Jenn Stevens | Spiritual Life + Business Coach
Are YOU looking for love? Whether it’s Valentine’s Day or not, love is one of the topics I get asked about the most! And the good news is YES–there’s a lot you can do (even while you’re single) to get yourself in the vibe of love and therefore attract more of it to you! So today I’m sharing 3 steps to a LOVE mindset to help you attract in your next big love!
Thank you so much for watching!
There’s a reason we love romance books and rom-coms. We love love. It’s simply human nature to want someone to share your life, heart and soul with!
So it’s no wonder really that manifesting LOVE is my top request from you, dear readers.
Having a loving relationship in your life will always be one of the most common life goals! And there’s no shame in that. It’s basic human nature.
Of course, I’m fully committed to helping you manifest your desires.
So of course I’m happily committed to helping you manifest a relationship too.
Please know that this is totally possible for you!
Because whether it’s your long-lost love, current crush or a mystery person you’ve never met before, love can be hiding around almost any corner.
But before we get started, there’s just one thing I really want you to know today and that is:
The truth is love is available inside of you at all times. And the more you tap into that energy, the more love you’ll attract in the world around you.
As always, I use the Law of Attraction as an empowering experience. There’s no waiting when everything starts inside of you, right?
I also don’t want anyone to sit around waiting for someone to complete them or save them. If that’s what you’re really looking for, then it’s time to start doing that work all on your own.
But when you’re truly ready for long-lasting loving companionship, then you’re also ready to try out this step-by-step system to start calling in the One!
Again, craving a loving relationship is totally normal–and overall it’s an awesome manifesting goal to have! But, as I always say, you can have anything in the world as long as you know why you want it. So it’s time to ask yourself honestly: why are you really looking for love?
If you want a partner to travel through life with, wonderful! That’s totally cool. But if in your heart you’re actually looking for someone to save you (from your shitty job, finances, roommates, family etc.) then it’s time to do a little work to free yourself from those situations.
Similarly, if you’re trying to call in a relationship because your ex just got engaged, because you just think you should be in one by now or because you want your life to look great on Instagram, be honest about that. It’s not that you can’t call in a relationship in those situations but it might take a bit more work if your core vibration is fear, jealousy or anger.
Of course, it’s always best to come to love from a genuine sense of caring and wanting to be together, instead of from neediness or fear! So if this is resonating with you, then you know it’s time to put in some inner work to resolve the underlying issue.
Clarity is key, to life, to love, to everything. Because if you really want the life of your dreams but you have to put in the work of figuring out what that is first!
Yet I still come across so many manifesters who haven’t actually bothered to figure out what they want. They want to manifest “love” or meeting “the One” but when you dig a little deeper, they’re not entirely sure what that looks like.
So let me ask you this: if you don’t know what you’re after, how is the Universe supposed to fulfill your request?
Instead of fearing this process, it’s time to get excited about placing our cosmic order! So I invite you to grab a notebook and start brainstorming. What are you looking for in a partner?
Write down everything that springs to mind at first (you can always edit it down later if need be). And remember that this is just a dreaming session right now so don’t hold back and–for the Universe’s sake–don’t censor yourself! Capture everything that springs to your mind instead of what you think you “should” be looking for.
You can write down as many details as you like (tall, dark and handsome etc.) but it’s also important to think about the big picture. How do you want this person to make you feel? Think about communication, emotional intelligence and common interests or activities. Right now you might think owning a nice car is a must-have but that’s an external quality (and that stuff can always come and go!) However, it’s hard to change someone who’s a non-communicative homebody into someone who’ll happily accompany you to your friends parties.
Knowing what will really make you happy is a powerful exercise in itself and will automatically make you more able to “see” what you want when you come across it.
Now that you have your list in hand, it’s time to look at it with fresh eyes. It’s sounds a little crazy at first but the best way to attract what you want in a relationship is to become it yourself.
Of course, this only makes sense from a Law of Attraction standpoint. You get back what you put out there. So the question is: what are you putting out there?
At the end of the day, a lot of the attraction in love is about completion. While birds of a feather do flock together, sometimes we’re attracted to people because of what they represent: freedom, strength, youth etc. Our subconscious looks at them and (like in When Harry Met Sally) says “I’ll have what she’s having!” But instead of doing the work ourselves, we go about falling in love with that person instead.
So whatever it is that you’re ultimately looking for: think about how you can better provide that to yourself. Maybe you need to work on your health regime or start boosting your bank account. There’s a reason you want the things you do! Uncovering the reason is actually reveals an awful lot about us.
Again, with the Law of Attraction, you always attract what you put out there. So if you’re looking for love, it’s time to start working on your love vibrations!
The truth is romantic relationships just give us an excuse to open up our heart chakra. But that experience is ultimately inside of us. Yup! Those ooey-gooey-good falling in love vibe is actually our own creation. We just don’t exercise that part of us unless we have a human excuse!.
But don’t worry. I’m not suggesting that you have to do hours upon hours of heart chakra opening exercises to get into that state. The point here is simply to understand that we are the ones who control our experience of love. So why not start embracing and emitting all those loving vibes right now?
This isn’t nearly as weird as it sounds at first! You can spread those vibes around without anyone being the wiser (on a conscious level anyway). Make it a habit throughout your day to send love to the people around you: your boss, the cashier at the grocery store, your roommate, whoever. You can do this on the fly or make it more formal ceremony by conducting a Mettā (loving kindness) meditation. Start to look at your love energy as a gift and get ready to bestow it on the world!
While those around you might never be aware of what you’re doing, just sit back and watch what happens! This really does make a difference in how people perceive you. Ultimately, the more love you give the more you’ll get so don’t hesitate to give yours to the world!
Sometimes saying yes to your happiness also means saying no to certain opportunities. That means sticking to your guns and focusing on what you ultimately want in a relationship! Not every person who arrives in your life will be that person so you have to take an honest look at what’s in front of you.
Ladies, listen up, because this is especially for you: people don’t change. Too many of us have a fairytale view of what love can do. (“He’ll stop acting like that once he knows how much I care!”) Thinking someone will magically change into who you want is living in denial–and one of fastest ways to block your own relationship manifesting.
Of course, humans are still gonna human! They’ll make mistakes and not show up as their most brilliant selves at times. But it’s crucial to understand the difference between a mistake and someone who is just not emotionally invested in your relationship (like…at all). A fairytale that exists inside your own mind is just that…a fairytale!
So be honest with yourself and take a good look at what’s happening in your world. If someone isn’t worth your time, then don’t be afraid to move on! Saying no is often the most magnetic move of all. Your dream person is waiting for you–but you’ll just be waiting longer to find them if you’re wasting your time with Mr Okay But Definitely Not Right.
I hope this post changes the way you look at love and empowers you to go out there and start creating it for yourself today! You deserve love my darling. So go out there and start creating it.
PS – Want more? You might also want to check out this post about how unconditional love can change your life or this one about the top 5 most common love blocks.
