Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Life
one-on-one coaching for women who are ready to get out of their own way
- Have you spent months (or YEARS) complaining about the same things?
- Do you feel like no matter what you do something always gets in the way of your progress?
- Do you have a loud Inner Critic Voice, struggle with perfectionism, or do you just constantly talk yourself out of what you really want in life?
Self-sabotage is sneaky.
So sneaky in fact, that most of the time, we don’t even realize it’s happening.
Instead, we just feel like something is uniquely wrong with us. Like we’re broken. Or like we are just doomed to have unsatisfying relationships, and feel dissatisfied with life.
Now Imagine...
- How would it feel to feel genuinely good-enough?
- To TRULY have your own back?
- To set boundaries, communicate your needs, and to go after your dreams?
This is all 100% available for you. Yes YOU! And I can help guide you there.
Look I get it: you know what you want in life.
But when it comes to the execution, something always gets in the way. You’re constantly looping on the same old problems and frankly you’re sick and tired of feeling stuck.
You can’t help but feel like something is missing and you have the inkling that something is YOU.
You’re not alone my darling. I’ve been there too. I see this everyday and I can help you.
What Is Self-Sabotage?
When you want something but you secretly get in your own way.
(ie. dating the wrong people, spending too much time online, shopping addictions, telling yourself you’re not good enough, complaining & Victim Mode, etc.)
I saw someone say there’s no such thing as self-sabotage-only self-protection. And that’s true. It’s not like there’s a secret inner asshole that wants the WORST for you. But there is a part of you that wants exactly what you think you DON’T want.
Uncover that & you’ll be a long way towards shifting it.
The roots of self-sabotage are always subconscious–which is why it’s so tricky to fix this, especially by yourself.
Sneaky Signs of Self-Sabotage
- Secretly pushing away the things you want most in life
- Lack of boundaries or letting Energy Vampires/Narcissists into your life
- Less-than-spectacular romantic relationships or friendships
- Constantly feeling resentful or angry
- Constantly playing small
- Comparision-itis and feeling less than everyone else
- Perfectionism and procrastination
- Chronic people-pleasing and codependency
- Feeling generally dissatisfied with life or like there's something wrong with you that is preventing you from having the kind of happiness everyone else has
Let's work on creating a new inner world to match the reality you want to create.
Hey there! I'm Jenn
After my marriage abruptly ended, my life as I knew it was over. Relationship, job, home, all suddenly gone.
How exactly had I ended up here?
While I definitely got stuck in the blame game for a while, the truth eventually made its way to the surface: the crime scene of my life had MY OWN finger prints all over it. I had to face the hard fact that, in many ways, I had created this disaster.
(Self-sabotage galore.)
But–as it usually happens–that ending became my beginning.
I became determined to heal and set myself free from those old patterns–and at the same time, I fell in love with a whole new question:
What do I want my life to look like next?
The short story: I sold everything and moved to Europe. I started my business. I wrote a book. And I became deeply responsible for creating my own happiness, all on my terms.
I’m not talking about self-sabotage from a preachy perfect place. I talk about it because I lived it, over and over again, until I’d finally had enough.
Maybe you’ve had enough too? If so, let’s chat!
I use a combination of my intuition with powerful healing modalities like polyvagal theory, CBT, bilateral stimulation, and much more. I respond to the unique needs of each of my clients which means that no two sessions are alike.
My Mission:
It’s my mission to help women heal their subconscious patterns of self-sabotage and low-self-worth.
You’re not stuck or at a rock bottom because you deserve to be.
You’re there because something in your subconscious mind is holding you back from everything that you really want.
It’s not about trying harder. (Let’s face it. You’ve already done that!)
It’s about going DEEPLY inwards, noticing our wounds, and nourishing ourselves back to our original fullness.
Private coaching can help you to:
- Express yourself easily
- Get your needs and desires met (even if right now you're not sure what those even are)
- Stop self-abandoning and focusing on others to the detriment of yourself
- Stop the perfectionism and over-functioning that leaves you exhausted and bitter in the end
- Kick perfectionism and people-pleasing to the curb
- Stop relying on compulsively seeking compliments or validation (so that you can feel good about yourself)
- Silence your Inner Mean Girl instead of letting her repeat every negative comment you ever heard growing up
- No longer settle for relationships, friendships, or jobs that leave you depleted
- Throw out the rule book for life and design the life that you really want
Themes We Might Explore:
Here are some issues that I can help you out with:
- Ditching your good girl programming
- Recovering from codependence and people-pleasing
- Stop over-functioning or perfectionism
- Stand up for yourself (without being a jerk)
- Prioritizing yourself & becoming your own true BFF
- Empowered dating
- Recovering from codependence and people-pleasing
- Strengthening your inner self-trust muscles
- Healing from societal, familial, or external sources of shame
- Become the authority in your life in a world that wants to you to stay a dependent little girl
Ready For Your Inner Tune-Up?
Choose Your Medicine
Private Coaching
It’s time to invest in your future happiness. Let’s go deep and powerfully heal and repattern your life so that you feel calm, content, and confident.
Coaching is a six-month commitment.
Includes private weekly coaching calls, powerful homework, and custom-designed healing resources as required.
Pay In Full
Pay Monthly
One-Time Session (60 min)
While I’m a firm believer in the power of long-term coaching, sometimes you just need a quick session to get a new perspective fast.
You come to this session with one particular area of interest. Together, we deep dive into it, cognitive reframing (to give you your power back), and doing some form of healing work. I typically create a custom hypnosis, bilateral stimulation, or EFT process for you after the session that you can use to keep doing the work on your own.
It’s like giving that one area of your brain a deep cleaning and refresh.
$222
Not sure if we're a good fit?
Book a Q&A session ($22). This is where we have a quick 20-minute chat to see if we’re a good fit and you can ask any extra questions that you have.
Please Note
Once you book a session or package, I will reach out to you at your Paypal email address to set up a meeting time.
I am currently located in Berlin, Germany – meaning I work with my North American clients exclusively in the mornings (your time).