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5 Things You Cannot Manifest

by: Jenn

Manifesting is so exciting! After all, who doesn’t want do design a life they’re wildly obsessed with? But there is something you #manifestationjunkies have to watch out for: that’s trying to manifest the impossible.

Look, I’m not someone who wants to rain on your parade! My job here on this site is truly to empower you and motivate you to start consciously creating your own life.

In general, I want to focus on what you can do instead of what you can’t! But I do get asked about these topics from time to time so I thought it would be helpful to do an entire post about it.

Sometimes the things we’re trying to manifest simply fall outside of our own power.

So if you’re asking for something big and you’re feeling frustrated or stuck, perhaps it’s time to check and see if your intention falls into one of these un-manifest-able categories.

Of course, I’m not getting in the way of your free will. That means you can go right on ahead and attempt any of these things if you’re truly determined to. I certainly won’t be stopping you! But I also want to explain why you might not find success.

So let’s get clear about what those things are so that you can get back to focusing on the things you CAN manifest:

The 5 Things You Cannot Manifest

Things You Can’t Manifest #1:

The Laws Of The Universe

I love to tell people they can manifest anything they want in life! But that’s not entirely the truth. There are some very solid laws of the universe that simply can not be violated, no matter how much you desire them to be.

Even with all the faith in the world, you cannot change the laws of physics. You can’t be in two places at once. (Well, maybe while you’re dreaming but that’s another story.) You can’t fly. You can’t paint the sky green!

This might all sound ridiculous but it’s very much worth mentioning. While I don’t run into that many people trying to fly, honestly some of the things that I see people trying to manifest are essentially the same thing!

There’s a big difference between trying to manifest a beautiful life for yourself and trying to rearrange reality to suit your ego. So ask yourself: are you trying to change the past? Are you fighting hard against something that’s already happened? No amount of manifesting in the world can change history! We all just have to accept the world for what it is and work forwards from there. There’s no point in banging your head against a brick wall about something that’s already set in stone.

Things You Can’t Manifest #2:

Other People

You have an incredible gift here on earth: total and complete autonomy over your own life!

The only problem? Everyone else has that same gift too!

Yup! That means attempting to control the people around you is just violating their own free will. Trying to make people do things solely for your benefit will often meet with mixed results. Changing someone’s thoughts, feelings and behaviors is an incredibly difficult thing to do–and if you do manage to succeed, it will have it’s consequences.

This most often comes up when people are trying to manifest a specific person to fall in love with them! Again, I won’t flat-out tell you not to attempt it. But truly think about the consequences of your actions. If the person you’re trying to manifest is already in another relationship, then you’re actually affecting three people, not just one! (That’s why I always suggest trying to manifest the best person for you instead of messing with other people’s lives.)

Things You Can’t Manifest #3:

Your Own Karmic Path

Certain elements of our life have been set in stone. These are our karmic paths. Many of the circumstances and obstacles we face were chosen specifically for us to experience! So no amount of manifesting can change them.

You chose to come into this life, in the time and body that you did. We’ve also chosen our parents (yup!) and most of the important people in our life. These are our soul families: people we’ve incarnated here with over and over again.

Our karmic plan also involves our eventual death. Some day our number will come up and manifesting cannot get you out of it! In Western culture, there’s a lot of hand wringing about this fact. Everyone fears the unknown and death is the biggest unknown of all! We also fear pain and suffering. So it’s natural that some people will try to manifest away their own end. However, that just won’t work!

So why not switch the focus back to what you can control? You can manifest health and an amazing body and all those wonderful things. Choose to live the best life possible in the time we have here (and in fact remembering that it’s short will put so much of life into true perspective).

Things You Can’t Manifest #4:

Other People’s Karmic Paths

As we already touched on, you can’t manifest for anyone else anyway! (If they don’t want to do put in the work, that’s their choice!) But to take it one step further, you definitely cannot no-way no-how change someone else’s karmic path.

That means you can’t change someone’s core struggles, their families, their children or their deaths. It’s so tempting to think that because we love someone we know what’s best for them! But some of the elements of life are simply not our human hands to control.

