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Jenn Stevens | Spiritual Life + Business Coach

8 Habits Of Mentally Strong People

by: Jenn

You might not think of yourself as a mentally strong person right now!

But my question for you today is: why wouldn’t you want to?

Most of us are walking through life with some pretty negative and outdated ideas about ourselves.

We think that because we’ve endured tough times or because we’ve done something we now feel shame about that that means we’re weak.

Or–worse!–like there’s something wrong with us!

Maybe those negative ideas you have about yourself are so strong that you haven’t even challenged them!

That means we start thinking of ourselves as mentally weak. But the worst part about that is that then we start showing up like that’s what’s really true.

So again, let me ask you, if you could think of yourself as mentally strong, then why wouldn’t you want to?

Trust me, this option is available to everyone! And the best way to start reprogramming your mind to think this way is to start taking the actions that will prove it.

You don’t have to walk around thinking of yourself as weak or broken! Your self-image of yourself is so crucial to so much you do in life. So if things need some improving, why not take action right now to start to change it?

Here are my 8 best tips to help you start becoming mentally strong! So don’t hesitate. Take action today gorgeous!


8 Habits Of Mentally Strong People


Mentally Strong People Habit #1:

They Don’t Fear Their Mistakes


You might not think of yourself as a perfectionist but there’s a great chance perfectionist thinking might be getting in your way! If you’re putting off making a decision or taking action because you’re worried about getting things “right”, then this applies to you!

But it isn’t your fault! In school, we were taught that there’s only one right answer. But in the school of life, there isn’t! There are just a lot of different answers, with some that are better than others. But very often you won’t know what the best answer is for you, unless you pick something and find out!

Mentally strong people understand this and know they can’t go through life without making some mistakes. They’re definitely not waiting around for things to be “perfect” because they also know that will never happen.


Mentally Strong People Habit #2:

They Live In The Moment


Our brains love to play tricks on us and convince us to either ruminate over our past or freak out about our future. But focusing your attention on either of those things just brings you away from the only time that is real: the present moment.

Mentally strong people understand this; they know that spending too much time in their head takes them away from their only chance of happiness. So train yourself to do this too! Take a few moments during your day to get out of your mind and notice where you’re currently at. You might not think mindfulness has anything to do with being mentally strong but this practice alone will help you take control of your thoughts and your life!


Mentally Strong People Habit #3:

They Practice Gratitude


Gratitude is a necessary ingredient for a happy and fulfilled life! As Oprah once famously said: Be grateful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you’ll never ever have enough

Yet in our fast-moving society, we’re rarely taught to be happy with what we’ve got! Consumerism means we’re always focusing on the so-called “latest and greatest”. That leaves us perpetually feeling like we’re trying to catch up–and therefore, like we’re never quite matching up to what’s expected of us. That ultimately leaves us feeling exhausting and perpetually lacking.

It takes strength to opt-out of this cultural expectation. But mentally strong people are inspired to do so because they know that on the other side lies true happiness.


Mentally Strong People Habit #4:

They Use Their Willpower


No matter what you’re after in life, willpower is an essential element in achieving your goals. Mentally strong people understand that success comes from persistence more than anything else! You can’t try for something one day and give up the next and still expect to get results. You have to keep showing up, whether you feel good or not.

If you keep giving up on yourself before you achieve your results, then of course you’ll never get where you want to go! But if you develop the habit of simply showing up–again and again and again–then you become unstoppable.


Mentally Strong People Habit #5:

They Challenge Themselves


Mentally strong people know that standing still is not an option! No matter how good their life might be at the moment, there’s always room for improvement!

That means they’re always setting goals and deciding on what they want to pursue next. They’re not going to let themselves get lazy and try to coast through life (which is smart because that doesn’t work anyway!). They know that while doing new things can be intimidating, it’s also the only way to learn–and the only way to keep making progress to what they want.


Mentally Strong People Habit #6:

They Keep Going After Setbacks


Everyone faces bumps in the road from time to time! Maybe you worked really hard on something and it didn’t turn out how you wanted it to. Or maybe you thought something was about to happen for you and it just didn’t. These moments can seem intensely personal, ultimately signifying something negative about us. But when you let that negative story take up space in your mind, then you’ll find it hard to get yourself back to in the ring.

Mentally strong people simply don’t let those moments get in their way! Yes, sometimes things are tough or we get disappointed but it’s always up to us whether or not to keep going. The story of negativity is yours to believe–or not believe. But picking the option that allows you to keep moving forward instead of giving up really is the strongest thing you can do!


