates your world so dare to exercise your right to choose in something that’s supportive of you.

Spiritual Bypass Symptom #3:

Fear

Fear comes up in many ways but the ultimate fear tactic is one we often don’t even see! Our ego loves to trick us into avoiding the very thing we need to work on the most. It’s just afraid of actually dealing with it and therefore having to change! But instead of actually experiencing fear, it’s probably hiding your fear, by convincing you that your real worry is not that important or that you can somehow go through life without dealing with it.

Two very common areas this comes up are around love and money. (Like always!) For example, many people get fixated on manifesting a million dollars. But it’s not the million dollars they really want! They’re really just trying to avoid their own mountain of money problems. If you’re avoiding looking at your credit card or bills, that’s a red flag that you’re actually afraid of your money situation. Trying to manifest from this space will be an uphill battle because your desire is ultimately rooted in fear.

When it comes to love, our secret fear can tell us all kinds of things to keep us small and safe. “All the good ones are taken.” “Dating in this city is too hard.” “I’m too old/fat/poor etc.” Those excuses might even sound legit at first but they’re really just putting a layer of bubble wrap around your heart!

It’s only once you try to look beyond those issues to see the real issue of fear and you’ll have a chance of being able to call in what you really want!

The Cure For Spiritual Bypass

Authenticity is true power and that includes being authentic and real with yourself. Like I always say: You can have whatever you want as long as you know your why!

In other words, your why is key to manifesting successfully! When you’re brave enough to be 100% honest with yourself, you’ll start to see how many of our desires are actually attached to our Shadow. They come from the dark and murky places in our psyche and are not always imbued with our highest good.

When you try to heal a wound with something that’s outside you, you’re never going to succeed. However, it’s not all bad news! You can still have the thing you want; but you just need to work on healing that wound first.

It’s only once you’ve found self-acceptance and healing that you’ll truly be able to call your wish through. Your wound will always have more power over you until you can summon the courage to face up to it. And once that happens? Boom! You’ll become totally magnetic.

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You really can have whatever it is you desire just as long as you’re coming from a place of true power. Don’t be discouraged! You always have the power to overcome whatever blocks you might find. After all, you created it all so that also means you can destroy it!

Have fun manifesting with this & thank you for reading!

PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about how to integrate your shadow or this one about why you shouldn’t manifest happiness.

5 Ways You’re Repelling Money