Sometimes we have to say goodbye. Sometimes we have to let people hurt themselves. Sometimes we have to love someone enough to let them figure life out for themselves. It can be tough to not want to interfere in the life of a loved one but at the end of the day, we’re all on our own path. We all enter and exit the world alone and that means we can only ever shift what’s going on inside of us.

If you’re desperately trying to “fix” someone else, this can be a tough lesson! But you will find so much peace when you step back rather than trying to change the immovable.

Things You Can’t Manifest #5:

The Details

The more complicated you make manifesting, the more difficult it’s going to be! While most of us know this, I still see so many people who not only want to manifest something but also want to control all the details around how it shows up. And that, my darling, is just Too. Darn. Much.

Typically, when we’re trying to control so much of the world, it’s because we don’t truly believe in ourselves or the Universe. If you’ve ever encountered a control-freak in real life, you know that there are some fundamental trust issues going on beneath the surface! The same applies to manifesting.

The attachment to controlling every detail is a sign that you’re simply not in alignment. You cannot let go and trust because you fundamentally believe if you do, things will fall apart. That’s a pretty exhausting way to go through life and a very poor place to try to manifest from.

So if you’re spending time designing all the the details of your manifesting intention, it’s time to take a step back. You have to leave some room for the magic to surprise you and that’s awfully difficult when you’re micromanaging everything!

Ready to go from thinking about your dreams to actually making them happen? Check out my Manifestation Journaling Masterclass & get the scoop on the EXACT method I use to manifest daily!

I hope this post sheds some light on the limitations we must all face in this human world! Again, this isn’t intended to be a Negative Nelly post. Rather, I’d just like to shift your focus back to what you can control rather than wasting your time and energy on the things you can’t!

Thank you so much for reading and, as always, let me know your thoughts and questions below!

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Are You Manifesting The Opposite Of What You Want?

by: Jenn

You’ve done everything right. You’ve set your intention. You’ve put it out there. And you’re waiting patiently for your manifesting wish to show up.

The only problem?

Right now, it seems like you’re getting the very opposite of what you actually wanted.

So how is that possible? When you’ve followed the rules and done the work, could it be possible that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for you?

In short, the answer is no.

To explain further, let’s start by going back to the basics of the Law of Attraction.

You’re always manifesting, whether you’re consciously trying to or not.

So if you think you’re getting the opposite of what you really want, the first thing to do is to understand that the Law is working with you all the time.

You’re not unlucky or just not talented. And you certainly don’t suck! ????

We all have the exact same tools to work with!

However, there are some common traps that might interfere with getting what you want.

But before you freak out take heart! Above all, the manifesting process is all about mind over matter.

If your attitude or beliefs aren’t in alignment, then you’re going to be manifesting something other than what you really want.

Figuring out what has gone wrong isn’t about looking outside! It’s always about looking inside.

So don’t fret! This is all stuff that only you can control.

So if you’re feeling like you’re manifesting the opposite of what you want, it’s time to dive in and do a little Law of Attraction troubleshooting.

6 Reasons Why You Might Be Manifesting The Opposite Of What You Want

Manifesting The Opposite Reason #1:

You Need To Create Space

Sometimes in order for something new to show up for us, we need to create space for it. Trust that this is not a mistake but actually part of the process!

There are some hard limits to this human life. Our homes are finite. The amount of time we have in a day or our lifetime is limited. So we can’t keep adding more things on top of what we already have. We have to trade out some of the things that aren’t working for us for ones that do.

When things start to exit your life stage left, it’s easy to get fooled into thinking that something has gone wrong! But relax! Everything happens with divine wisdom and timing. Deeply know that there are forces much wiser than you at work behind the scenes. So keep surrendering to the process, instead of freaking out and trying to stop it!

Manifesting The Opposite Reason #2:

Your Manifesting Is Only Just Beginning

When things start to go wrong, your manifesting journey has only just begun! Can you set aside your fears and believe with your whole being? Can you look at evidence to the contrary and still know that you’re going to get what you want? Because this whole process is about exactly that!