Mentally Strong People Habit #7:

They Are Kind


Fact: it’s a whole lot easier to take your anger or frustration out on people than it is to come from a place of love and respect! We’re all tempted to snap at people sometimes–whether it’s a friend, partner or the cashier at your grocery store–but not following that impulse is a sign of true inner strength.

So the next time you’re tempted to lose it on someone, take a deep breath and come back to your power. Ask yourself: is this really the best use of my energy? Be strong and stay kind.


Mentally Strong People Habit #8:

They Take Responsibility For Themselves No Matter What


At times it’s tempting to blame our failures and shortcomings on other people or circumstances. But a funny thing happens when you do that! When you decide to believe that it’s all X’s or Y’s fault, that also means that you can’t do anything to change it! After all, you’re not X or Y! So while blame feels good temporarily it also goes hand-in-hand with victim mentality.

While it might be a tough pill to swallow to admit where you’ve gone wrong, it’s also the path to becoming the hero of your own story! If you can admit to where your mistakes were, then you’ll also be able to start correcting them. That’s the first step towards getting your true power back!



So what did you think? How mentally strong do you feel you are? Which steps are you going to implement first?

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Your mental image of yourself is so key to everything you want in life! If you don’t think of yourself as being mentally strong, you can do something about it! Your mindset is everything and you really can change anything you want about yourself. And, as a bonus, once you do, you might just be surprised at how much your outer world changes too!



Jenn Stevens | The Aligned Life



PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about manifest confidence with the Queen archetype or this one about 7 lessons that transformed my entire life.



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8 Habits Of Mentally Strong People

Happiness & What Your Thoughts Have To Do With It

by: Jenn

Happiness & What Your Thoughts Have To Do With It

I know when people come to me as a life coach it’s because they feel bad. However, it usually takes a little work to uncover the REAL cause of the bad feelings: your thoughts! In this episode, I’m sharing why understanding this connection is so key to feeling happy and in control of your life!







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Happiness & What Your Thoughts Have To Do With It

Manifest Your Happy! How To Create Your Best Life & Have Fun Doing It

by: Jenn

Question: have you ever experienced manifesting burnout?

It’s a real thing, I swear! And you’re definitely not alone if you have.

While it’s normal to get excited about the power of the Law of Attraction at first, it’s also common to lose enthusiasm at some point.



Sometimes you stop because you don’t know what you want to manifest.

Sometimes you simply get overwhelmed by all the possibilities (so you end up doing nothing).

And sometimes, you stop because all that thinking about your future leaves you more exhausted than energized! (And ugh…who wants that?)


To be true, clarity is a crucial part of manifesting. Because if you don’t know what you want how are you going to create it?


But all that thinking and planning about the future can leave you feeling defeated before you’ve even begun!



Sometimes you need to remind yourself that even the best of intentions also have a dark side. As soon as you say you want something, it becomes very apparent that you don’t already have it!

In other words, our manifesting goals also put our focus on our lack. And remember–whatever you focus on expands! So too much thinking about how far away your goal is only makes your goal retreat farther into the distance.

So what to do?

That’s why today I was inspired to tackle that feeling of exhaustion and pressure that can happen with manifesting. I want you guys to feel excited about consciously creating your future, not overwhelmed by it! So in this post, I’m sharing some of my best tips on how to set goals, with love and a sense of fun.


5 Ways To Manifest Your Happy! How To Create Your Best Life & Have Fun Doing It


Manifest Your Happy Step #1:

Stop Competing



One of the most common reasons people get hyper-focused on their future is because they feel like they have to catch up to someone else. Maybe your best friend just got married or your ex just bought a house. Comparing yourself to the people around you can make you feel unhappy with where you’re at almost instantly. Then we try to compensate by focusing on our future and catching up.

Of course, setting goals because of other people means those goals aren’t authentic to you. So while it’s a tough habit to break but it’s time to stop comparing yourself to everyone else, including your friends, family, social media favorites and celebrities. Comparison really is the thief of joy! There’s no faster way to feel unhappy with your life than by comparing it to what’s around you.

Keep in mind that our perception of others is never as peachy keen as the reality! Sometimes those designer handbags are the result of a spending addiction. Sometimes the happiest looking relationships on Instagram are anything but! Plus, I guarantee there’s someone looking at you right now thinking you have everything figured out.

