No matter how good at manifesting you are, eventually something “bad” is going to happen to you.
So let’s get this straight: it’s not because you did anything wrong or that you deserved it. It’s just that the “negative” is a part of everyone’s life.
However, it’s up to you what you do with those events. You can let them define you and weigh on you for the rest of your life. Or you can learn emotional alchemy, turn that sh*t into gold and get back to the good stuff with lightning speed!
Today I’m sharing how you can process the negative so that you can move onwards and upwards ASAP. This is a necessary life skill for everyone so be sure to watch!
In This Episode:
+ Find out what emotional alchemy is & what it can do for you
+ Shift your mindset from victim state to empowered
+ Get control back no matter what is happening in your life!
+ Much more!
Thank you so much for watching!
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no matter how good you are at manifesting something so-called bad is going to come into your life at a certain point well today’s video is all about how to deal with that and indeed how to take these negative experiences and turn them from something bad into something good so if you are wondering why something has happened to you and you’re not really figuring it out you feel like you’re a victim and you’re really having a hard time dealing with it then today’s video is for you so keep watching
hello beautiful and welcome back my name is jen stevens i am a holistic manifestation coach and i’d love to welcome you to my youtube channel today this is where i create a brand new free training for you every single week all about improving your life by using the power of your mind so if you are all about up leveling your life achieving your goals and using manifestation to create a beautiful reality for yourself then you’ll want to go ahead and hit that subscribe button so today we are talking about negative things because it is a fact of life no matter how good you are at manifesting no matter how many intentions you set no matter how many things you achieve in your life something bad or unexpected is inevitably going to pop up for you so i know that this creates a little bit of fear in the manifestation world because of course people like me are always teaching you that you can create your reality by what you’re thinking however that does not mean that you can create a perfect reality that does not mean that you can get out of all of the normal problems of being a human so the first thing i want you to know is that if something has gone wrong in your world it isn’t your fault like nothing has happened nothing has gone wrong you didn’t mess up and now you’re being punished so that is where a lot of people tend to take this line of thinking they feel like i brought this on myself i manifested something bad and being punished and of course that is not a good healthy way of looking at life so the way you need to think about manifestation is that you get to consciously pick things that you are going for but that doesn’t mean that it’s always going to be a smooth journey that doesn’t mean that you’re necessarily always going to manifest exactly what you want sometimes you know you might think you’re going in one direction and end up going in a completely different direction and that is just a normal part of life sometimes we have expectations about how things are going to play out like we get this really amazing job and we think this is it this is our dream job or we fall in love and get in this relationship and think okay this is the one this is where i’m meant to be and then you know the company closes or the person dumps you and then you end up thinking oh no like i had everything that i wanted and now it’s not here anymore so obviously i did something to repel it that is a big trap that i really need to caution you away from falling into you know sometimes things in life don’t last as long as we expect them to but that doesn’t mean anything has gone wrong sometimes a relationship is not meant to last sometimes you have learned the lessons and gotten what you needed to out of it in a shorter time frame than you thought sometimes the dream job is not actually the dream job but just you being there is an experience in itself just you being in that relationship was an experience in itself so it’s never that you lost time or wasted time or did the wrong thing it is all part of you growing and actually it’s showing that you’re getting very close to where you want to go when these situations arise so if something negative has happened to you and you’re currently in that phase of feeling like self-blame and feeling like you brought it on yourself i just really want you to get out of that and just start to remember that it’s all part of a bigger picture we are humans we are human beings we are spiritual beings having a temporary human experience and human life it has a lot to do with lack so i know i’m always teaching about living up to your spiritual potential here but human reality you know there there’s a lot of stuff that goes you know that we call bad that goes hand in hand with that so i just want you to remember that this isn’t like some horrible reflection on you this is just part of the game of being human like we’re gonna lose things we’re going to experience these negative things we’re going to have this limitation in our life but that limitation again it’s not there to punish you it is in fact just the other side of the happiness and joy coin if all of our relationships were wonderful all the time i don’t think we have any way of really getting closer to certain people than other people like we need to know what a bad relationship is like so that we really know what a good one is and we value the good ones it is all part of the learning process and that brings me to the point that i want to make today is that you can turn any single experience into a growth experience when you’re just in the middle of experiencing heartbreak or loss of course i’m not gonna rush you through that process like give yourself time to grieve give yourself time to feel sad give yourself time to be angry and feel those things because if you just start to rush into positive thinking you’re not really dealing with those feelings and those feelings are going to pop up probably at a very inopportune time and somewhere down the road so it’s really