If you’re panicking and experiencing fear around your intention, you’ve fallen out of alignment. So set aside some time to reconnect with your desire and your faith (in both the Universe and yourself). The Law of Attraction exactly knows what you’re feeling deep down inside. So if you’re operating from a place of fear, you’re dialing up the Universe to place your fears right in front of you!

The mental switch is inside all up to you. Take some time to visualize and feel into your happy imagined future. Remember that feeling always comes before the having! So if you’ve stepped out of your deep knowing and into fear, then you know what to do.

Manifesting The Opposite Reason #3:

You’re Actually Focused On What You Don’t Want

Another reason that you might not be getting what you want is that you’re actually focusing on what you don’t want more than on what you want.

Very often people think they’re focusing on what they want, but they’re actually thinking about what they don’t want much more! Again, this is a matter of tuning into yourself and your real feelings and expectations about what’s going to happen for you.

For example, you’ve set the intention to make a certain amount of money this month. But the end of the month is nearing and the money hasn’t shown up. So you start thinking more and more about how it’s not here!

Your expectation is everything! So if that sneaky little inner voice keeps saying “This will never work for me” then guess what? You’re right!

Start by sending yourself some love and compassion. Losing faith is not the end of the world! To fix it, focus on being grateful for everything you already have and you’ll flow easily back into the feeling of having instead of lack.

Manifesting The Opposite Reason #4:

You’re Future Focused

Another common issue is envisioning your wish in the future instead of the present moment. If you’re imagining your intention coming true at some future date, it will continue to remain right there–in the future!

Manifesting isn’t about thinking ahead. It’s about creating the feeling of having in the present moment. So if you’re wishing long-term, it’s time to turn your attention to what it would feel like to have your wish right now.

Visualize it as being real. Visualize what it would really feel like to have your wish be part of your reality, as a part of your everyday life. If you can make it feel as real and as tangible as if you had it right now, you’ll be back on the right manifesting path.

Manifesting The Opposite Reason #5:

The Excitement Has Worn Off

Excitement or exhilaration is the Fool’s Gold of the manifesting world! It can be easy to confuse excitement with high-vibrational energy. But in reality, excitement is not a long-term emotional state.

Losing your excitement about your desire is definitely not a sign that your manifesting isn’t working! It’s easy to confuse waning excitement with thinking you’re doing something wrong but the two are actually very different.

Too much excitement is actually a sign that you’re still far from being aligned with what you want. Even when your intention comes true, you won’t stay in the excitement zone forever!

It’s only when your desire feels normal–when it feels natural, when it feels expected–that you can be in alignment with your desire coming true! So again, focus on how it would really feel for your wish to be part of your world and not on those fleeting Lotto Winner-feelings.

Manifesting The Opposite Reason #6:

You’re Not Ready To Let Go Of Where You Are

Sometimes while we think and say we want a change, deep down inside we’re actually pretty darn comfy staying exactly where we are! This becomes obvious when your actions are interfering with your intention.

Here’s an example: Say you’re looking to manifest a new relationship. But every weekend you’re spending out with your friends gleefully talking about everything that’s supposedly wrong with the men in your city.

Do you see the disconnect? While on one hand, you’re totally unhappy with where you are, on the other you’re also deeply enjoying it. You get to go out and bond with others over it. You get to one-up each other with your tales of woe. Talking about the shitty situation has actually become part of your routine!

If you’re offering these types of mixed messages to the Universe, your true desire is getting lost in the shuffle. First, you need to look at the dark side and figure out exactly what you’re getting out of not being where you want to be. After that, it’ll be easier to move into alignment with your desires, dreams and actions all focused on the same ultimate goal.

Ready to go from thinking about your dreams to actually making them happen? Check out my Manifestation Journaling Masterclass & get the scoop on the EXACT method I use to manifest daily!

For me, the coolest thing about manifesting is knowing that it’s always under your own control! So even if it looks like you’re manifesting the opposite of what you want, take heart and tune into yourself. The power is always within you.

Thank you so much for being here & have a beautiful week. ????

5 Things You Cannot Manifest