Remember perfection isn’t a real thing anyway and we’re all living life in our own timeline. So stop worrying about “catching up” and let yourself get back to enjoying life!


Manifest Your Happy Step #2:

Remember Your Real Purpose



Your job, my dear human, is to enjoy this life while you’re here! But this apparently radical concept flies directly in the face of what we’ve been taught. Instead, we’ve been brainwashed into thinking we need to work hard so we can earn more money so we can buy things that will make us happy.

But guess what: you can be happy anyway, right now, without all the work and bells and whistles! In fact, the quicker you opt out of that harmful line of thinking that you need X/Y/Z first, the happier you’ll be.

It’s never the goals that you’re really after. It’s always the feeling. You think that the car/boyfriend/job will make you feel more successful and confident. But those things are really just an excuse! So why not grant yourself that permission right now?

The things we pursue are nice-to-have but they don’t define us! So don’t punish yourself because you’re not there yet. Practice feeling the way you want to and you’ll be able to loosen your grip on your desires. Plus a funny thing happens here: as soon as you can surrender, that’s exactly when your goals will start showing up!


Manifest Your Happy Step #3:

Go Smaller



If you’re getting burnt out over your amazing-yet-daunting manifesting goals, perhaps it’s time go a little smaller.

Sure, everyone gets excited about manifesting things like Louboutins or beach-front homes. But you don’t have to save your manifesting powers for those special things only! It’s actually wonderful practice for you to start setting mini-intentions throughout your day, about things that are oh-so-very ordinary.

Maybe these smaller goals are not initially as exciting as your big sexy goals. But they’ll help you practice staying into the energy of fun and joy through the manifesting process!

So give it a shot: set an intention for your morning, your commute, your workout. Just take a moment to consider how you want things to go and watch what happens! Since we’re not all up in our head about these kinds of things, it’s a lot easier for us to manifest them. Plus once you see how easy it to start shifting your reality, you’ll gain more confidence in your skills and start creating success more often!


Manifest Your Happy Step #4:

Have Fun



At the end of the day, manifesting is just a tool for you to create your best life! Again, the purpose of life is to be happy. If you’re torturing yourself for not being “done” or not having figured every last thing out, you’re missing the point.

It’s hard to manifest your way into something that makes you really happy when your energy isn’t happy. You’re forever reaping the rewards of your own energetic output. So where is your energy going? If you’re feeling pressured, anxious or stressed because of your manifestation goals, you’ve already lost the game! Focus on feeling good always and you’ll always be in a magnetic state.

Manifest Your Happy! How To Create Your Best Life & Have Fun Doing It


Manifest Your Happy Step #5:

Take A Break



Sometimes we all just need a break! If you have too much of what I call Destination Addiction (a focus on the end goal more than on the present moment), then I’m going to prescribe you a radical treatment:

Stop manifesting.

Yup, you read that right! But it truly is necessary from time to time. If manifesting just makes you focus your attentions somewhere far off in the future more than in the present moment, then you need a swift intervention. Stop worrying about where you’re going for a week or a month and challenge yourself to be more present in the moment.

Sure, your life might not be picture perfect. There might be things you’re currently perceiving as mistakes or obstacles. You might even be just a little uncomfortable with where you are right now! But that’s all okay.

Taking a break will just allow you to sink back into appreciating who you are and where you are instead of rallying against it. Plus once you can manage to be grateful again for your life the way it is, you’ll be that much more powerful when you come back to your manifesting!



So tell me: how are you going to start manifesting your happy? What do you need to shift to stop feeling overwhelmed and start becoming magnetic again?


If there’s only one take-away you have today, make it this: remember to keep your manifesting fun! You create your world with the energy you put out there. So the more fun you have in the process, the better your results will be!

Good luck my darling! Thank you so much for reading & let me know how it goes in the comments below!



PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about how to stop manifesting the opposite of what you want or this one about why negative emotions aren’t the enemy.



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Manifest Your Happy! How To Create Your Best Life & Have Fun Doing It

Manifest Your Happy! How To Create Your Best Life & Have Fun Doing It

VIDEO: Make Happiness Your New Habit

by: Jenn

It’s time to shift the way we THINK about happiness! Most of us think we’ll feel happy if the things around us just happen to line up perfectly. But the truth is, we can create happiness at any time! Plus the more you practice feeling happy the easier it will get.



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