important that you feel your feelings you allow yourself to feel sad sorry for yourself angry whatever for you know a week a month however long you feel like you need to do that the trick is do not let yourself get stuck there just because you feel sad right now doesn’t mean you need to stay sad forever just because you feel angry right now doesn’t mean you need to stay angry forever so it’s time to start to think about your life as you being an emotional alchemist so you have the power to turn that [ __ ] into gold you have the power to take a so-called negative experience and turn it into something beautiful that doesn’t just happen like just you staying sad or staying angry doesn’t necessarily lead to this kind of growth so you have to start to challenge yourself to rise to the occasion and the question that i always get this ball rolling in my own mind is what is the lesson i learned here and what have i learned from this experience so again even the experiences that are bad and negative they teach us something about us even if that lesson is just when i see the first red flag i should learn to trust myself like that is a valuable lesson in itself right self trust is so important we think that we trust ourselves but often we don’t really see that trust in action until it is out there in the real world we can fall out of the patterns of self trust we think we’re trusting ourselves but really we’re just wanting something to work that maybe isn’t working as long as you hold on to the lesson as long as you deeply integrate that lesson you are elevating yourself beyond the situation and that is the only way that you are going to truly prevent yourself from experiencing this thing again so when the lesson stops appearing in our life that’s when we know we’ve learned it so if you are falling into the same patterns like getting your heart broken in the same kind of way over and over again you know that that lesson isn’t really sticking you know the next time that happens that there is something more that you need to take from the situation for a next time so one of the things that can happen to us because we’re human is because we really want something to work and it didn’t work we think oh if i just try harder or stick around longer or if i’m nicer or if i do this more then maybe next time it’ll work so it is really important to realize again if you’re in this repeating pattern that it’s not about that it is probably about you setting a boundary it is probably about you saying no to something it is probably about you showing up in the relationship or in the job in a different way than you were before again we’re thinking about emotional alchemy we’re thinking about how to take this experience and really turn it into something amazing right when you get the lesson you stop repeating the pattern when you really integrate it and the next time this comes up you do the other thing you take the opposite direction you won’t find yourself back in feeling the same dark place anymore and that’s really when you know that you have done the work that is when you know you have elevated if you are looking at everything in your life as this is a punishment because i was negative and i was worrying about this and then it happened you’re probably not going to get the lesson you are probably going to think that next time if i’m just more positive if i do this better then it’s going to work and i can guarantee you i can tell you from personal experience that that isn’t how it works thinking of yourself as an emotional alchemist is really the key to creating massive transformation in your life it is not about just being happy 24 7 and never having anything go wrong in your life the thing that creates a really happy human is learning how to deal with and thrive even when the problems are coming your way when you can really take that with you if you can understand that the point is not just pure happiness all the time the point is growth then you can start to look for the growth in any situation you can look for the growth in your breakup you can look for the growth in the bank account that’s not where you want it to be at you can look for the growth in your business in your job in your weight loss journey and whatever it is and when you take that growth and you apply it that is when you really start to dramatically shift if you’re repeating old patterns if you’re finding yourself in the same situation just take that as a sign that there is something there that you need to figure out you need to alchemize you need to work on it you need to take that lesson and more importantly apply that lesson to your life for the next time bad things are always going to happen there is always going to be a downside even when you are manifesting things into your life there’s always a downside that comes with everything for example mo money mo problems like if you think you’re going to solve everything in your life by having a ton of money you’re probably going to be gravely disappointed when you finally get that money the problems are still going to come in and living our life thinking that we can somehow get out of this this very human reality we’re just selling ourselves short on our own ability to be happy you get to be happy no matter what and your attitude to what comes your way is the key to everything for today i’m inviting you to start to think of yourself as an emotional alchemist somebody who can turn the crap in life into gold do not get stuck in wallowing do not get stuck in self-blame do not get stuck in perfectionist fantasies about your future do your best in every situation to learn and grow and you will always be headed in a better direction in the end so that is it for today’s training thank you so much for being here if you want to learn more about holistic manifestation i invite you to come over and check out my program recode it is the place where i’m teaching you how to manifest through trauma healing and shadow work i’m teaching you how to manifest money manifest love and so much more so come on over and check that out if you’re interested if you like this video today please go ahead and give me a like and of course i will be back here in next week’s training so until then i’m wishing you an amazing week remember you are stronger than anything that comes your way and what you do now is the only thing that matters so thank you again for watching and i will see you soon