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9 Ways To Set Healthy Energy Boundaries

Some people are born naturally tuned into the energy of the world. But most of us have an awful lot of learning to do about how to set healthy energy boundaries.

We might appear to be solid creatures but we’re actually much more than that.

We’re energetic beings. We are literally made of vibration.

And as vibrations, we’re constantly exchanging our energy with the environment around us.

This is happening whether you’re aware of it or not!

I’m sure you can all think of a time where you talked to a friend who was in a bad mood and came away in a bad mood yourself!

It wasn’t really your bad mood. You just picked up on their energy and started to perceive it as your own.

Your energy is precious. It has a profound effect on how you feel and behave. So in order to not let other people’s energy rule your life, it’s important for you to learn how to protect and maintain it.

(If this all sounds a little scary, take heart! Energy can be dark and draining but it can also be bright and uplifting. It works both ways, so don’t think you’re constantly being bombarded only by negativity!)

So if you’re interested in learning how to protect your vibe and set healthy energy boundaries, today I’m sharing 9 high-vibe tips with you:

9 Ways To Set Healthy Energy Boundaries

Energy Boundaries Tip #1:

Tune Into Yourself

Energy maintenance always begins with simple self-awareness. You need to learn which situations (or people) are triggers for you. The only way to figure that out is by paying attention to your moods, thoughts and feelings.

As you move through your day, take a moment to check in on what you’re really feeling. I do this all the time, even in situations I’ve been looking forward to. Sometimes the party you were really excited about doesn’t actually feel that great!

Bottom line: the more you practice noticing your inner world, the faster you’ll be able to identify situations (and avoid) that aren’t serving you.

Energy Boundaries Tip #2:

Focus On Your Own Energy

Whether you’re an empath or not, many of us naturally pick up on the energy of the people around us. So it’s important to ask yourself “Is this feeling mine or someone else’s?” especially if some emotion has come up out of the blue. For instance, if you’re speaking to a friend about their stressful job you might find that you’re picking up on those feelings of stress, even when the stress has nothing to do with you.

Fortunately, simply becoming aware of the issue makes it easier for you push those external feelings aside. Empathy is a necessary element of human relationships but there’s no need for you to feel feelings that don’t belong to you!

It’s also important to be aware of this when you watch the news or media. While it’s important to be aware of what’s happening in the world, if you find you pick up too much of the anger and chaos, a self-imposed media break is a wonderful idea.

If after some practice you’re still finding it difficult to differentiate what’s what, try out this mantra: What’s yours is yours. What’s mine is mine. (Repeat!)

Energy Boundaries Tip #3:

Put Up A Shield

Sometimes we can’t entirely remove energy-sucking situations from our life. In those situations we need to rely on a little extra psychic protection.

An energy ritual is a quick way to do this. My favorite simply involves drawing a giant invisible zipper up your body, to protect your energy on the inside and keep any other energies out. It’s fast and easy enough to do every day before you leave the house or right after you get dressed for the day.

There are also physical objects that can help, like obsidian, black tourmaline or smoky quartz crystals. Carry one with you in your bag or consider a small piece of jewelry.

(Read more about how to work with crystals here.)

Energy Boundaries Tip #4:

Energy Cleansing

Your home is your castle and your refuge from your busy life. Day in and day out, you’re surrounded by the energy in your home. So it’s essential to keep it fresh and make sure that energy is positive! Think of this practice as energy hygiene and make it equally as important as your regular cleaning.

My two favorite options are using sage or palo santo. The smoke from either one is purifying and will shoo all any pesky negative vibes away! It’s also especially important to conduct a cleansing when you move into a new space, have had an illness or argument, or when you’ve had visitors in your space.

(You can read more about space clearing right here.)

Energy Boundaries Tip #5:

Limit Draining Situations

After some time tuning into yourself, you might begin to recognize that certain situations (or people) are draining for you. Remember, self-protection is not selfish! If you notice that certain people or things are draining you, it’s time to remove yourself or start to limit your interactions. You are not obligated to share your energy with anyone! Even if it’s an old friend or family member, you always have the right to set your boundaries and be loving to yourself.

And remember it’s not always the major relationships in our life that need addressing! Sometimes you might need to change seats in a movie theater or switch tables at a restaurant if you feel your energy suddenly goes off-kilter! It’s better to err on the side of caution; you don’t need to justify your inner instincts or feelings to anyone.

Energy Boundaries Tip #6:

Create A Time Limit

From time to time, we all have to do things that drain our time! Sometimes this is a matter of just noticing what’s draining us. (Maybe those Friday night after work drink sessions aren’t as fun as you’d like to think!) Other times this is just a practical way of handling things that we need to do. In either case, time limits help to create a safe energetic container for you!

Energy Boundaries Tip #7:

Concentrate On What Lifts You Up

Just as there are things that will drain you, there will also be people, places and things that naturally energize you! It’s important to notice what those things are for you and to try to incorporate more of them into you life.

(This almost seems too obvious to be included on this list but sometimes we all need a reminder to do the things that are good for us!)

The thing is many people put off the things they actually enjoy because they feel they need to earn it first, they feel guilt about enjoying it or they feel a need to punish themselves for something else. Never forget your happy zone is where you belong! So do yourself the favor of figuring out how to spend more time there.

Energy Boundaries Tip #8:

Be Mindful Of Obligation

Obligations occur when we do something because we feel we need to. It’s not coming from a desire within us. Obligations create rifts and resentment. Of course, there will always be times when we need to do things for other people in our life (relationships are based on give and take after all). But some commitments can take us into negative territory.

Just think about it this way: the more time you spend doing things you don’t want to do the less time you’ll have to spend on the things you actually want. Obligations are literal blocks for things we want to attract into our life, so minimize them where you can.

Energy Boundaries Tip #9:

Wash It All Away

When all else fails, go for the water cure! Water is incredibly healing and hugely beneficial for our energy. If you’ve been feeling sick, lethargic or depressed, hop on into that bath tub or shower! The natural energy of the water will wash away any negativity and leave you feeling somewhat back to normal.

While any bath or shower will do, the most potent methods are a salt water bath (use Epsom salts) or an ice-cold shower. For extra points, imagine the black negative energy washing off of you and swirling down the drain. (Byeeee!)

I hope this post helps you begin to become aware of your energy and about how to manage it. No one can do this work for you! Protecting yourself is a necessary component of self-love.

Thank you so much for joining me here today! Please remember to share if you enjoyed this.

Sending you all my love!

Jenn Stevens The Aligned Life

PS Looking for more? You might also want to check out this post about your home as a feedback loop or this one about feng shui for love.

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  1. Hi Jeen,
    Just love this post, thanks so much!

    By the way regardless all the amazing content, I could not avoid to feel unbalanced 🙂 with the lack of number 3!!!

    Love, light,

    1. You’re very welcome Silvia!

  2. Claudine Bulpitt says:

    Reading that was inspiring. I will now be more conscious of what is happening inside me and around me. Thank you Jenn

    1. You’re so welcome Claudine! ????

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