Are you wishing you were more confident? Do you think that confidence is just something you are born with?
You’re not alone my friend! In fact, confidence is something I struggled with for years. But the good news is that confidence isn’t just something you’re born with.
It’s actually something you can create and today I’m sharing a lesson on how you can start creating more confidence starting right now!
In This Episode:
+ Stop wishing for confidence and get inspired to CREATE it!
+ How confidence is important for happiness & manifestation
+ Find out the one thing that will boost your confidence, no matter what else is happening in your life
+ Much more!
Thank you so much for watching!
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Video Transcript:
are you struggling with confidence you’re not alone and today i am answering a question from a reader that is all about how to get more confidence so if you need a little confidence boost this episode is for you so keep watching
what’s up my friend and welcome back to another episode of ask a coach my name is jen stevens i’m a spiritual life and business coach and i am here to answer your questions about manifestation and mindset my intention is for you to become your most badass self and live your most empowered life so if that sounds like something you’re interested in then go ahead and hit that subscribe button today’s question is from megan and she writes dear jen i have been struggling mentally a bit over the past year and i’m really wondering how i can start to get my confidence back do you have any tips and yes i love this question so much confidence is such an important thing that i think most of us look at in the wrong way even this question is kind of going down the wrong path because it kind of makes it seem like confidence is something out here that you have to run after and go bring into your life so the first point that i want to remind everyone about today is that confidence is a muscle it is a skill it is something that you can build and you can start to do that at any point in time so i know the last year this whole corona time has been rocky for many people in so many different ways so if you are feeling a little bit behind right now i just want you to know that you are not alone and i know a lot of people are struggling like things are going back to normal at least in the united states not quite here yet in europe but i’ve seen people kind of feeling stressed out about them return to reality like we’re supposed to just go back and just feel better and feel like our old selves so i just want you to know that that isn’t the goal and of course we are all going to be changed we are all going to be a little bit different and it is okay for you to process whatever’s happened to you it is okay for you to be a little more cautious and feel a little bit more guarded so just give yourself that space to be different to process whatever’s happened to you but do not make those things mean something bad about you this is the problem that we all tend to fall into and i have done this over and over in my life and i know i’m not alone but we tend to think that when something bad happens to us um we take it personally and we make it mean something about ourselves and we let that thing deflate our confidence so this is a really common way to look at the world this is the way we were taught to look at the world that there is a cause out there that makes us feel a certain way and that we are kind of at the mercy of waiting for our circumstances to be absolutely perfect before we can go ahead and feel good about ourselves it is important to understand that whatever has happened to you over this past corona year you do not have to take it personally even if you lost your job or lost a relationship or something big like that happened in your life you do not have to make it mean that i’m less of a person that is a really big trap and when we build our confidence on those outside things this is exactly what happens when one is taken away then what’s left if we build all of our confidence over our career title or a job or a bank account and those things change then of course our confidence drops so what’s the solution how do you stop looking outside of yourself for that confident feeling so the big check with confidence it’s really all about self-trust can you trust yourself to make it through this presentation this day at work through this relationship through whatever it is in your life and so when you start to look at this a little bit differently it becomes so much easier for you to realize your part in creating your confidence so we can begin this self-trust process in a really small step you can just challenge yourself to do something a little bit outside of your comfort zone a little bit on the scary side something that makes you feel a little uncomfortable and just commit to doing that and it doesn’t have to be anything big it can be as simple as going to a new cafe instead of going to the place you always went to it can be challenging yourself to go out on a date on tinder when you would rather just stay home it can be so many different things but the important thing to realize here it’s not about the cafe or going on a date or whatever it is that you’ve picked to be your thing but the more that you challenge yourself to take on these little tasks that feel a little bit scary and feel a little bit different the more that you will be able to see that you can make your way through them you can handle anything that’s coming your way you can become that person that starts to feel more confident because the more you know that you can trust yourself the more you develop that self-trust muscle the more confident you will feel and that is confidence that is based on you your relationship with yourself showing up for yourself understanding that you can figure things out these are the things that will build your confidence over the long term and that cannot be taken away from you so yes we are re-emerging from lockdown re-emerging from corona times and yeah things might seem weird and scary and you might be a little bit of a changed person so i want you to pick something that feels a little bit out there and commit to doing that and then just make a new goal week after week that pushes you a little bit outside of your comfort zone and over time you are going to feel less fearful of doing new things and you are going to start to see your track record look at all these times i didn’t feel like doing something or i wanted to talk myself out of it or i really felt afraid of doing something and i went and did it anyway that is the key to real confidence and again that is something that you can take with you no matter what happens down the road corona no corona great job no great job your trust in yourself is the most important thing and this is a relationship that you’re building really your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship that you’ll have so you want to really build this solid foundation and everything else will come from that place so i hope that that answers your question and thank you so much for writing in and that’s it for today’s episode thank you for watching this video today i really appreciate you spending the time here in your busy week here with me there are no coincidences so there was some little nugget in here that you were meant to hear today and my challenge for you is to make sure that you take that with you and apply it to your life don’t just keep running and not actually applying what you’ve learned really make sure that you take this stuff and apply it and i promise you it will make a huge difference in your world so thank you again so much for watching if you enjoyed this please give me a thumbs up and other than that i will see you in next week’s ask a coach happy manifesting and i’m wishing you so much confidence
